Honeymoon Fund invite wording

redrose259

Hi All,

A friend of mine is getting married and has signed up on honeyfund.com since they already have a house and everything they need.  It's a website that guests can go to and select from the list of things that the bride and groom would like to do on their honeymoon.  Once the guest selects the honeymoon gift, it gives the guest a voucher to print out and give to the couple including the cost of the voucher in a card at the Shower (i.e., dinner on the beach for $25.00, the guest would "pledge" the $25, print out the voucher and give it in a card along with the cash amount).

We are looking for ways to communicate this to the guests, but not really sure how to word it.  Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks for your help in advance!

kristinanddan

When people ask you tell them. Registry info of any kind has no place in the invites.

redrose259

I apologize, i should have been more clear.  It's for the bridal shower invite not wedding invite. Sorry about that.

squirrly

Honeymoon registries are not particularly well liked on here.  It is generally accepted that for a SHOWER you can list where they are registered, but that's it.  No cutesy wording, and definitely not in the actual wedding invitation.

redrose259

okay, thanks for your help! 

kristinanddan

I apologize. You can just list "John and Jane are registered at: xxx"

redrose259

No problem.  Will do, thanks!

banana468

I'd also recommend advising your friend to register at a brick and mortar store.

If I'm going to a shower, I'm not giving her money (which is what a honeymoon registry essentially requests).

pirategal03

Dito Banana.

What are people going to ooh and aah over at the shower? 

janedoe1113a

Yea, I would not attend a shower where people aren't giving actual gifts.  That's the point of the shower.

BlueBride11

geeze she isn't asking if you approve of her registry. Why do so many people on the knot think everyone should do what they think is right. She asked about the wording..

Personally i would be happy at least knowing that my money is going to something they want and not some garbage they will sell at a garage sale in a year. I always give checks and that feels so bland. So i love this idea. To the person so said the shower is just about the ooh and aahh of presents you must go to different showers than I do because the ones i have been to are about congratulating the bride. NOT presents

banana468

Every shower I've attended has been about the bride AND the gifts.

And if all you're asking is for me to contribute my cash rather than perhaps something tangible and heartfelt, why should I bother going?

MyNameIsNot

If she only has a honeymoon registry, she shouldn't have a shower.  The whole point of the shower is to give gifts.  No one wants to go to a shower and give gift certificates or watch the bride open a bunch of them.  

She's really going to offend people if she's asking for cash at her shower.  A honeymoon registry is just asking for cash, and people know that.

banana468

[QUOTE]Personally if i had someone like you who i invited to partake in my special day and you turned me down or got upset because I decided to register for a honeymoon as MY GIFT then i wouldn't bat an eyelash if you didn't go.[/QUOTE]

OK two things:
1) Why would you be throwing your own shower?

2) I love how me not liking registries for cash  (what a honeymoon registry is) and choosing not to partake in them, suddenly gets a "If I had someone like you on my guest list," snide comment. 

You're right that at a shower people don't need to buy off the registry.  However often guests do exactly that - and they want to SEE the gift.  This is particularly relevent with the older crowd of ladies who go to showers - and they're often ones who are more "up" on their etiquette than the younger generation.

Remember, the gifts are FOR you and your FI (or husband depending on when purchased) but they need to be appealing to your guests in price range and type - because THEY are the ones buying the presents so ultimately, it's up to the guest exactly what you will receive.

If you can't see the beauty in some items, that's unfortunately short sighted.  Every morning I make smoothies in an effort to keep DH and I healthy.  And I bring him that smoothie as he gets ready for work in the morning.  Every day he smiles at me as I give it to him.

The kitchen bowls I have are used for things like making DH's favorite chocolate chip cookies, meatballs or other tasty items.  And our guests love eating them too when they're over.  Do you want me to tell you about how special our sheets are?

BTW, my honeymoon was well over two years ago but I still have those wedding gifts and I use at least two wedding gifts every day that we're home.  Now we get to continue to make our own memories years later.

squirrly

A shower is to "shower the bride" with gifts.  While having it rain cash might be fun when it's time for shopping, it's really strange at the shower. 

Here's the thing:  most of us who are "regulars" here HATE honeymoon registries.  I dislike them because they keep a percentage of my gift!  I'm giving the bride and groom a gift - not some corporation.  If I wanted to give you cash, I'd do just that.  Otherwise, I would give you a physical gift off your registry.

That said - AS LONG AS you have a regular physical registry too and you realize that part of what your guests give will be lost to the company, if you want a honeymoon registry - whatever.  BUT - at a shower it is the gift giver's choice of what to give, so please don't push/demand/etc that they use the HM registry.  Just note where they're registered, and move on.  Best of both worlds, right?

BlueBride11

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_honeymoon-fund-invite-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:ad0b55d0-971d-4dde-93d8-d7bc4d4ae370Post:218cade2-10cb-43f0-8f34-eab2dc4f9a59">Re: Honeymoon Fund invite wording</a>:
[QUOTE]OK two things: 1) Why would you be throwing your own shower? 2) I love how me not liking registries for cash  (what a honeymoon registry is) and choosing not to partake in them, suddenly gets a "If I had someone like you on my guest list," snide comment.  You're right that at a shower people don't need to buy off the registry.  However often guests do exactly that - and they want to SEE the gift.  This is particularly relevent with the older crowd of ladies who go to showers - and they're often ones who are more "up" on their etiquette than the younger generation. Remember, the gifts are FOR you and your FI (or husband depending on when purchased) but they need to be appealing to your guests in price range and type - because THEY are the ones buying the presents so ultimately, it's up to the guest exactly what you will receive. If you can't see the beauty in some items, that's unfortunately short sighted.  Every morning I make smoothies in an effort to keep DH and I healthy.  And I bring him that smoothie as he gets ready for work in the morning.  Every day he smiles at me as I give it to him. The kitchen bowls I have are used for things like making DH's favorite chocolate chip cookies, meatballs or other tasty items.  And our guests love eating them too when they're over.  Do you want me to tell you about how special our sheets are? BTW, my honeymoon was well over two years ago but I still have those wedding gifts and I use at least two wedding gifts every day that we're home.  Now we get to continue to make our own memories years later.
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Who said that I would throw my own shower? I am pretty sure that when i do have my shower which my MOH is throwing i will give her a list of family and friends that would be there. My point is if you are that concerned on what i decide to register for than your not a good friend. Because its not about what you want and like. As the OP said they already have the bowls and cookie sheets to make those memories its a waste of money to have people buy things they wont use. Maybe to this bride a honeymoon is more important than some smoothie. To each person things are different. Also like i said not one time in the OP did they ask. Hey what do you think about people registering for a honeymoon. Not everyone cares what you think about their wedding. Answer the question if you don't like the question look past it.

banana468

It sounded like you had a hand in throwing your own shower.  My apologies if that's not what you meant.

As for your comment,

[QUOTE]My point is if you are that concerned on what i decide to register for than your not a good friend. Because its not about what you want and like.[/QUOTE]

That's really a loaded statement.  If I disagree on a moral or social level with something my friend does then I'm not a good friend?    Wow.   Part of being a good friend is being able to be honest with one another and also to be able to express opinions with each other.

If you were my friend and I chose not to support your honeymoon registry I wouldn't stop being friends with you.  But depending on our level of closeness, I might tell you why such a registry can be perceived as offensive.

And I know my dear friends don't decide that I'm a bad friend simply for not supporting a belief of theirs or for something that they chose to do.  We can agree to disagree in a civil manner without feeling like there's an ultimatum placed on the ties that bind our relationship.

And to add, it's an open forum.  When you post on it, you have to expect that people will not necessarily answer just the question at hand. 

mel&danirelandbound

Ok. I've obviously made a mistake. I searched "wedding honeymoon registry wording" and sadly, this site came up. I read about 10 comments in response to the original post above and it looks like some of you have been married for way too long to be on here lecturing brides-to-be about what YOU feel is appropriate regarding a honeymoon registry. Well, it's possible you're overbearing critical responses aren't confined to this forum [poor guy] so you're likely on wedding number 2 or 3....

I mean, what are the guests going to "ooh and awe over?"

How about the BRIDE? Lol, I swear some of you Bridezillas crack me up and remind me why I chose to go abroad for my wedding--to avoid this insanity. And for the poster who said "we don't typically like honeymoon registries on here" needs to get a life. When I signed up [and I'll be deleting my account the second I'm done here] I don't remember this being a sorority or social club so how about getting on with your lives instead of trolling wedding websites looking for a thrill. It's just weird. And lame.

To the original poster (though she's probably long gone thanks to the crude replies) you should go to a normal website where REAL people give REAL advice. I'm even more excited about my honeymoon registry now and it will be more enjoyable knowing so many dislike it:)

Cheers! Or shall I say Bon Voyage! Since I'll be getting donations to fund our trip and all.

-unknown

mel&danirelandbound

@banana whatever...

lol. you make him cookies and he watches you using the bowls...what?! That's super weird. Maybe he isn't watching you, but imagining a hottie over in Europe on a sail boat along the coast in a hot little bikini who got there because her honeymoon registry paid for it!

Enjoy your cookies. And your sheets. Gross.

I can't read anymore of this or I'll be sick. Make sure to add some Xanax in that smoothie you make every morning in your super duper blender. And toss some in for your poor hubby, I'm sure he needs it.

#getalife#weirdblenderkitchenchick

Tina1201

You people are all buggin. My honeymoon registry doesnt ask people for cash, it asks for honeymoon related gifts instead of home related gifts. So for my bridal shower someone can gift me with dinner on the beach or a couple's massage instead of bedding and china which I already own. What are people who already share a home with their soon-to-be husbands (most of the modern world) and already have all of the necessities for their home supposed to do? Do we not deserve to register for gifts for our bridal shower? Keep your nasty opinions to yourselves! And have fun forcing everyone to watch you open up towels and toasters… sounds like ur shower will be super fun! 

banana468

What is up with the dead threads? @knotporscha? ?