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smmessinger
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To all the Brides to be
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I know everyone is as excited as I am to have found the love of your life and have the ability to take their last name. I just wanted to take a minute out of my day to say congratulations to everyone. I hope everyone has the wedding of their dreams without any bumps in the road. Good luck(:
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Re: To all the Brides to be
[QUOTE] I would hope if you are getting married it would be a happy occasion? Other than that I am just wishing everyone good luck.
Posted by smmessinger[/QUOTE]
Think she meant the taking his name thing. Which is probably why she bolded it.
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[QUOTE]Yeah, I kept my name. One, for professional reasons. <strong>Two, I'm lazy. </strong>
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
The process definitely isn't for the impatient. It was a PITA and I still have some left that I need to change.
[QUOTE] I know everyone is as excited as I am to have found the love of your life and have the ability to take their last name. I just wanted to take a minute out of my day to say congratulations to everyone. I hope everyone has the wedding of their dreams without any bumps in the road. Good luck(:
Posted by smmessinger[/QUOTE]
That's very kind of you, OP. As you can see, changing your last name is a bit of a controversial topic on here, as are a host of other topics. FWIW, I will be hyphenating and only because I'm the last generation with our last name in the US, so I want to preserve it a little longer. But it will really only be on paper. I'll go by Mrs. HisLastName socially.<div>
</div><div>If you lurk on some of the board, I'm sure you'll learn the other hot topics.</div>
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[QUOTE] I didn't mean to offend anyone or cause a problem. I didn't realize that is was such a contraversial issue. <strong>Where I am from it is unusually to hear of someone not taking their husbands last name. I only know of one lady who hyphenated hers</strong>. I just know its nice when I am congratulated so I just wanted to share the congratulations. I do like hearing about why a person kept their maiden name or are hypenating it.
Posted by smmessinger[/QUOTE]
<div>I find that really sad.</div><div>
</div><div>Anyway, congratulations to you. </div>
[QUOTE] I didn't mean to offend anyone or cause a problem. I didn't realize that is was such a contraversial issue. Where I am from it is unusually to hear of someone not taking their husbands last name. I only know of one lady who hyphenated hers. I just know its nice when I am congratulated so I just wanted to share the congratulations. I do like hearing about why a person kept their maiden name or are hypenating it.
Posted by smmessinger[/QUOTE]
I will be taking my FI's last name, but I will be changing my maiden name to my middle name. I personally don't really like hyphenating. And while it is important to me to have the same last name as my husband, my father passed away when I was younger, so it's important to me to keep my maiden name in some way, kind of like keeping a part of him with me. :)
ETA: Oh and congratulations to you too!
[QUOTE]In Response to To all the Brides to be : That's very kind of you, OP. As you can see, changing your last name is a bit of a controversial topic on here, as are a host of other topics. <strong>FWIW, I will be hyphenating and only because I'm the last generation with our last name in the US, so I want to preserve it a little longer. But it will really only be on paper. I'll go by Mrs. HisLastName socially.</strong> If you lurk on some of the board, I'm sure you'll learn the other hot topics.
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]
The same applies to me as well. My family name will die with me as I am the last one and there are no boys to carry on my father's name, therefore, it will be hyphenated.
Congratulations to you! This is a very exciting time in your life, so enjoy it to the fullest b/c it will fly by before you know it :)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To all the Brides to be : I find that really sad. Anyway, congratulations to you.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
What about that is sad to you? And I'm not asking because I'm offended or trying to argue, I just don't understand how the fact that she happens to be from an area where more people stick to the traditon of taking on their husband's name could be "sad". It's a personal decision. Just the same as someone choosing not to.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To all the Brides to be : I find that really sad. Anyway, congratulations to you.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
Why in the world is that sad? Your post makes you sound like a condescending ahole.
[QUOTE] I know everyone is as excited as I am to have found the love of your life and have the ability to take their last name. I just wanted to take a minute out of my day to say congratulations to everyone. I hope everyone has the wedding of their dreams without any bumps in the road. Good luck(:
Posted by smmessinger[/QUOTE]
<div>It is a really good feeling right? Yay engagement!</div>
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"I will greatly rejoice in the LORD, My soul shall be joyful in my God; For He has clothed me with the garments of salvation, He has covered me with the robe of righteousness, As a bridegroom decks himself with ornaments, And as a bride adorns herself with her jewels." -Isaiah 61:10 NKJV
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To all the Brides to be : What about that is sad to you? And I'm not asking because I'm offended or trying to argue, I just don't understand how the fact that she happens to be from an area where more people stick to the traditon of taking on their husband's name could be "sad". It's a personal decision. Just the same as someone choosing not to.
Posted by MrsBee11[/QUOTE]
<div>It's sad exactly because it should be a personal decision. Instead, no one is making the decision, they are just doing what everyone else is doing, because they aren't exposed to an alternative. </div><div>
</div><div>It would be just as sad if it were the other way around and she was raised on some hippie commune where women never changed their name, and thus the decision would have been made for her the other way. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To all the Brides to be : Why in the world is that sad? Your post makes you sound like a condescending ahole.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
<div>It's sad that a whole group of women don't feel like there is an alternative, or that they have a decision. </div><div>
</div><div>But thanks for adding a touch of class. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To all the Brides to be : It's sad that a whole group of women don't feel like there is an alternative, or that they have a decision. But thanks for adding a touch of class.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
I think you read way too much into her post. She never said there wasn't a choice. She just said that it wasn't the norm in her area. There is a huge difference.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To all the Brides to be : It's sad exactly because it should be a personal decision. <strong>Instead, no one is making the decision, they are just doing what everyone else is doing, because they aren't exposed to an alternative.</strong> It would be just as sad if it were the other way around and she was raised on some hippie commune where women never changed their name, and thus the decision would have been made for her the other way.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
And you know that, how?
Thank you!! Congratulations to you as well!! You are very sweet to post that. Don't let anyone make you feel weird about posting that. I know what you mean about tradition and understand what you're saying. I am taking my FI's name and I look forward to it. I have learned that people are easily offended on these blogs and they leave mean comments or like to argue. I had an experience with that just yesterday. Your whole congratulatory message was overlooked by some, but I appreciate it. Good luck to you and the love of your life!!
[QUOTE]I will be taking my husband's last name, but only because I have choosen to do so. He doesn't really care one way or another whether I take his name or keep my own. My parents don't have any boys, but I see no reason to keep my last name.
Posted by ChristineNB[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Me too!!</div>