So, I read posts all the time on this board and a few others about Brides who hate or strongly dislike their FMIL's. I used to be in this club- never posted about her - but I have come to a new understanding that I want to share with others.
My FH's father passed away when he was 15 and his mom became everything to him. I came into the picture about 5 years after the passing.
I have had many issues with my FMIL - Including her telling me to get an abortion when I found out we were pregnant - at age 24 mind you - but I was holding onto a lot of hostility.
My point is this - to the brides who cringe when their FMIL's walk into the room remember - They may be the only ones on the Earth who love your FH more than you. They are part of the process of who he has become. I am figuring out that my FI has learned to love me by how his mom loved him. And so with in the last few months - I am beginning to love her again and embrace the fact we will be family (legally) very soon!!
Just a thought I wanted to share!!!