Plus sized (rant)

tiffielynn91

Lately i feel like not only bridal shops but clothing shops make plus sized girls feel ugly or deformed. i am in between regular and plus sized clothing. and all the cute clothes i want to try on they dont have them in plus size. lets take some store brands for example. the larger the waist the higher the rise. my mom is a 3/4 or a5/6 she can buy the same jeans (shes short like me) and they sit on her hips. but when i need them in an 13/14 or 15/16 they come above my belly button. i feel like saying IM FAT NOT A NUN... and i want to feel sexy too.. and swim suits.. why the hell dont they make them to cover the more well endowed girls? i am a 36 c not that big but i still spill out of swim suit tops. its ridiculous.. i hate it and im sick of feeling like i have some sort of disease because im not a size 2. gurrr. Now i can see why young girls have eating disorders. it sickens me. and i guess what makes me the maddest is that 3 years ago i was a size 8 and i could wear the cute clothes. gurrr. im just really having one of thoses days. 

StephLove12

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[QUOTE]Lately i feel like not only bridal shops but clothing shops make plus sized girls feel ugly or deformed. i am in between regular and plus sized clothing. and all the cute clothes i want to try on they dont have them in plus size. lets take some store brands for example. the larger the waist the higher the rise. my mom is a 3/4 or a5/6 she can buy the same jeans (shes short like me) and they sit on her hips. but when i need them in an 13/14 or 15/16 they come above my belly button. i feel like saying IM FAT NOT A NUN... and i want to feel sexy too.. <strong><u>and swim suits</u></strong>.. why the hell dont they make them to cover the more well endowed girls? i am a 36 c not that big but i still spill out of swim suit tops. its ridiculous.. i hate it and im sick of feeling like i have some sort of disease because im not a size 2. gurrr. Now i can see why young girls have eating disorders. it sickens me. and i guess what makes me the maddest is that 3 years ago i was a size 8 and i could wear the cute clothes. gurrr. im just really having one of thoses days. 
Posted by tiffielynn91[/QUOTE]

<div>Don't even get me started on PS swim suits...</div>

rmontpas

I am 5'4" so fairly short but they seem to think your leg length increases in proportion to your waist size.  I absolutely hate that.  I am not 8 feet tall!

brandif1026

I feel like I wear cute clothes.  It's more about knowing what's right for your body type.  Trust me, there are LOTS of stores that carry PS clothes that are attractive, they are not all high waisted pants and mumu dresses.  You just have to know what looks good on you.  I don't think what looks good on a size 4 will look good on a size 18, so I don't want my jeans to be the same as their's.  And I'm a firm believer in "just because it comes in your size, does NOT mean you should wear it".  Some clothes will just never look good on a PS girl the way they do on a non-PS girl. 

StephLove12

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[QUOTE]I feel like I wear cute clothes.  It's more about knowing what's right for your body type.  Trust me, there are LOTS of stores that carry PS clothes that are attractive, they are not all high waisted pants and mumu dresses.  You just have to know what looks good on you.  I don't think what looks good on a size 4 will look good on a size 18, so I don't want my jeans to be the same as their's.  And I'm a firm believer in <strong>"just because it comes in your size, does NOT mean you should wear it"</strong>.  Some clothes will just never look good on a PS girl the way they do on a non-PS girl. 
Posted by brandif1026[/QUOTE]
EXACTLY. 

SunriseAmber

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[QUOTE]I am 5'4" so fairly short but they seem to think your leg length increases in proportion to your waist size.  I absolutely hate that.  I am not 8 feet tall!
Posted by rmontpas[/QUOTE]


I swear I was just biitching about this to FI on sunday. I guess people think the bigger you are the taller you are. This is frustrating to no end!

bsidebella

I started doing more research on plus sized clothing stores when I got frustrated with clothes shopping. I have friends who are PS as well and have terrific style, so I say, "I just love your top/jacket/skirt. Where did you buy it?"

Torrid and Deb are great stores for PS clothes. Deb's PS bathing suits are adorable! I have a few bathing suits from there and they are cheap! They go up to size 28!

Also, go online. Some stores will sell plus sizes online but not carry them in the store (like Old Navy and Kohl's). If you order clothes and don't like the way they look, you can just return it to the store.

Edit: I am 4'11" and a size 14, so the pants thing I completely understand! I have to roll up my jeans all the time. I keep telling myself I will go to a tailor but I just don't have the time or money to hem a pair of jeans.

chickenbut143

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[QUOTE]I am 5'4" so fairly short but they seem to think your <strong>leg length increases in proportion to your waist size.</strong>  I absolutely hate that.  I am not 8 feet tall!
Posted by rmontpas[/QUOTE]

THIS...soooo this.  I'm 5'5 and an 18, I definitly feel your pain!!

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I started doing more research on plus sized clothing stores when I got frustrated with clothes shopping. I have friends who are PS as well and have terrific style, so I say, "I just love your top/jacket/skirt. Where did you buy it?" Torrid and Deb are great stores for PS clothes. Deb's PS bathing suits are adorable! I have a few bathing suits from there and they are cheap! They go up to size 28! Also, go online. Some stores will sell plus sizes online but not carry them in the store (like Old Navy and Kohl's). If you order clothes and don't like the way they look, you can just return it to the store. Edit: I am 4'11" and a size 14, so the pants thing I completely understand! I have to roll up my jeans all the time. I keep telling myself I will go to a tailor but I just don't have the time or money to hem a pair of jeans.
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]

Does Deb's have a website? I want a cute bathing suit for our HM when we go, but the PS suits I have are boring and just not cute at all!

LGM22

I've always felt this way and I think it's why I loathe clothign shopping.  Recently I went to Khol's and I actually found some nicer stuff for work.  But usually, not so much.  So totally +1 to your rant! 

Also - lingerie.  Why does PS lingerie and sleepwear always have to be 'fun' and not sexy?  Or when it's even remotely sexy it's got bows everywhere like I want to be some present or toddler?  Lane Bryant USED to carry some nicer lingerie, but recently I haven't been able to find anything I would want to wear for my FI.  There's a local place here but it's really hit or miss.  The Avenue (I don't know if that's just local to WA or not) is also hit or miss - for lingerie and clothes - also hit or miss.

Lamesauce.

LincolnElizabethH

I am 5'11" and a size 18/20. I have a short waist and long legs. Try to find me a pair of pants that don't make me look like I have d**k and that are 34" inseam (32" are just barely long enough)! I used to love Cavaricci jeans from Torrid, but they've changed all of their styles and now they just fall off in an hour because of all the stretch or rip within a few weeks. I live in Toronto (Canada), and there aren't that many clothing options available, unless I go to Buffalo, and even then I don't like a lot of the styles! I wish designers were PS women so they would understand that just because you are PS, doesn't mean you want to dress like a grandma, and that we all have different body types!

jmorford

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plus sized (rant) : Does Deb's have a website? I want a cute bathing suit for our HM when we go, but the PS suits I have are boring and just not cute at all!
Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

there are cute ones at torrid! plus you could visit me when you go to the mall in my part of town :)

and i totally agree with everyone about the pants thing... i'm 5'2'', size 20, and even the 20S that i bought recently had to be hemmed.

faerylvr27

I find that New York & Company's clothes run a little big, so it makes me feel better when I shop there. They have some really nice stuff and theres always a great sale going on and they email coupons all the time on top of that.

i just found this site for PS lingerie
http://www.biggalslingerie.com/

tiffielynn91

I am 5 foot 1 and like a 14ish. depending on jeans. so like i said in my post im kinda inbetween regular and plus sized. however i was a pitcher for like 10 years so i have massive shoulders, and huge legs. also my hips .. i carry all my weight from like under my boobs to my mid thighs.. it sucks to shop. 

StephLove12

I've found some really cute swim suits... but my problem is the boob part. I have huge boobs. I need support and I need something that will cover them. It's ridiculous how little of options there are for that.

I understand about the pants being too long thing. I'm 5'6, so pretty average. But I'm all torso. My legs are the same length as my friend who is 5'1. I'm so unproportional.

jmorford

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[QUOTE]I've found some really cute swim suits... but my problem is the boob part. I have huge boobs. I need support and I need something that will cover them. It's ridiculous how little of options there are for that. I understand about the pants being too long thing. I'm 5'6, so pretty average. <strong>But I'm all torso.</strong> My legs are the same length as my friend who is 5'1. I'm so unproportional.
Posted by StephLove12[/QUOTE]

me too. sitting down, i look normal height, even tall.
really sucks when you're looking for shirts. i layer everything because they're never long enough to go over my boobs and my belly. ugh.

StephLove12

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plus sized (rant) : me too. sitting down, i look normal height, even tall. really sucks when you're looking for shirts.<strong> i layer everything</strong> because they're never long enough to go over my boobs and my belly. ugh.
Posted by jmorford[/QUOTE]
Maurices tank tops. They're my life saver. And a daily must for me. Not only are they super long and have lace on the bottom that looks cute... but the top has lace too, and covers up my ALWAYS THERE cleavage for work.

jmorford

STORY OF MY LIFE.
i udually get the ones at target.. "long and lean", they're like $8 or something like that. i'm right at the 2XL so it works out nicely.

reagane02

I wear jeans all the time, and go through them pretty quickly, I HATE having to go shopping for jeans or pants of any kind. I'm average height, about 5'7" sz 16. I carry all my weight in my butt and thighs, so if it fits there I can fit a fist into the waist. Its so annoying.  I like going to Torrid for jeans, but its so hit or miss.

roxiems75

I understand Im 26/28 and have a hard time with pants.  I shop at Catherine's and they have some great styles.  they now care what they call the right fit pants.  they come in different cuts.  like a fuller hip area, but legs and length are not changed.  or for the more round person fuller cut  all over.  i love this my pants fit where I want them to now.  they also carry petites, average, and tall in their pants.  My mother is 5'2" 26/28 and uses their petites and they are perfect for her.  it is about time a store starts caring cloths to fit all body types. 

mari0225

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plus sized (rant) : there are cute ones at torrid! plus you could visit me when you go to the mall in my part of town :) and i totally agree with everyone about the pants thing... i'm 5'2'', size 20, and even the 20S that i bought recently had to be hemmed.
Posted by jmorford[/QUOTE]

I always forget about that store! Yep I will check it out next time i'm up that way which since FI's mom lives there i'm around that mall all the time!

mari0225

Also what is a good place for lingerie (sp?) I have looked at Penny's and Macy's but they just don't fit me right i'm hippy and large chested.

EBONYROBERT

some of you ladies with the jeans issue should look into the Avenue. Their jeans run big so you will always need a size or two smaller but the average, petite, and long  lengths runs just right IMO. One thing i cant stand is how some stores make PS shirts short... that urks my last nerve!

mymissingpuzzlepiece

Ugh I hate shopping for pants. Tops aren't that bad...but the bottoms.. ugh. 

that one girl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plus sized (rant) : Maurices tank tops. They're my life saver. And a daily must for me. Not only are they super long and have lace on the bottom that looks cute... but the top has lace too, and covers up my ALWAYS THERE cleavage for work.
Posted by StephLove12[/QUOTE]

Totally agree! I have them in about 7 different colors and I wear them every day.

I like Maurices for all of my nice work clothes, and their jeans aren't bad either.

EBONYROBERT

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[QUOTE]Also what is a good place for lingerie (sp?) I have looked at Penny's and Macy's but they just don't fit me right i'm hippy and large chested.
Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

try torrid or lane bryant

mari0225

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plus sized (rant) : try torrid or lane bryant
Posted by EBONYROBERT[/QUOTE]

Okay thank you!!!!!!!!!!

sweetredhead

I understand everything said. I'm 5'3 size 24 and my sister is 6'1 size 28. We have the same problem finding clothes just on opposite ends of the spectrum. I was a "fat girls can't wear pretty clothes" believer for a long time. All through college and the beginning of my career life. Recently, I came to the realization of "eff that!". You have to be picky. There are stores I've completely given up in because they think plus=matronly. I don't want a sweater best with kittens on it or giant button down shirts. Seriously! Now I pick things that flatter my shape. Things I want to wear instead of settling on wearing. I know I look pretty in things and it makes me want to better myself. I never want to be a size 2 but I do think I would look great as a 14 which is doable and right for my frame. When I wore frumpy clothes I didn't care how I looked. Now I take better care of myself and shop or clothes like I deserve to wear cute things. That made all the difference for me.

i2012do

i dont wear pants anymore. isnt that sad. i live in leggings. i also think this added to my weight gain- because i couldnt see the size go up. the last time i put on pants i was a size 14. Like acutaly pants that zipped up. Since hten i have lived in skirst and leggins and jeggins and tops. now I am guess i am prob a size 22. 2 years. 2 years of no pants.
i refuse to even try them. i coudlnt EVER find flattering pants at a size 14. imagine now!

Mattia12

The only thing that really really upsets me is trying to find jeans that actually fit my waste, crotch, and legs.I carry most of my weight in the front. my stomach. :-(  I'm 5'3 and wear a size 28 or 30. Its such a disappointment to try on really cute jeans and they don't fit right. I seem to find Jeans at Fashionbug that fit me good most of the time. They are called zana di. Shirts are normally not a prob. but swimsuits...ugh that's when I feel so unattractive and its hard to find something that makes me NOT feel like a 60 year old.

divinemsbee

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[QUOTE]I feel like I wear cute clothes.  It's more about knowing what's right for your body type.  Trust me, there are LOTS of stores that carry PS clothes that are attractive, they are not all high waisted pants and mumu dresses.  You just have to know what looks good on you.  I don't think what looks good on a size 4 will look good on a size 18, so I don't want my jeans to be the same as their's.  And I'm a firm believer in<strong> "just because it comes in your size, does NOT mean you should wear it".  </strong>Some clothes will just never look good on a PS girl the way they do on a non-PS girl. 
Posted by brandif1026[/QUOTE]

Hi-fucking-five. Seriously.

I am also 5'4" and 16-18, and not 10 feet tall or 5 feet straight across. I also dislike shirts that end at my belly button. I know there's cute stuff, and I find it, but Lordy.