Does anyone have issues with their parents wanting to push more religion into the ceremony? I am jewish and my fiance is Italian-Catholic (neither of us religious, more cultural). How have you coped with a pushy family who wants to fight for their culture over the other persons?
Re: Family Troubles-- Anyone?
I have been struggling with my family espcially my father because I would like to get married at the Buddhist center. My father feels I should get married at one of Catholic church where he or his other sibling was married at. Where my other family members do not even want to go near the Buddhist center.
Remind your family if they are true and commented to their faith no matter what facility they walk into they will come out with their faith intact. Let them know that this day is for you and your fiance to develop your own happy memories. If they are paying for everything good luck because you will need it they will have their say in it.
In my case my family is hardly paying for anything so I can have strips if I want to lol.
Sometimes you just have to be firm and say, this is what I have chosen, back off and deal with it if you want to be a part of my life.
With All the Trimmings
My advice is, feel out from him (and maybe his family) what elements are most important to them. Do the same with you and your family. Then, find a balance. Since the wedding is about you and your FH, not your parents and his, your opinions ultimately matter most, but it also means you should both have the customs and elements that matter to you.
I have been having similar issues and I am beginning to question the sanity and class of my family. I was really upset at first but I'm realizing there's nothing I can do and it reflects poorly on them, not me