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Not changing your name


Re: Not changing your name

  • Initially, Fi and I were gonna keep our names and then hyphen any kiddos that came. Then we got talking about it, and decided if we were gonna "torture" our kids with such a long-hyphenated last name, we were gonna go through it ourselves. So now we're both hyphenating. :)
  • I don't remember how it came up, but at Christmas dinner this past Saturday I said the phrase, "I'm never going to be a [hislastname]" to his family.  I explained that my initials are very important, I'm the first ADK with ADKs 2-6 following along.  I think FFIL said, "I'm glad you explained that."  So, I wonder if he was planning on giving us a lot of stuff with his family last name on it once we actually get married.
  • melbenso said:
    I'm not changing my last name and it hasn't been a big deal.  No one's really asked me about it yet, but I planned to go with the best response I ever heard when a bride was asked:

    Asked (to couple): Are you changing your name?
    Answer from Bride: "Well, Tom really likes his last name, so I don't think I'm going to make him change it."

    Never saw anyone else ask her about it again.  :)
    I did ask a friend about this after her wedding, but only because I hadn't decided what I wanted to do! Hopefully I didn't offend her. :)
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  • My FI and I aren't too picky over names...but it doesn't at all feel like "us" to be traditional and have me take his.  
    Some of our options thus far:
    * Keep our own names; he would still go as Mr.L___and I would go as Ms. E_____ rather than Miss.  
    * Combine our last names into something new (not sure how though, they don't mesh well.)
    * Hyphenate our current last names together.  Most likely mine first because of how it sounds.

    Whatever we do, I'm going to have a cute banner at our reception saying something like "Mr. _ & Ms. _ Welcome You" (ok idfk what to do but it will have our names there somehow) above our table.  That + a verbal reminder by whomever is announcing our arrival should cover it.
  • I am not changing mine, but I have toyed with Hyphenation, though once we have children I will most likely change mine since I will forever be call Mrs. W by the children's friends no matter what my name truly is... still happens to my mom to this day
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