What is an old-school Indian tradition you're not including in your big day? I personally hate the tradition of having all your outfits and jewelry that your parents gave you for display for your in-laws to see. I think it desensitizes the gifts your parents gave you and frankly, it's nobody elses business! Whatever my Mom and Dad give me, after my wedding, it's mine - it's not for public view. I know this is a gujarati tradition that is on its way out of practice (if it hasn't been retired completely) but it bothers me.
Also, the Vidhai ceremony may be skipped. I'll be moving to another country entirely (England), and I do not want to have to bear the vidhai. I know I'll cry uncontrollably and my parents will be very overwhelmed by emotions and I do not want to do that. I think it would take away from the day.
Re: Old School Indian Traditions You're not Including in your BD
"I will greatly rejoice in the LORD, My soul shall be joyful in my God; For He has clothed me with the garments of salvation, He has covered me with the robe of righteousness, As a bridegroom decks himself with ornaments, And as a bride adorns herself with her jewels." -Isaiah 61:10 NKJV
My husband didn't have a huge baraat. He walked around and down the hallway to where my family was waiting to greet him. He's a quiet person and would have felt really uncomfortable with that, so we skipped it.
I didn't have a Mama (maternal uncle) walk me to the mandap. It's not that I don't have any, but none of them were able to come to the wedding. So instead my brother walked me down the aisle. My dad tried to suggest other uncles or family friends who would do it, since he didn't think it was "proper" for my brother to do it. But I convinced him that it doesn't matter since the only people that would know the difference would be our family who already knew that none of my mamas would be attending. The groom's side and my friends would have no idea that were were breaking with tradition.
I am sure there were other things that we didn't do, but I don't remember them.
My cousin went the traditional route for his wedding and I promised myself that I would not put myself through it. It's tiring to attend so many events. I prefer to have a fusion wedding and to keep it to a one day celebration.
For the maang tikka I've seen really pretty hairstyle where it is applied as a center part, but then another piece of hair sweeps over it from the side. I think this is a pretty flattering hairstyle and probably what I'll be doing as well since I prefer side parts.
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[QUOTE]My cousin went the traditional route for his wedding and I promised myself that I would not put myself through it. It's tiring to attend so many events. I prefer to have a fusion wedding and to keep it to a one day celebration.
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</div><div>We didn't even have all the events (FIL doesn't believe in Sangeets or music) and it was the most exhausting experience of my life! If we had had the option, I would have preferred one (or at most two) wedding(s). After a while you're too tired to care.</div><div>
</div><div>About wearing a tikka -- I had the slipping problem with one hairstyle. First of all, if the hairdresser puts it on for you, they will be better able to make it stay in place. Also, I wore it with a side part and it looked fine and no one thought that was weird. Also, MIL and DH wanted me to wear my hair down. This is definitely more slippery for the tikka. Also, I wore it both curly and straight at different events and curlier was much easier. Loose straight hair sent the tikka all over the place.</div><div>
</div><div>About bangles -- Bangles should not make your arms red. If they do, perhaps they are too tight or you are allergic to the material? Indian clothes really do look better with WAY more jewellery than what we're used to here, so I would suggest experimenting a little with the bangles.
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