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Leticia&Curtis · March 2010

Just do it!! I wanted to do it, but it's not feasible for us.

We might still do it in our 2nd wedding. HO-HO! =D

hlthcarehunny · March 2010

Oh Jeez! We're having an inside evening reception and an outdoor ceremony just like you. AND we're also serving BBQ as our dinner! There's ribs and chicken with some nice side dishes. We have an awesome caterer, and it's going to be great! There are tons of ways to make your reception look nice but still serve what you want. At the end of the day, everyone loves BBQ and will LOVE the food. Don't sweat it!

michelle8685 · March 2010

I think BBQ is a unique way to incorporate your tastes into your reception. I would suggest dressing it up by having some personalized plastic or cloths BBQ bibs for your guests and to protect your dress at the same time. It will be a great way to make it fun and memorable for everyone. Don't worry about what everyone else says, it will be delicious...and if your groom likes the idea, why not?
Happy Planning!

cmolinaphotog · March 2010

I second shot a wedding last year that was catered by Famous Dave's Restaurant (a BBQ restaurant). It was delicious and everyone was very impressed with the food.

hbarajas · March 2010

I think a BBQ would be fun! This is YOUR wedding after all and if the fancy dinner stuff doesn't appeal to you then you should have something you will actually enjoy. Of course you have to think about your guests but who doesn't like BBQ? That's borderline un-American!

Titos#1girl · March 2010

I personally don't like BBQ but my fiance loves it! However, it is YOUR WEDDING and truth be told afterwards maybe ten people will even remeber. BBQ doesn't have to be tacky, it's all in the presentation of it and YOU and YOUR FI should LOVE what you're doing....if you both do great but don't let anyone else second guess a very important day for you. GOOD LUCK and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

dixiedaughter · March 2010

As everyone has said, it's your day. A lot of the local Kentucky Derby parties serve it, and it's nicely dressed up. You can always get some disposable bibs (like a lobster bib), for those who want them.

Enjoy your day!

randiekay215 · March 2010

I say go for it! My FH and I decided to do a BBQ themed dinner since we both love it so much. Its something that we've both grown up with over the years-and its easier on the budget! No matter what people say, its your day. Dont try to please everyone, cuz it wont happen. Guaranteed. But if BBQ is what you want then DO IT! Most people will appreciate the fact that you chose to do something that reflected who you two are as individuals. And Ill guarantee that the "comfort food" aspect of BBQ will go over well.

JalynAimee · March 2010

We're totally having slow cooked BBQ brisket with some plain on the side for people who dont want BBQ...so I say go with it!

mrs.scafe · March 2010

I say GO FOR IT!!!.....it might even be fun to PLAN a little BBQ fight between u and you're new husband just to keep things interesting and make memories with that dress!!! ;-)

Haileealea · March 2010

Go for it. I've been to nice casual receptions and they were fun becuase we were with people we care about and love. Thats whats important. Maybe nicer serving dishes instead of plastic, 'mini' BBQ sandwhiches with tiny rolls, buns, or french bread cut into small servings. I've seen the pulled pork and chicked with the sauce on the side in a nice bowl and spoon (instead of just plastic stuff). Just make sure you consider that BBq does drip and white table clothes might not work the best. Use Skewers with meat so the guest can add the sauce.
Just have fun and relax! If they really love you, they won't care!

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psimpson1101 · March 2010

Maybe you can decorate an apron or large piece of fabric to wear while eating so you can enjoy the food without worry. It's your day and you should have fun!

twinpower53 · March 2010

I am having BBQ at my wedding. Go for it. All my friends and family think it is a great idea. If they don't like it they don't have to eat.

sunderwood07 · March 2010

Funny that you post this, I am the MOH in my sisters beach wedding on 6/5/10. She wants BBQ but I think it's a little tacky for a wedding. We have people coming from all over so I think that something a little nicer will be more appropriate. If that's what she really wants we're going for it.

And I didnt think about the dress-risk... maybe i should throw that in there...

hd7694 · March 2010

I am in complete agreement with most of the other posts! BBQ is so not tacky. We are getting married the week before Halloween and our reception is going to be like my family's traditional Halloween party. That includes the food. Finger foods, chili, potato soup, etc. Like someone else said, free food dont complain. If someone doesn't like it they don't have to eat it and can go somewhere else to eat. Do what you want to do and what is your style. Frankly, I don't like going to weddings that serve roast and chicken with potatoes, green beans and a roll. How boring and bland can you get. Just saying...

tonycesia · March 2010

The wedding day is to proclaime your love to you friends and family and the fact that BBQ represents part of you and your fiances likes I belive it should be incorporated in your wedding is you wedding and it should represent the new couple all the way I think is an awesome Idea and I say go for it those who really know you and know your likes will appreciate it and not be shocked. Best of luck in your decision and may your wedding be beautiful and memorable congratulations:)

SweetAmy33 · March 2010

I say go for it! Anyway, Im sure BBQ is not the only thing you are serving! If your worried about someone judging the food because it BBQ ribs, have a second choice like a fancy chicken dish or something. BBQ ribs are tasty and fun and if thats what you want your wedding to say then do it!

Happy planning! Best wishes to you!

teamb&a · March 2010

BBQ is pricey and so it can be a dress up meal. Its all how its presented really, not the food. And who cares if you get something on your dress! your only wearing it once!

ccsbabe · March 2010

My brother and sister-in-law had a whole pig at their reception and the meat was just pulled off ( pig-pickin) ... it was not a totally formal wedding , but it was an evening wedding and semi-formal... it was WONDERFUL.. and everyone loved the food... When it's really good meat, and people get full.. that's all that really matters! I say go for it!

Mrslewlew · March 2010

I believe that if your heart is set on BBQ then by all means have it... It doesnt matter what others think as long as it makes the Bride and Groom happy!! Think about this... Its your day, you are paying for it and who cares what others think. My Husband to be wants white castles on his plate at the wedding and guess what that is what I want for him!! I am also doing a white castle burger grooms cake because I want him to be shock and happy that I would go this far to make him happy... So anyway Congrats and do what you want to do!!!!!!!!!! : )

skoenig2 · March 2010

My cousin did this at her wedding last September and it was wonderful. The wedding is suppose to be everything about the bride and groom and if you and your fiance are BBQ kind of people, then to hell with those who disagree with it. This is the side of you that you want to share with your families and friends. Everyone is going to have an opinion about something on your wedding day, and they are entitled to that. It is what you and your fiance want that matters though. Don't waste time worrying about pleaseing other people on your wedding day.

wht61 · March 2010

If you're worried abut your dress, change into a darker dress for after pictures to "party" in, or have fun and create a "bib" by decorating a apron from the craft store with lace, beading and other. Above all, it's YOUR once in a lifetime and you get your "Q" on.

MrsVaughnes · March 2010

I agree with other posters that said that it's not about WHAT you serve but HOW you serve it. BBQ is fine, as long as you present it in the right manner. the BBQ over coleslaw idea is a great one, as is the version that can be eaten with a knife and fork. My mom and her friends are cooking for our big church ceremony, and it's going to be basic comfort food--mac and cheese, turkey, something green and leafy like greens. But they'll be presenting it in a semi formal way to suit the occasion. Get your BBQ on, girl!!

cassie_s_06 · March 2010

Tacky? Girl please... you live in the south! BBQ is a way of life. It s right up there next to fried chicken and mexican food.

pepsodiny · March 2010

i am having BBQ for me reception and i think it is totally ok. Even my MOH thinks its ok and she is the only one that i thought would tell me no!!! so i think that it is great and it seems to make everyone just a tad bit more comfrotable. Don't worry about the dress and BBQ because you'd have to worry about the dress and any other food you decide to do.... i say go for it....

MadMadame · March 2010

I wouldn't think so-then again, I'm thinking about doing something similar since A. it's cheaper than some chef and B. I can't pronounce-nor identify-have the things most chef's create these days, and I don't want to be sitting at my own reception wishing I could go home due to feeling uncomfortable in a stuckup situation.

mitsylugo · March 2010

I am a Texas bride and BBQ is more of a tradition here so I would say no it is not tacky but you may want to go with the cleaner meats like brisket and BBQ chicken instead of say ribs or chopped beef. Keep plenty of napkins for your guests and I think you can even buy personalized wet naps for after their meal. (Kinda fun!) Good luck!

babyloveswinky08 · March 2010

I am not sure where in Mississippi your from.... I am in the North Central.. We also are having a Semi-formal wedding... BBQ (i am thinking you mean like pulled pork) is a great way to go! We are looking for someone to roast a whole hog for our wedding... Even tho we are having a very nice wedding, I am sticking with the southern style on the food! Salads of all sorts, HOMEMADE cornbread, even greens and purple pees! That is what my FI likes and that is what he will get!

Good Luck!

LDYGTR13 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:83419353-1dfc-47b9-a9b5-9b1ae602a5f2Post:719b84c4-2d4e-4d22-a284-2d90e76efbc5">Re: Tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm with the others who say have BBQ if you want it. We're having a very casual wedding in September and having BBQ. I'm also wearing a white dress and quite frankly freaked out that I'm gonna ruin it with my uncanny ability to spill food on myself whenever I wear something nice. I joked with a friend that I need a bib so I don't ruin the dress. She came up with the idea of an apron instead! We're using our wedding colors — chocolate brown, tiffany blue — and having it embroider to say "Mrs. Lawrence." It works two-fold: it covers a ton of the dress and protects it from my clumsiness and I can use it after the wedding!
Posted by snarky_girl[/QUOTE]

OMG!! I LOVE that idea!! I sure hope you don't mind if I steal it! My mom wanted to make me a big white lacy bib and I thought that would be really ugly lol thw apron actually a cute idea! Thanks!

framberger · March 2010

It'd totally your day....do whatever you want, as long as you don't intentionally offend someone. I say, bride can wear a bib! Go for it. Enjoy.

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