So, my bridesmaids decided on April 6th for my shower (June 1st is the wedding). I was super pumped and other than okaying the date and giving my input on the venue, I'm happy to just show up.
However, I have 4 (of 5) out-of-town bridesmaids. They suggested we do both the shower and the bachelorette on the same day so they can make sure to be at both. I understand why. I totally get it.
But a month has gone by, and I don't know why I didn't think of this before, but now, I'm thinking that people invited to the shower would also be invited to the bachelorette. Like. No one is going to do that. I wouldn't go to a shower in the afternoon, then go to a bachelorette for that same person that night. Right? Is that weird?
That said, I don't need a bachelorette at all, and I told them that. FI's is the weekend before the wedding, but that's because that's when his brother is flying in. I just wanted to get together and drink some stuff. I liked the idea of a Paint 'n Sip and drinks after. Or just dinner and drinks. I don't want to EXCLUDE the out-of-town bridal party by saying "let's just do it later in May," knowing they might not be able to come, but. For the people IN TOWN, it's weird. I don't know. I'm conflicted.
I emailed my MOH about it for her opinion, but haven't heard back. I'm happy with whatever they want, but I don't know how successful a guest list will work out, and I don't want them planning a bachelorette and have no one come but the bridal party (even though that is just fine by me, too).
Actually, now that I'm typing this out, maybe we could just do what they are planning, and I can see if in-town friends want to go out for a drink the night of FI's bachelor party just to do something (which is all I wanted in a bachelorette anyway--just drinks). I can plan THAT myself and not bill it as a bachelorette. Just drinks. Yeah?
Sorry it's long. I ramble. Thoughts?