I've read enough posts on the other boards to see that most feel a cash bar is rude. I wanted to get the opinion of people local to me. I've been to several weddings and have never had an open bar. I always brought cash expecting to pay for my own drinks.
We were thinking of hosting beer and wine for cocktail hour and then cash ba after that, except we would pay for soda.
Your thoughts please! !
Re: Cash bar?
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With that said, I'm used to them her and am not personally offended by them unless soft drinks are not on the house (If you make me pay for a diet coke, I will judge you for life).
I am appreciative of a hosted cocktail hours, but it is confusing to have them free one minute to guests and have to pay the next. It can be embarrassing if they don't have their wallet with them the second time, or worse....didn't bring their wallet at all.
I personally would eliminate the cash bar and host the beer and wine for the event.... or even just wine (and soft drinks...of course).
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
The only reason there might be any liability is if you host the wedding yourselves. If that's the case, I suggest hiring bartenders who can cut people off accordingly.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
My best friend eloped in Jamaica and then had a reception at home a month later, with the dress, cake, first dance etc.. I did not know that was considered PPD, I was just excited to celebrate with her!
I'm going to continue lurking so when it comes time to plan our wedding I'll know what's considered proper ettiquete and what's not!
It's okay that you're used to them, just keep in mind that they're still against etiquette so others may be offended. I just beg whoever reads this to provide soft drinks at minimum
As a point of feedback, my wedding was this month and I had a brunch wedding that had a limited open bar that included domestic beer, wine, mimosas, bloody mary's and a number of soft drinks. We had budgeted $1500 based on drink calculators but It cost under $700 for about 65 people and every was very pleased with the options. No other beverages were available.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
What's your guest count?
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
One thing that will reduce hard consumption are punches. I was considering this after seeing it at a wedding but ultimately removed it. They had a alcoholic and non alcoholic punch available, priced by the batch. People tend to be comfortable going up to get it themselves and drink more of it. However; if you have any minors, they may require that the alcoholic punch be behind the bar.
I would also ask them to work with you more. Are there house wines that you could purchase by the bottle consumed at a better rate than $7/glass? I did that at my first wedding.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
We had a fall wedding so we featured Pumpkin Beer at our RD. Our grooms gifts had alcohol components too.
You could give them monogrammed flasks and a nice bottle of rum at the RD and that can start it for them.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
Instead we're hosting a hot cocoa bar (it's in February) in place of cocktail hour, so we're not leaving guests completely high and dry in the refreshments department. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to attend a wedding with an open bar someday, but I would never assume it'd be provided based on weddings I've been to and would certainly not think a cash bar was rude.