Step-mother of the Groom

Re: Step-mother of the Groom

• fallbride1109 member

  

  March 2013

  I did not list my stepfather on my program.  He is only 4 years older than me so I never thought of him as a "stepfather."  I did get a bout for him and included him in one or two family pictures though.  But he wasn't a part of the official wedding party so I did not feel the need to list him.  Maybe others will have a different opinion.

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• professorscience member

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  Who does he see as his parents?  I think it's okay to list them just out of formality.  DH's best friend has pretty much zero relationship with his dad (even referred to him by his first name in his toast at his wedding), but they still listed him and his wife in the program.

  
  

  Edit: I also think it's okay to leave them off.  My only hesitiation would be if it's something your FFIL would see as a slap and cut off his relationship with your FI.

  

  
  

  
  

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• tiffanygoss member

  

  March 2013

  I dont think there is a problem with leaving her off. I would list his actual parents if thats who he wants on there. The groom usually has very few requests so I would try and honor this one, since it seems pretty important to him that she has nothing to do with the wedding.

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• tcam2012 member

  

  March 2013

  i agree with professorscience's hesitation.  but only your FI knows if this would cause some rift between him and his dad or if his step-mom would take offense.  if it would really cause drama, i would think long & hard about it and decide if it's really worth it.  but at the end of the day, it should be his call, i think.

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