Hello, I've seen my fiancee look at this site for wedding advice before and found it really helpful, so maybe you can help me, too.
I'm really excited to marry this woman. We have been together for almost 10 years, since we were seniors in high school, and I've never met a single person that doesn't adore her. I do, however, know 2 people who do not like our relationship: my parents. They say they love her, she is really sweet, but they have bucked at every step in our relationship, from small things like letting her attend family events (this only happened when we were 17-19) to our engagement. To my knowledge, they have never said anything disrespectful to or about her, and with the occassion of one "family meeting" between my parents and us probably 8 years ago, they have never voiced any objections about our relationship directly to her. I do not tell my fiancee what they say to me, but she is smart and knows the situation well enough to know when they've stirred things up again.
With the exception of me giving them the heads up about proposing, my parents have been really great about our engagement. They never let on in the slighest to my fiancee that they were anything less than thrilled and they threw us a surprise engagement party. My parents and her parents generously offered a substantial amount of help with the wedding, saying if she and I took care of downpayments, they would take care of the rest.
Recently, one of the bridesmaids in our wedding went into premature labor. Mom and baby are going through a lot right now, and will not be able to make it to the wedding. Obviously we understood completely, and we visit them in the hospital almost daily.
When we updated my parents on everything that was going on, my mom started talking about replacing the bridesmaid or making a groomsman an usher. My fiancee told them that she felt that was inappropriate and did not see either of those as an option. She doesn't care if we don't have the same number of people on each side. My mother didn't say anything else, but I woke up to an e-mail this morning from my parents saying that they would no longer be helping with the wedding, as they "do not want to be a part of hosting such an unconventional wedding that does not follow proper etiquette." This presents a problem, since contracts have been signed, downpayments made, and basically everything has been taken care of but their payments.
Oh, and the wedding is at their house.
Is there anything I can do to fix this before I have to tell my fiancee? I do not want her to be stressed over their BS.