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Afraid of my shower next sunday
my Mom and FMIL are thowing a joint shower for me and i'm terrified of it.
my stepmother (whom is paying a large chunk of my wedding) and my Mom (whom is paying for my cake) are going to be in a room together for the first time in 15 years. my mother, whom has been a drama llama from the beginning of this wedding process, hates my stepmom and two of the aunts that are coming. She is not the "play nice for 2 hours" kind of person, more of the "dump a drink on this b!t(h" type.
i'm so excited to have m shower and see my sisters and friends all together but i'm so nervous on how my mom is going to act. does anyone have any adive (other than "she's an adult, let her act however she wants") for me on how to run interference on her mouth. i'm having nightmares of pulled hair and dicrediting people's gift choices.
my stepmother (whom is paying a large chunk of my wedding) and my Mom (whom is paying for my cake) are going to be in a room together for the first time in 15 years. my mother, whom has been a drama llama from the beginning of this wedding process, hates my stepmom and two of the aunts that are coming. She is not the "play nice for 2 hours" kind of person, more of the "dump a drink on this b!t(h" type.
i'm so excited to have m shower and see my sisters and friends all together but i'm so nervous on how my mom is going to act. does anyone have any adive (other than "she's an adult, let her act however she wants") for me on how to run interference on her mouth. i'm having nightmares of pulled hair and dicrediting people's gift choices.
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Re: Afraid of my shower next sunday
[QUOTE]if I'm correct in assuming that your stepmother is the more rational one (since you seem worried about bio mom), maybe you could talk to her about your fears? Is she the kind that can let things roll off her back?
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]
my stepmom is a nice person but very very sensitive. i'm afraid that it won't work letting things roll off her back. i have my MOH running some interference and my little (half) sister keeping her mom away from my mom.
Also, i wanted to say how nice it is to here that you are being awesome about your DD's bio mom's craziness. i love that you call her DD and are so invilved in her wedding.
[QUOTE]i'm having nightmares of pulled hair and dicrediting people's gift choices.
Posted by broomstick88[/QUOTE]
I hope this is an exaggeration because that would be awful.
Talk to your mom ahead of time about how important it is for you that everything go well. Does she have a sensible and reliable friend that could attend the shower with her? That might help, too. Otherwise, hope your sister and MOH can provide a buffer between the two women.
Good luck.
[QUOTE]Broomstick, I PM'd you ...
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]
i didn't get it. it shows no messages...