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Bridesmaid Duty! How many times have you been one?
Just got the call (it was actually a letter-Cute!) for bridesmaid duty again. Every time I say that I picture a batman like symbol in the sky, but in the shape of a bouquet or gown silhouette. Haha!
How many times have you been a bridesmaid?
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity?
Any truly good dresses you've been asked to wear, or have they all been crazy?
Share your experiences!
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Re: Bridesmaid Duty! How many times have you been one?
I have been a MOH once, and a bridesmaid twice
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity? I enjoyed the first two, the last one - the bride was an effing b!tch during the pre-wedding, and during pictures and the reception....she didn't care about anyone (her new sister in law passed out from the heat and not eating all day)
Any truly good dresses you've been asked to wear, or have they all been crazy?They've all been good....I'll dig up some pics and post later. I got to pick two of them and the third we all wore the same dress, and it was poofier than i would've liked but it was alright
Share your experiences!I usually end up keeping the guys in line and where they are supposed to be (i'm a b!tch and don't take the guys bullying)
3, 1 for my sister, 1 for my sister's friend and now 1 for a college friend.
For my sister and my sister's friend I didn't really have to do anything but show up and smile. So I don't really count them. As for my college friend, this is a learning experience. Between the bridal shower and bachelorette party in Vegas I'm stretching my budget thin. The BM dresses my sister and her friend paid for mine. I never wore those again. One was long and red and the other was long and dark pink. As for my college friend the dress is knee length and the cut is nice but the color is watermelon. So I highly doubt I will wear that again. At least the dress was just over $100. So far it is a bit stressful but that's because I''m trying to remodel a house and plan my own wedding.
Refer to above. Bleh. This is the BM dress for my college friend's wedding in December.
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twice- once for my brother's wedding, and once for a good friend's wedding
It was fun... but expensive!
Both were actually normal and cute. But I just never had any reason to wear either ever again
The one and only one I wore was super cute, but I'll never wear it again.
Lol... I'm actually somewhat glad because I hear it can be expensive.
[QUOTE]None! Lol... I'm actually somewhat glad because I hear it can be expensive.
Posted by jedoublefdoubles[/QUOTE]
<div>It can be expensive, but it's usually not that bad. The dress is usually the most expensive part, but that's for a local wedding. I was in one that was a destination and the cost of going to the wedding itself was a bit of a stretch (but that was for every guest), on top of the normal expenses of a bridal party. </div><div>
</div><div>But in general, between showers and bachelorette and the wedding, the cost is usually spread out over a few months so it's not one huge chunk at one time. At least that's been my experience (thank heavens!)</div>
ETA: the dress we wore for my friend's wedding
**DanieKA - YGPM**
3 Times... In my brothers wedding and in 2 other friends weddings
Yes and no. My brother's wedding, the girls had all been each other's bridesmaids, so they had it down to a science. My two friends? That was another story. Both times the MOH dropped the ball, and I had to pick up the slack. I planned the entire shower for both girls (and both times the MOH came in and took all the credit).
One was cute. We were bubble gum pink A-lilne skirts with ivory tops with a sweetheart neckline.
One was okay. Red, off the shoulder, a-line, with some bead detail in the top.
The third wedding... it was halloween themed. We were dressed as Disney princesses. I went as Cinderella.
For the one wedding, I was asked to be a bridesmaid, a looooong time after everyone else. I later found out, the groom asked an additional guy to be a groomsmen, and the bride was scrambling to make things even. In the end, one bridesmaid didn't even show up on the day of the wedding, so the numbers were off anyways. She made up some excuse about her sister had to move that day and she had to help her move.
[QUOTE]Sop, YGPM Also, that bride sounds crazy! Does one person really need 5 parties to celebrate?!?! Not including the actual wedding. <strong>She sounds like a real life AW. </strong>
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
Honestly, I was surprised how much of an AW she became. She isn't normally like that!
The other things that bugged me with her wedding were that her BIL and I ended up doing all the cleanup after the reception, and that no one considered rides for the WP after the reception. The WP that had brought dates were ok, but the BIL (best man) and I were stuck because everyone got outta there while we were cleaning up. He ended up driving the groom's car home (the groom was originally going to pick it up in the morning from the venue) and he gave me a ride too.
**sounds good re:the PM, I'll talk to you tomorrow :)
I'll probably only ever be one once more, when/if my MOH gets married.
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Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity? My sister was kinda bridezillaish so it wasn't all that great, but I think with the right bride it would be fun! There were parts that I was really looking forward to though even with my sister...
Any truly good dresses you've been asked to wear, or have they all been crazy? My sister wanted me to wear a gold dress, but I was supposed to pick it out myself, because she wanted me to have a dress that I would wear again. Well no matter what gold dress I picked I'd never wear it again because gold looks awful on me!
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity?It is ok, don't mind it so much, I find the day before and the day of so much more fun
Any truly good dresses you've been asked to wear, or have they all been crazy? The two times I was a BM I loved my dresses, both times they were a shade of purple, the brides in both cases were great about being a part of the choosing process to find something we all looked good in.
[QUOTE]Just got the call (it was actually a letter-Cute!) for bridesmaid duty again. <strong>Every time I say that I picture a batman like symbol in the sky, but in the shape of a bouquet or gown silhouette. </strong>Haha! How many times have you been a bridesmaid? Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity? Any truly good dresses you've been asked to wear, or have they all been crazy? Share your experiences!
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
<div>I giggled at the bolded part. :)</div><div>
</div><div>I've only been a 'maid once. I was a flower girl twice when I was a kid, though...heh.</div><div>
</div><div>This is the dress we wore for my BFF's wedding:</div><div><a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/8/7/38ccf955-ab4c-4ead-9708-cf89aaab9247.large.png" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', '38ccf955-ab4c-4ead-9708-cf89aaab9247', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/8/7/38ccf955-ab4c-4ead-9708-cf89aaab9247.medium.png" alt="" /></a>
</div><div>Not too bad. I felt pretty in it.</div><div>
</div><div>I enjoyed being a bridesmaid. To me, it kinda feels like being in a special club. I'm a dork...</div>
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I've enjoyed being able to stand up for people I care about on such an important day. It's been an honor both times I've done it.
They haven't been crazy, but I didn't care for either dress I had to wear on me...just didn't work for my body. One of my BMs has mentioned she wants to do the pick-your-own dress (what we did) when her time comes, so I'm looking forward to that.
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Once, for my father's (third) remarriage. My step-mom actually asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. I thought it was sweet.
It was alright, I suppose. The irksome part was going shopping for bridesmaid dresses less than two weeks before the ceremony. It was not the easiest thing trying to find a red dress for a Summer wedding. My step-sisters ended up picking out the dresses from Forever21 and they arrived (in the mail) the DAY before the wedding. Talk about waiting until the last minute!
I won't say that I necessarily hated the dresses they picked out, but I do not believe they were at all appropriate for a wedding. My step-sisters (bless their hearts) are really sweet girls, but they're "built" very well, and they like to show every last bit of it off. The dresses were strapless and so short that we couldn't sit down once we put them on, for fear that our "hoohas" would be showing. I, on the other hand, am not very well endowed at all, and the dress was a little too big "upstairs" so I was constantly pulling on it to make sure my bra wasn't showing. (On a side note, my step-sisters are half Filipino, so they have very dark skin, and dark hair. I, on the other hand, take after my father and his German complexion, which is very pale with blonde hair. I stuck out like a sore thumb.)
Here's a picture.
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity?
So far I am having fun with being my BFF's BM, but it is a little stressful. We all already bought our dresses (in May), which at first I thought was way too early, but now I am relieved that that particular expense is behind me. Now I am trying to plan her bachelorette and shower, and it is fun, but the other BM's are having trouble getting back to me on certain things. My BFF gave me everyone's cell numbers and told me to text them if they don't answer emails, but since the girls didn't give them to me themselves, I am not comfortable texting them. I will stick to email for now!
Nothing much to report yet. Although, at the wedding I was a JBM in, apparently I looked about 19 to everyone, so guys kept trying to dance with me or flirt with me and my dad nearly had heart failure. I looked much older than I was when I was a young teenager - now I'm 26 and I look about 17. Humph.
Once, for one of my cousins. I was asked to be a BM for one of my other cousins when I was 13 or 14, but my mom shot it down because she didn't want to go to New York for a wedding.
I LOVED it! I wished I could have attended the pre-wedding stuff though, at the time work was crazy and I had a lot going on so I couldn't make the trip to go to the shower or bach party.
The dress was super cute AND it had pockets! I doubt I'll ever wear it again but it is sitting in my closet just in case.
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity?
Since I live so far away and most of my friends don't like asking for help, it has never been a difficult job. I've always felt honoured that they've included me in their day. The only part I don't like is the sheer expense of it all, it can add up really quickly and all of my brides have never been particularly demanding either.
Whenever the bride has allowed me to wear black it has turned out pretty good, but that is because I was able to buy off the rack in a regular store. Aside from that they've been meh. An awful two piece thing in navy that wasn't flattering on anyone...anyone not stick thin looked very boxy and another awful lilac corseted thing....yes you read correctly. This weekend my dress is pretty good, although not sure if I'll wear it again.
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This is my first time right now. And it all ends, TOMORROW! Eeek!
I have no experience on being a bridesmaid on the actual wedding day but I'm sure it will be beautiful. I'm excited for that.
I have not enjoyed the time before that. But then again, maybe my experience in this one isn't typical? I think I'm just exhausted from wedding talk. It's been going on for nearly 2 years now (there was pre-planning).
I only have this one- which is just a yellow sundress. It really isn't that flattering on me, but it isn't terrible either. Plus it was really cheap, and with the money I saved I'd wear anything.
I'm actually unsure if I'd ever want to do this again, for anyone. I LOVE the part about a good friend getting married, and being happy. And I can't wait to stand up with her on her wedding day tomorrow. But I really, truly loathed the months beforehand. But I wonder if I'm just a bad friend who isn't sympathetic enough. Ask me about this after tomorrow aha.
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity?
I hated it, actually. TK was not around when she got married, and I was 10 or 11. The Planner/Coordinator/Whoever ran the rehearsal kept calling me a flower girl. I ran out of the rehearsal sobbing because I was too old to be a flower girl and WHY COULDN'T SHE JUST GET IT RIGHT?! The bride eventually came out and got me and told me she was just a big old meanie head, and she'd be talking to her later.
Any truly good dresses you've been asked to wear, or have they all been crazy? Eh. It was okay. The bride's mom made everyone's dresses, so I think my parents saved a good chunk of money. But the dress was dupioni silk or something else, and wasn't very awesome fabric. It was super scratchy. I wish I had pictures. They were a not so pretty lilac. I did get to keep the Longaberger basket that my flowers were in though, so I guess that's a plus!
Share your experiences!
I think, looking back on how I felt, I'll never make the mistake of having a "junior BM." Seriously. It was really hurtful that the coordinator couldn't get her shiit together and figure it out, especially when the flower girls were half my age. Ugh.
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity?
It was pretty fun, but I was still in undergrad at the time, 2 hrs away, so I missed out on almost everything other than reherasal dinner/ the actual wedding
My high school job was playing harp for people's weddings, so it was really nice to be part of a wedding for someone I actually knew
Do you enjoy it or is it not your favorite activity?
I feel like I've only been a maid only once and it was a relatively good experience. I wish she would have asked for more help with stuff. I kinda felt useless.
I think I wore my stepmom's black leather skirt and a white shirt to my dad's wedding. Like I said, I felt very akward.
Twice, I was a BM for each of my sisters.
Because it was for my sisters, it was fun and they weren't bitches about it, but the money involved would make me not want to do it for anyone unless we were super close.
They were both okay, nothing I'd ever wear again though, obviously. This was my first sister's dress:
And this was my second sister's dress: