To help save on wedding budget costs, we asked a friend if they would become ordained as a minister online (instead of hiring a non-denominational minister for about 10X the cost) to marry us at our wedding ceremony in WI.
Is this legitimate in all states, or only certain states?
If anyone has any feedback, please let us know, as we'd hate to go through all of it just to find out that it not a legitimate marriage.
Thank you!!
Re: Having a friend become ordained online so they can marry us... is that a legitimate in all states???
This is going to vary not only by state but also by county.
You need to contact the clerk of court of the county in which your ceremony will take place. Ask them what the requirements are for a valid marriage and if you can have a friend become ordained/registered to marry you.
Once the valid marriage takes place in that county it should be recognized by the federal government and by other states.
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I'm also curious about this. It could end up costing a lot to get the friend ordained.
Our officiant was $250. In my county, you just pay whatever the website charges to ordain you (I think some are free?) and then the cost of a notary which is pretty cheap even if you don't have someone to notarize it for free. It would have been a substantial enough savings that I would have considered it if I had a friend or relative who was willing to do it.
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The OP specifically metioned cost and saving money.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
We are self-uniting, its a historically Quaker and is pretty specific to Pa, but I think I read that WI may have something close. Also in 2007 a judge ruled that the "Quaker" license had to be issued to anyone who requested it, as the state has no right to ask anyone's religion.
As far as price, I think the going rate is $200-600 for a basic 20 min service. No thank you, I will write it myself have a friend do it for just the cost of a license.
Thank you all for your input! I greatly appreciate it!!
We are self-uniting, its a historically Quaker and is pretty specific to Pa, but I think I read that WI may have something close. Also in 2007 a judge ruled that the "Quaker" license had to be issued to anyone who requested it, as the state has no right to ask anyone's religion.
As far as price, I think the going rate is $200-600 for a basic 20 min service. No thank you, I will write it myself have a friend do it for just the cost of a license.
Actually the law states that any minister of an "established" Church in Pa may perform a marriage. While individual judges have ruled as to what "established" means, if you ask the actually county clerk in PA (and we asked at least 6 counties) they may tell you that they do not recognize online ordinations. Bucks County may recognize them, but they also refuse to issue self-uniting licenses, which are also the laws of the state. So it really is county by county. But the state's official policy is not to recognize any religious officials that don't have a physical location in PA.
I don't believe a self ordained minister can legally marry ppl in PA. From: http://www.themonastery.org/tools/wedding_laws/?wide=usa&narrow=pennsylvania
"Pennsylvania is unfortunately one of three states in the United States which generally does not accept our ordination. This means that a person who becomes an ordained minister through the Universal Life Church in order to be a wedding officiant will have difficulties filing for a marriage license in most of Pennsylvania, even though they can officiate wedding ceremonies to their heart’s content in 47 other US states. The only county in Pennsylvania which generally DOES accept the ULC ordination is Bucks County in the southwestern corner of the state."
And the state law:
1503. Persons qualified to solemnize marriages. (a) General rule.--The following are authorized to solemnize marriages between persons that produce a marriage license issued under this part: 1. A justice, judge or district justice of this Commonwealth. 2. A former or retired justice, judge or district justice of this Commonwealth who is serving as a senior judge or senior district justice as provided or prescribed by law. 3. An active or senior judge or full-time magistrate of the District Courts of the United States for the Eastern, Middle or Western District of Pennsylvania. 4. An active or senior judge of the United States Court of Appeals for the Third Circuit who is a resident of this Commonwealth. 5. A mayor of any city or borough of this Commonwealth. 6. A minister, priest or rabbi of any regularly established church or congregation. (b) Religious organizations.--Every religious society, religious institution or religious organization in this Commonwealth may join persons together in marriage when at least one of the persons is a member of the society, institution or organization, according to the rules and customs of the society, institution or organization. (c) Marriage license needed to officiate.--No person or religious organization qualified to perform marriages shall officiate at a marriage ceremony without the parties having obtained a marriage license issued under this part.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Pennsylvania is unfortunately one of three states in the United States
which generally does not accept our ordination. This means that a person
who becomes an ordained minister through the Universal Life Church in
order to be a wedding officiant will have difficulties filing for a
marriage license in most of Pennsylvania, even though they can officiate
wedding ceremonies to their heart’s content in 47 other US states. The
only county in Pennsylvania which generally DOES accept the ULC
ordination is Bucks County in the southwestern corner of the state."
And the state law:
1503. Persons qualified to solemnize marriages. (a) General rule.--The
following are authorized to solemnize marriages between persons that
produce a marriage license issued under this part: 1. A justice, judge
or district justice of this Commonwealth. 2. A former or retired
justice, judge or district justice of this Commonwealth who is serving
as a senior judge or senior district justice as provided or prescribed
by law. 3. An active or senior judge or full-time magistrate of the
District Courts of the United States for the Eastern, Middle or Western
District of Pennsylvania. 4. An active or senior judge of the United
States Court of Appeals for the Third Circuit who is a resident of this
Commonwealth. 5. A mayor of any city or borough of this Commonwealth. 6.
A minister, priest or rabbi of any regularly established church or
congregation. (b) Religious organizations.--Every religious society,
religious institution or religious organization in this Commonwealth may
join persons together in marriage when at least one of the persons is a
member of the society, institution or organization, according to the
rules and customs of the society, institution or organization. (c)
Marriage license needed to officiate.--No person or religious
organization qualified to perform marriages shall officiate at a
marriage ceremony without the parties having obtained a marriage license
issued under this part.
So what about all the people who are doing it? Are they just not married? The majority of my friends have gone this route and they have all received valid licenses.
When you apply for your marriage license, it's not like they ask you for the qualifications of the person performing the ceremony. As long as you meet the requirements (ie minimum age, Present ID, etc) you will be issued a license.
The risk you take with an online ordination in PA is that if you divorce, one party can claim you were never married because an online minister performed the ceremony, and the individual judge can interpret the PA law as he/she sees fit. Or say your spouse passes away or falls ill, your ILs can sue to have your rights as a spouse revoked because you were not married, etc. The validity of your marriage does not come into question until another legal matter arises. It's not like one day someone knocks on your door to say you aren't married anymore.
If the Universal Life Church states on it's own website that PA doesn't accept their ordinations, then I personally wouldn't risk it.
Don't go by what your friends did. Call your county office in PA since you have to get a marriage license anyways and ask them if these self ordinations are legally valid in your county.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Again, I would not risk the validity of my marriage solely on information on websites that provide ordination services. Call the county office for the county you are getting married in and ask them directly.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Again, call your county office and confirm. But chances are the answer is that no, you can't use ppl randomly ordained online and have a legally valid marriage in PA, sorry
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."