Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth??

The Mel and Todd Show · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : All the OP was asking was if she should put "Cash Bar" on the invitation. But since you are so opinionated about it, here is my advice to you. If someone you know takes the "Cash Bar" route, when you see that's it's cash bar or you are told that it's cash bar, just don't go. You have a CHOICE. <strong>Stay home with your bad attitude because it doesn't belong at a celebration of a marriage.
</strong>Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

This. Thank you. My father pitched a righteous FIT when I told him I needed to hire gypises for my wedding. You, thankfully, understand. How else am I to gauge the attitude of my guests than with a team of psychics? I considered buying mood rings in bulk, but I put that money toward my bar where it belonged, instead.

redheadfsu · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : All the OP was asking was if she should put "Cash Bar" on the invitation. But since you are so opinionated about it, here is my advice to you. If someone you know takes the "Cash Bar" route, when you see that's it's cash bar or you are told that it's cash bar, just don't go. You have a CHOICE. Stay home with your bad attitude because it doesn't belong at a celebration of a marriage.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

That is correct. But they have the choice to host me too. So your point is?

I don't judge people who could not pay for it (as in are having a park wedding with a cake & punch reception). But I judge the people who spend 3,000.00 for a dress & can't buy me a darn drink.

caseyhaynes429 · May 2011

Thank you cbratthauer! You get me..

redheadfsu · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : <strong>Do you know the OP's financial situation</strong>? I read on here when people are attacking others for judging, but it seems to me that is what everybody is doing to the OP. All she wanted to know was if she should put cash bar on the invite.
Posted by cbratthauer[/QUOTE]

No. But why did she book the venue she did? One she can't afford?

amys325 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : That is correct. But they have the choice to host me too. So your point is? I don't judge people who could not pay for it (as in are having a park wedding with a cake & punch reception). But I judge the people who spend 3,000.00 for a dress & can't buy me a darn drink.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

Well then you should write a list of expectations and send them to everyone you know, then people can decide if their weddings are up to your standards and whether or not you should be invited.

bbrown185 · May 2011

Wow that was harsh....

Just a spin off because now I am curious (and my dang work pc won't allow me to start a new post)- does not having alcohol at a wedding automatically mean that people are cheap or could it not also mean that they don't NEED alcohol to have a great time??? My wedding is hosted open bar and I know that my family members are all completely shocked by that (not very many of them drink at all) and we just usually don't have liquor at our weddings. Even then, they still party all night just like the weddings that did have alcohol because that's just the kind of people we are. We love to have fun and can do it without a "social lubricant."

caseyhaynes429 · May 2011

This is getting out of control... I know none of my family/friends would leave after the ceremony bc i had a cash bar. Some of these comments are hilarious

redheadfsu · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Did they pay for your meal? Did they provide entertainment? Did they provide non-alcoholic beverages? Then they DID host you. Maybe not to your tastes, but that certainly doesn't make them cheap...it just makes you shallow. Maybe you shouldn't waste your money traveling for your "friends" unless they guarentee you ahead of time that there will be an open bar....since that's all you seem to care about.
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

No it does not make me shallow. But good try. My crowd drinks at parties so it was expected. Everyone was stunned and annoyed.

The Mel and Todd Show · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Well then you should write a list of expectations and send them to everyone you know, then people can decide if their weddings are up to your standards and whether or not you should be invited.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

Or she could expect her friends to understand the basic principles of hosting an event. Like paying for the event.

Red, go with my idea. It's better.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Have a daytime wedding, switch venues, downgrade your flowers, cut out the chair covers, skip the favors, wear old shoes, or cut your list down. i agree with this, but even when you make these cuts a cash bar isnt always possible depending on your budget or your crowd (heavy drinkers). but i do think beverages should be provided in terms of non-alcoholic.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

I find slashing the guest list is a way to save insane amounts of money, frankly.

redheadfsu · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : Or she could expect her friends to understand the basic principles of hosting an event. Like paying for the event. Red, go with my idea. It's better.
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

I agree. Yours is much better.

But I am proud. I am the mean shallow *itch today. Finally, took me long enough!

cbratthauer · May 2011

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[QUOTE]This is getting out of control... I know none of my family/friends would leave after the ceremony bc i had a cash bar. Some of these comments are hilarious
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

That is how our family/friends are. We are having kegs and wine but the liquor is cash bar, and my fiance's family is surprised we are providing kegs/wine. I guess where I live, a cash bar is normal. I have never been to a wedding that didn't have one. It's not like we're dishing out $30,000 for a huge designer wedding then making them pay for drinks, we're doing a lot of things ourselves and shopped around for cheaper ideas, we cut some things we wanted out too. But our families don't care about the cash bar, and they won't think we're rude. They'll just be happy and excited to spend our day with us and celebrate.

mica178 · May 2011

Oh brother.

This is an etiquette board. There's a difference between regional customs and etiquette. The correct etiquette is to host everything that you serve.

OP -- I know that you only asked if you should put "Cash Bar" on your invitation. However, this being an etiquette board, in addition to the answer to your question, posters would be remiss if they ignored the glaring etiquette faux pas.

I suggest that you lurk a bit on E if you have questions. You might also post these kinds of questions on your local board if you want an idea of how people in your area might handle similar situations.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Will your venue allow you to bring in your own drinks? If so, buy a few bottles a week or every other week. If you have already signed an agreement, you may be stuck as for your venue. But at least hosting cocktail hour. Or I was recently at a wedding where they had 2 different kinds of beer, 2 different kinds of wine, and 1 mixed drink option.
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]

Actually, I once went to a wedding (in an area where I have heard cash bars are common) and they provided free Bud Light and 2 kinds of wine (a white zin and a cab, IIRC). They planned the wedding in 5 months and I'm sure the alcohol wasn't terribly expensive, as they paid for the wedding themselves and had over 200 people. Was I a huge fan? No. I didn't really like any of the options. Were most people fine with it? Yes. And I appreciated the effort.

caseyhaynes429 · May 2011

Redhead, why do u think i booked a venue i cant afford?? Its alcohol in general -i cant afford the amount they drink! Period. And you stop with saying things about spending so much on dresses and everything because I'm not doing that either. I dont even know why you made that assumption.

cbratthauer · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : No. But why did she book the venue she did? One she can't afford?
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

Do you happen to know if this is the cheapest venue in her area?

FutureJilliannD · May 2011

I feel like this is one of those issues where it really matters who your social circle is. For me, I have never been to a cash bar wedding. Most people that I know would consider it rude and tacky. However, I know that other people think this is normal. And if that your circle, then cool. I would gauge your audience to see how they would feel about it.

I would definately spread it by word of mouth that it was a cash bar. I don't carry much cash with me.

Also, just wondering since I have never been to one-how much are they charging the guests for drinks? If they are charging a high price then my irritation level would also increase.

redheadfsu · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Redhead, why do u think i booked a venue i cant afford?? Its alcohol in general -i cant afford the amount they drink! Period. And you stop with saying things about spending so much on dresses and everything because I'm not doing that either. I dont even know why you made that assumption.
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

You can buy cases of wine & put a few on each table. That is hosting something. Why can't you look into options? Or find a venue that works with you? You said you can't afford what your venue offers. Then why did you book it?

aragx6 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth??<strong> : Well then you should write a list of expectations and send them to everyone you know</strong>, then people can decide if their weddings are up to your standards and whether or not you should be invited.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

Oh you mean like etiquette guidelines? I feel like we have those somewhere ...

annakb8 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : You can buy cases of wine & put a few on each table. That is hosting something. Why can't you look into options? Or find a venue that works with you? You said you can't afford what your venue offers. <strong>Then why did you book it?</strong>
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

I pretty much agree with everything Redhead has said in this whole thread. I knew I wanted to host alcohol (I'm only doing beer and wine, btw) and I knew that consumption bars and and packages that are priced per person get really, really expensive. So I found a venue where I could provide my own alcohol. It was literally on my top three list of things that was important to me when I was searching for venues.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth?? : <strong>Don't be ridiculous (Balki!) </strong> My best friend never sent her wedding thank you cards. Just because she's my best friend doesn't mean I don't cringe at her breach of etiquette. Asking your guests to pay at a hosted event is a breach of etiquette. Friends aren't infallible, we just tolerate them a bit better than others when they're acting horribly.
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

I love you more and more each day.

Meg1036 · May 2011

OP - Maybe you already aren't having an extravagant wedding. But you do have options.

A brunch/lunch reception was suggested. That's a great idea. You said you couldn't, since its a Catholic wedding and needs to be at 5:30 PM on a Saturday. Look into a Saturday morning; Catholic churches do those. Then serve a brunch, with either no alcohol or maybe some mimosas. Saves a bunch of money. Just do a cake and punch reception. Or have a picnic. But if you're going to host a dinner/dancing reception for a drinking crowd, you should provide drinks. Because that's part of dinner.

All of your constraints are pretty artificial, especially a year in advance.

The Mel and Todd Show · May 2011

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[QUOTE]<strong>Redhead, why do u think i booked a venue i cant afford??</strong> Its alcohol in general -i cant afford the amount they drink! Period. And you stop with saying things about spending so much on dresses and everything because I'm not doing that either. I dont even know why you made that assumption.
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

Because you're looking for ways to have your guests help pay for the party that you're throwing for them. When you throw a party to thank people and then start looking for ways for those very same people to help you foot the bill, it is an excellent indicator that you have not found a venue that you can afford.

Beachy730 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Redhead, why do u think i booked a venue i cant afford?? Its alcohol in general -i cant afford the amount they drink! Period. And you stop with saying things about spending so much on dresses and everything because I'm not doing that either. I dont even know why you made that assumption.
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

<div>Because there are venues who will just charge you a flat rate per person for drinks, so it wouldn't make a difference whether they had 2 drinks or 20 each. You chose a venue that did a consumption bar only.</div>

mica178 · May 2011

Meg, that might be too much logic. But I like it!

LuluP82 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Redhead, why do u think i booked a venue i cant afford?? Its alcohol in general -i cant afford the amount they drink! Period. And you stop with saying things about spending so much on dresses and everything because I'm not doing that either. I dont even know why you made that assumption.
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

You can't afford it because you booked a venue that will charge you by consumption. And you keep saying you can't afford it because they drink too much.

Example: I wanted an open bar all night, because it's expected in my circle. I searched for a venue that would give me a package at a price I could afford, and booked it. My venue charged I believe it was $147 per person. This included all the food, the room, the linens, tables, and the bar. So yes, my grandmother who had half a glass of champagne at the toast and water the rest of the night cost us $147 but so did my H's English uncles, who drank 2 whole bottles of scotch and who knows how many Guinesses between the 4 of them. Had we hosted by consumption, we'd be in the poor house due to the English relatives. So we searched for a venue we could afford.

Granted, I had a fairly generous budget. But my best friend didnt. She threw a wedding for $5K and her H has like 100 relatives. No, that's not a joke. She found a venue that let her bring in kegs and bottles of wine. She didn't go over budget, and everyone had fun.

Point is, you don't have to have your wedding at the hotel that's charging you per drink. You can find a place that will work with you, or that will allow you to HOST a party properly.

It's not that hard. Good God.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Redhead, why do u think i booked a venue i cant afford?? Its alcohol in general -i cant afford the amount they drink! Period. And you stop with saying things about spending so much on dresses and everything because I'm not doing that either. I dont even know why you made that assumption.
Posted by caseyhaynes429[/QUOTE]

You're having an evening reception at a hotel, by your own admission, on a Saturday. It's not the cheapest type of reception you could have.

ekrayfie · May 2011

OP said that her guests are asking her if it is an open bar. To me, that indicates that in her circle, open bars are normal. I agree with PP that a cash bar would be rude in this situation. I understand that alcohol is expensive, but most venues have a way to control costs.

For the original question, I guess word of mouth would be the best option. Some guests may still be irritated, though, and they probably won't tell you. So please don't take a lack of feedback as "oh, they totally accepted the fact that they had to pay for part of my reception!"

booboo1978 · May 2011

The OP and I live in the same general area, and cash bars around here have been done with no issue. I don't b*itch when I go to my friend's house for dinner and she forgot to get wine, I drink what's there (and that might just be water). I'd do the same at a wedding. People deal. I don't know what crowds others run in, but my friends and family love me and will celebrate my day whether the bar is open, cash or outright closed.
At the end of the day, you're there to celebrate marriage and love. And if all a guest is concerned about is whether or not his or her drink is free, well, I gotta say, they've got different issues than I do. I've been to both cash and open bars, and there's less abuse at cash bars.
At the end of the day, to each their own. I had one friend who got married--her now husband, his father, her uncle and a cousin were all recovering in AA. Guess what? It was a booze free reception. We all had fun. We dealt. We lived to survive another day.
Life. Goes. On.

Beachy730 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]T<strong>he OP and I live in the same general area, and cash bars around here have been done with no issue. I don't b*itch when I go to my friend's house for dinner and she forgot to get wine, I drink what's there (and that might just be water). I'd do the same at a wedding. People deal. </strong>I don't know what crowds others run in, but my friends and family love me and will celebrate my day whether the bar is open, cash or outright closed. At the end of the day, you're there to celebrate marriage and love. And if all a guest is concerned about is whether or not his or her drink is free, well, I gotta say, they've got different issues than I do. I've been to both cash and open bars, and there's less abuse at cash bars. At the end of the day, to each their own. I had one friend who got married--her now husband, his father, her uncle and a cousin were all recovering in AA. Guess what? It was a booze free reception. We all had fun. We dealt. We lived to survive another day. Life. Goes. On.
Posted by booboo1978[/QUOTE]

<div>Okay, but what if your friend didn't forget the wine, and charged you for each glass you drank? Because that would be the real comparison here. The OP is not asking whether or not to have alcohol, she is trying to have it and charge her guests for it. Not the same comparison.</div>

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Write sometheing about "Cash Bar" on the invitation? Or make it word of mouth??

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