garter tradition

MLekathLEEN · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Most weddings I've been to, that has been the tradition, so long as both parties were okay with it, and it was appropriate. Like, my MOH had explicitly told the DJ that if one of her two younger sisters, or her grandmother, caught the bouquet, they weren't doing garter placement. Grandma caught the bouquet, so they took a picture instead. I wasn't going to do the placement, but I've had some friends specifically request it. I'm telling the DJ that we're playing that by ear, depending on who catches each piece.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

Same here. FI's BFF caught the gater at his sister's wedding and made a show of it. It was trashy but I loved it!

and...JEANAAAAA!

rickylee244 · November 2010

I win trash ... He came out with a snorkel

PaigeMcC · November 2010

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[QUOTE]I win trash ... He came out with a snorkel
Posted by rickylee244[/QUOTE]
...SoBe.

nottheonlydreamer44 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Yay, Jeana is here. This picture definitely improved my poorly thought out Tuesday afternoon.

I think there was a poll in this but I couldn't see it. Anyway, I think the tradition is different everywhere. Hetsup, at my previous wedding that is EXACTLY what happened except the guy that put it on his head turned out to be a wedding crasher. Weird.

I did it last time (with the toss) because I thought it was just "what you did" - then I saw 10 girls fighting over the bouquet and I got a bit freaked out. It didn't help that ExH decided to put on an impromptu 3.5 min dance to 'Sexy Back' for the garter removal. Not the toss. Just the removal. I have never felt more uncomfortable.

I personally don't care either way but the above way would have definitely been considered "trashy" by Shoes' standards. LOL. I did kind of feel like I was at a seedy strip club (which I probably shouldn't of in the Crowne Plaza ball-room) but I was also plastered, so that helped. We will not be doing it this time, however.

Cate & Shoes need to drink together and make nice. :)

hetshup · November 2010

Snorkle is such a funny word.

Also, I think it's fine to include some less classy elements in your wedding. I admit having some radom place a garter on my leg is too weird for me. But my wedding wasn't all classy, 'cause money can't buy you class..... (anyone? no?)

For heaven's sake, we had paper airplanes and a cranberry fight started by the groom.

oceana919 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]I win trash ... He came out with a snorkel
Posted by rickylee244[/QUOTE]

Actually, <em>I</em> win, considering it was <em>my </em>snorkel he came out with. BOOYAH!

sapphirebaby926 · November 2010

This whole argument is silly IMO. We did the garter toss and it was fun and I didn't feel objectified at all. I think people are taking this whole thing way too personally.

And I agree with hetshup about Cate and Shoes both being obnoxious.

Acrosthec · November 2010

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[QUOTE]This whole argument is silly IMO. We did the garter toss and it was fun and I didn't feel objectified at all. I think people are taking this whole thing way too personally. And I agree with hetshup about Cate and Shoes both being obnoxious.
Posted by sapphirebaby926[/QUOTE]

This.

And I hate the term "slippery slope." Law school students use it to try to justify their point, and I've been scarred for life against the phrase. Just as an FYI, I've been working in a law office for 3 years now, and "slippery slope" arguments DO. NOT. FLY. Ever. They are simply a tool used in law school to help you feel confident with arguing your side.

nottheonlydreamer44 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Snorkle is such a funny word. Also, I think it's fine to include some less classy elements in your wedding. I admit having some radom place a garter on my leg is too weird for me. But my wedding wasn't all classy, 'cause money can't buy you class..... (anyone? no?) For heaven's sake, we had paper airplanes and a cranberry fight started by the groom.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Ah, Countess Leann, you never fail to entertain me. Hey at least your guests had an awesome time and I'm sure they weren't tardy for the party.

leia1979 · November 2010

1) Jeana!!!

2) That purple crinoline is the most awesomest thing I've seen in a awhile. No wonder you wanted to show it off!

Personally, I've only seen the people who caught the bouquet and garter take a picture together and maybe dance together. Nothing icky. Personally, I just don't want to single out the single people, because there won't be very many.

loves2shop4shoes · November 2010

Gee thanks Sapphire and Hetshup. I didn't know this was a post about our personal feelings about other posters.

desertsun · November 2010

I put on my bitchy girl panties today, and I'm of the personal opinion that the OP is strangely overeager with the wedding plans. Who the hell worries about the garter toss EIGHT MONTHS OUT? Am I the only one to find this odd? Esp in combo with the WP selection post of last week? And only being engaged a short time?

I mean, whatever floats your boat, Lindsay, but I kinda think your BSC is showing a little.

And I don't think a garter toss is in and of itself trashy. In general, I think PEOPLE are trashy, and that's what makes their actions trashy. Classy people can do a garter toss and have it be classy.

oceana919 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Gee thanks Sapphire and Hetshup. I didn't know this was a post about our personal feelings about other posters.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

::pulls out lawn chair and starts popping popcorn::

hetshup · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Gee thanks Sapphire and Hetshup. I didn't know this was a post about our personal feelings about other posters.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>
</div><div>Well it IS rather obnoxious to assume that someone had a classy/trashy wedding based on one thing. It's not like I'm like whoa, I hate that F'er, but it is important to you know how you come across to others. If I were going into a profession where that is paramount to my job, it would be feedback that might be nice to have. Sometimes, one shouldn't argue for argument's sake, ya know?

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katanne9 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]I win trash ... He came out with a snorkel
Posted by rickylee244[/QUOTE]

BAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!! AMAZING!!

If you do the garter, DO IT THIS WAY!!

KD+BC · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Also, KD you look so beautiful in your sig pic. <3
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Thanks Jeana!

ps. just came back to this thread and I have to say, I'm having major flashbacks to the old NEY and I'm loving it.

Narwhal · November 2010

You girls make my heart go pitter patter.

katanne9 · November 2010

OMG!!

KD! That photo is stunning!!

Show us MOREEE!!

katanne9 · November 2010

Also giving Jeana's cake photo adorable kudos!

GreenPepperBurger · November 2010

I think it's obnoxious for everyone to harp and jump on one or two particular posters.

It's also obnoxious when people contribute to a thread just to start drama. Just sayin'.

(I personally don't care either way about a garter toss. You want one, awesome. You don't, that's cool too).

KD+BC · November 2010

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[QUOTE]OMG!! KD! That photo is stunning!! Show us MOREEE!!
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

Here's my married bio: <a href="kdbcmarried.weebly.com">kdbcmarried.weebly.com</a>

My siggy pic is actually just a picture my dad took, not a pro pic but I love it!

lindsayrae1986 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]I put on my bitchy girl panties today, and I'm of the personal opinion that the OP is strangely overeager with the wedding plans. Who the hell worries about the garter toss EIGHT MONTHS OUT? Am I the only one to find this odd? Esp in combo with the WP selection post of last week? And only being engaged a short time? I mean, whatever floats your boat, Lindsay, but I kinda think your BSC is showing a little. And I don't think a garter toss is in and of itself trashy. In general, I think PEOPLE are trashy, and that's what makes their actions trashy. Classy people can do a garter toss and have it be classy.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

i only worried about it because FI brought it up. we were discussing cultural traditions because apparently his mom is worried that it will be too "american" and not "mexican" enough. the proposal itself didn't follow their cultural traditions and she is really giving him a hard time about being too "american". traditions such as unity candle, garter/bouquet toss, cutting of the cake, etc. came up because we are trying to incorporate and honor both cultures. i only asked because i was curious how other people felt about this tradition. i haven't heard it discussed much and i thought it could be interesting. didn't quite turn out the way i expected, but that's typical of life.

and you're right, the actions are what make it trashy. however, his family typically is a little more "okay" with being outwardly sexual than what i am comfortable with. also, without being stereotypical, FI himself has told me that male/female gender roles in the family are more entrenched than typical "white" culture. their men view their women as property more often than in our culture. this isn't to say that every hispanic male is like that of course, but he has warned me that his family and friends will view our relationship and marriage differently.

i'm not planning on jumping out and planning a multicultural wedding this week desert. :) i think of things and if i find it interesting or if i feel i don't know a whole lot about it, i'll ask what other people think. it's only conversation. the only thing we have planned is that our pastor will officiate the marriage at our local church on july 16, 2011. we don't even have a time of day, guest list, photographer, or COLORS for this wedding. i have a full-time job, plus i teach music and tutor in the evenings, plus i work as a financial secretary for our church 3 nights a week. there is no way, even if i am as BSC as you think i am, that i could plan this wedding that quickly.

so i guess i'm BSC and i apologize for that. i have thoughts, realize that i don't know much about it, and i thought this would be an appropriate place to find viewpoints that are similar and different from mine. i apologize if i've been too "BSC". i viewed it as merely curious. obviously not.

calindi · November 2010

Ya know, I think people are obnoxious when they come out of the woodwork purely to tell someone they don't like them and create drama. I think GPB has it dead on.

It's no accident that the board has been a lot more friendly recently. It's got a very different attitude, and "flame threads" are very rare now. If you don't like us and the atmosphere of the board now, talk among yourselves.

oceana919 · November 2010

1) The fact that the two of you actually spent nearly an entire thread debating over who was the obnoxious one, when, frankly, you're both being obnoxious (and the debate merely proved it)...well, it rather entertaining and worthy of comment, in my opinion. If you don't want us commenting on it, don't give us ammo.

You don't like what we have to say? Instead of getting your panties in a twist about it, go talk amongst yourselves. I can suggest topics if you'd like...Grapenuts. It contains neither grapes, nor nuts. Discuss.

2) I think people coming out of the woodwork and pointing out things that they don't particular care for isn't so much to stir up drama, as rather a blunt way to tell people to knock it off.

3) Frankly, I think suggesting people have abortions and telling people their weddings are backalley if they have a garter toss are more likely to stir up drama. Just sayin.

4) Yes, the board has been "nicer" by your standards as of late. That would probably have something to do with the fact that all the BSCness, trolling, and poster worship has effectively annoyed/scared/pissed away a lot of longtime posters that would give blunt (which, btw, is not the same thing as nasty or rude) responses. Obviously, not everyone has a problem with the way the boards used to be, as I've seen several comments from newer posters saying how they miss it, or how they are happy to see some of the older posters coming back out of the woodwork.

Older posters don't pop out of the woodwork to merely poop on your parade and then disappear into the shadows. I've seen many "old guard" posters posting positive or constructive comments on other threads as well. I distinctly remember quite a few people jumping down a girl's throat last week for ripping on another poster's BF's military career (my b*tchy self included).

Seriously, y'all need to chill out. I posted a picture of Snookie at Jeana for Pete's sake. You guys got the nice end of the stick.

MLekathLEEN · November 2010

This is my 500th post and I have lost the noob status..EAT THAT crazy favors mod!

That is all I have to say.

oceana919 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]This is my 500th post and I have lost the noob status..EAT THAT crazy favors mod! That is all I have to say.
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]

Um, your profile pic is kind of, well, EPIC.

That is all. :)

PaigeMcC · November 2010

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[QUOTE]This is my 500th post and I have lost the noob status..EAT THAT crazy favors mod! That is all I have to say.
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]

<div>rofl</div>

Acrosthec · November 2010

EKath, your sig pic is pretty much dead-on for what I said to DH after he proposed.

it!

MLekathLEEN · November 2010

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[QUOTE]EKath, your sig pic is pretty much dead-on for what I said to DH after he proposed. <3 it!
Posted by Acrosthec[/QUOTE]

tehe.

oceana919 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]EKath, your sig pic is pretty much dead-on for what I said to DH after he proposed. <3 it!
Posted by Acrosthec[/QUOTE]

Her siggie pic is pretty funny, but the troll bride pic had me actually snort. lol

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