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jelenybeany
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venue complications-long
in Maine
I'm basically just going to list out my frustrations, and if you happen to have a suggestion, please feel free to offer it :-)
essentially my fi was zero help in planning our wedding. he kept saying "i don't care, i just want good food, you decide". He's like this with basically everything. So I researched venue locations for months. I found a venue I liked, and booked it.
Now I'm becoming frustrated with the venue. I love the actual space, but the woman who runs it isn't a bag of peaches to work with. She acts annoyed with me every time I email her, and it truly seems to me she's making this whole wedding thing up as she goes along. (She probably is considering there's only been one other wedding at this venue.)
While I'm talking to my fi about this last night, he tells me he thinks we should cancel the venue, and do a tent wedding, and that's what he wanted to do all along! Are you serious? He honestly offered zero opinion on any of this, and now all of a sudden he'd like me to know he's disappointed in the venue and food situation. He even had the nerve to tell me I should have researched more!
Can I reiterate that I am a stay at home mom, so once the house is cleaned up and my baby is happy, all I have been doing for months is researching? I met with at least a dozen venues, have spoken with caterers, done online research, driven all over the state, and attended three bridal shows this year to get ideas, and he tells me I should have done more research?
It wouldn't be a big deal to cancel on our venue because we get the deposit back as long as we cancel two months in advance, but I feel like our wedding plans have changed so often all ready (we originally wanted to elope, then decided since our family was devastated we'd have a small ceremony in Florida where most of our family is, then that was terribly inconvenient for everyone here so we cancelled that, and I booked the place we're at now) I'm worried that we're never going to settle on a place.
There are a ton of positives about having a tent wedding, and while it would get expensive quickly, I think ultimately we would save at least some money. What really makes me want to have a tent wedding is that I'm dying for more creativity with food, beverages, and decorations at our current venue, but it's all restricted.
The only real things stopping me from changing to a tent wedding is that I'm TERRIFIED it will rain. It makes me shake in my rain boots thinking about it.
Also, I just want something final. Our wedding is four months away, and I hate to change something so major so close to the wedding.
Also, the woman who owns are venue terrifies me, and even though it's in the contract that I get my money back, I'm scared to tell her. I'm not a spineless person ordinarily, but this woman is scary.
Anywho, I just needed to get that out there I guess. Anyone else have major last minute changes?
essentially my fi was zero help in planning our wedding. he kept saying "i don't care, i just want good food, you decide". He's like this with basically everything. So I researched venue locations for months. I found a venue I liked, and booked it.
Now I'm becoming frustrated with the venue. I love the actual space, but the woman who runs it isn't a bag of peaches to work with. She acts annoyed with me every time I email her, and it truly seems to me she's making this whole wedding thing up as she goes along. (She probably is considering there's only been one other wedding at this venue.)
While I'm talking to my fi about this last night, he tells me he thinks we should cancel the venue, and do a tent wedding, and that's what he wanted to do all along! Are you serious? He honestly offered zero opinion on any of this, and now all of a sudden he'd like me to know he's disappointed in the venue and food situation. He even had the nerve to tell me I should have researched more!
Can I reiterate that I am a stay at home mom, so once the house is cleaned up and my baby is happy, all I have been doing for months is researching? I met with at least a dozen venues, have spoken with caterers, done online research, driven all over the state, and attended three bridal shows this year to get ideas, and he tells me I should have done more research?
It wouldn't be a big deal to cancel on our venue because we get the deposit back as long as we cancel two months in advance, but I feel like our wedding plans have changed so often all ready (we originally wanted to elope, then decided since our family was devastated we'd have a small ceremony in Florida where most of our family is, then that was terribly inconvenient for everyone here so we cancelled that, and I booked the place we're at now) I'm worried that we're never going to settle on a place.
There are a ton of positives about having a tent wedding, and while it would get expensive quickly, I think ultimately we would save at least some money. What really makes me want to have a tent wedding is that I'm dying for more creativity with food, beverages, and decorations at our current venue, but it's all restricted.
The only real things stopping me from changing to a tent wedding is that I'm TERRIFIED it will rain. It makes me shake in my rain boots thinking about it.
Also, I just want something final. Our wedding is four months away, and I hate to change something so major so close to the wedding.
Also, the woman who owns are venue terrifies me, and even though it's in the contract that I get my money back, I'm scared to tell her. I'm not a spineless person ordinarily, but this woman is scary.
Anywho, I just needed to get that out there I guess. Anyone else have major last minute changes?
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Re: venue complications-long
tent weddings can cost a lot because of all the things you have to rent/buy. Though if its a small wedding it could be fairly inexpensive.
when i was considereing tent weddings i considered clear tents. In that case if it was sunny you could see the sky and if it was rainy you could see the rain dripping (both were romantic in my view)
looking something like this
a company in maine that rents them is this : http://www.leavittandparris.com/
then again if you are looking for budget i might research a new venue. Where are you looking? Ladies on here are very helpul with venue suggestions (some you can't find on the internet)
then again there is always the option of eloping and having a reception for friends and family on another day/month or year that could be as related to a 'wedding' reception or party as you want
good luck, you are not alone with venue frustration (my coordinator at my venue called me and asked me what time my wedding was again to see if she could do a brunch the same day!!!!!) i was like um he!! no
if anyone has any reasonable suggestions that would be great.
I LOVE the clear tent. I've never heard of that. I agree that it wouldn't matter if it were sunny or raining. That's awesome.
We're flexible about where we get married. We live in the Portland area, but are willing to travel (as are our guests) a couple of hours. I really don't want something that looks like a banquet hall though. Our venue didn't look like that. Thanks for your suggestions.
I can't believe your venue would try and squeeze a brunch in on your wedding day!!!
I don't know much about what's out there in your neck of the woods, but I would definitely look for nice parks, maybe sunday river like they said. I'll warn you that when I initially started looking I had a hard time finding any place that will let you just pitch a tent. There were outrageous fees, requirements for catering, just not the flexibility we needed..which is why I recommend parks and not places that are typical wedding spots.
Good luck, I hope it all works out!
it sounds like you won't be happy in your current location. your fi is being a dumb boy and all that but it seems like he echoing what you already think.
[QUOTE]<strong>fosters clambake</strong> is doing our RD and has fabulous food if you're going for a more laid back vibe. they also have wonderful venue suggestions and carry insurance for many of them. it sounds like you won't be happy in your current location. your fi is being a dumb boy and all that but it seems like he echoing what you already think.
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I'll second Foster's. We're doing our wedding there, and Michelle at Foster's is wicked nice. They have land out back where you can pitch a tent, and you'll have the space all day, for as long as you want. I can't remember the fee, but I remember being surprised at how inexpensive it was. We're using their indoor option b/c I didn't have a budget for a tent. Good luck planning!!
thanks again everyone!