Considering Asking MOH to step down?

aurianna

Matt&Amanda2014 said:

I've said it once and I'll say it again. If your bridal party isn't there for you then why have them be in the bridal party. It cracks me up to think that a lot of you say that you expect nothing from your bridal party. Everyone knows that they expect their friends to be there and support and be happy for them during this time.

Sometimes you got to make a call, I'd ask her to step down. You can't be a MOH is you can't act like a MOH! Life is too short to put up with peoples selfish crap. People grow apart. If you can't get the day off work then you're one lazy ass person. Taking the day off or slightly changing your work schedule for your BF isn't something that's unheard of. People have taken off of work for way less!!!!

Good luck and pass that MOH title on to someone that supports you and wants to treat you the same way that you treated this girl when you were in her wedding party.

 

Clearly you ignored the dozens and dozens of people who explained that not everyone can take the day off, nor should they need to if they have limited PTO with several wedding related events still to come. That's ok. Reading comprehension isn't everyone's thing.

And again... the sweet, sweet irony... A bride wants to kick out a bridesmaid for putting her livelihood over a rather superfluous party... and somehow it's the bridesmaid that's being selfish?

A bridesmaid can be a good, supportive friend in many other ways without having to change her work schedule or devote tons of her own time to piddly crap like a "look at me! look at me!" party or picking out table clothes or whatever.
But if that's the only thing you consider as support, you probably have really shallow friendships.

AddieCake

Matt&Amanda2014 said:

I've said it once and I'll say it again. If your bridal party isn't there for you then why have them be in the bridal party. It cracks me up to think that a lot of you say that you expect nothing from your bridal party. Everyone knows that they expect their friends to be there and support and be happy for them during this time.

Sometimes you got to make a call, I'd ask her to step down. You can't be a MOH is you can't act like a MOH! Life is too short to put up with peoples selfish crap. People grow apart. If you can't get the day off work then you're one lazy ass person. Taking the day off or slightly changing your work schedule for your BF isn't something that's unheard of. People have taken off of work for way less!!!!

Good luck and pass that MOH title on to someone that supports you and wants to treat you the same way that you treated this girl when you were in her wedding party.

 

FFS. Another person who thinks someone should have to take time off WORK to attend a PARTY? And you're saying someone is lazy if they can't take the day off work?  Ummmm.....yeah, that makes sense.......

Dreamergirl8812

Matt&Amanda2014 said:

I've said it once and I'll say it again. If your bridal party isn't there for you then why have them be in the bridal party. It cracks me up to think that a lot of you say that you expect nothing from your bridal party. Everyone knows that they expect their friends to be there and support and be happy for them during this time.

Sometimes you got to make a call, I'd ask her to step down. You can't be a MOH is you can't act like a MOH! Life is too short to put up with peoples selfish crap. People grow apart. If you can't get the day off work then you're one lazy ass person. Taking the day off or slightly changing your work schedule for your BF isn't something that's unheard of. People have taken off of work for way less!!!!

Good luck and pass that MOH title on to someone that supports you and wants to treat you the same way that you treated this girl when you were in her wedding party.

 

Yup. Life is too short to spend all your time kissing the asshole of some self-centered bridezilla (or the idiots that support ass kissing just because someone got a ring).

artbyallie

@BangBangs39, I'm failing to understand here why it was at all important for you to bring your personal experience of being able to easily take off work to this discussion. I mean, that's great for you and all, but not remotely what the OP was about.

And the fact is, one should never ever 'ask' someone to step down from a wedding party, since really what one is doing is kicking them out and that's unquestionably a Bridezilla move. Wedding parties are not subpoenas to attend multiple events; they are a way to honor one's closest friends. Which it seems like OP, BangBangs, and Matt&Amanda don't comprehend.

BangBangs39

@artbyalie - most people give advice based on their own life experience and opinions.  My ability to take off work is what helped me form my opinion therefore relevant to the opinion given.  In any event it was brought up through the overall discussion when I was asked if I would have taken off work and I said yes... maybe you didn't read the whole thread and that's why you missed it.

BangBangs39

1covejack said:

So bangBang you think your ability to take off work is relevant to the discussion of why the OP should not ruin a friendship forever by kicking her MOH out of the WP?

If you'll kindly read back my original advice given was that she should sit down with her MOH and let her know how she is feeling - I never told her to kick her MOH out of the WP I told her to let her friend know how she feels.  Also again - I stated that my ability to take of work was: "brought up through the overall discussion when I was asked if I would have taken off work and I said yes".  If you read the OP you'll see that one of her "issues" was the lack of timely decline for the shower invitation due to work. 

You do realize that this thread is like 3 weeks old and has been thoroughly argued over right?

BangBangs39

@1covejack - please look back, the only reason I returned to the discussion was because I was mentioned in a comment, therefore I got a notification... otherwise I would not have checked back.  Secondly - if you don't believe in communication than that's fine, your prerogative... In addition, I've already explained to you why work was brought up, both in the OP and throughout the discussion, you clearly just want to beat a dead horse, so enjoy : )