knot v wedding wire XXP

alliewallie · January 2010

I am new member of both but wanted to know if anyone else found it useful to be a member of both and if not, what are the benefits of The knot?

I have been noticing a whole lot of conflict on this site but, overall do you think you get helpful advice on this site. DOes anyone else "mutisite"

lauralaur · January 2010

I've gotten tons of good advice and ideas out of this site. I never looked at any other sites though.

Nebb · January 2010

The knot is great for advice, as long as youre looking for help and honest suggestions. The knot is NOT known for justifying bad ideas.

mocha beans · January 2010

No, I stay here. It's far too much blind validation and puppies and rainbows over there. Just because it's your wedding doesn't mean you get to do whatever and be rude to your guests if you want. I prefer the blunt honesty here, even when it stings.

nda_roxybabe · January 2010

I love it here! The girls are honest and sweet. They're not going to validate bad ideas.

kate51485 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:97017a0f-6538-4167-900b-227a12eb2176">knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]I am new member of both but wanted to know if anyone else found it useful to be a member of both and if not, what are the benefits of The knot? I have been noticing a whole lot of conflict on this site but, overall do you think you get helpful advice on this site. DOes anyone else "mutisite"
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

You will find much more true etiquette advice on this board in particular, and less validation for ideas that are not kind to your guests. TK has many different topic boards as well as local boards, so the wealth of information here is very beneficial.

I have found good information about vendors in the reviews on WW, but I would never - NEVER - ask a question about etiquette there nor would I "socialize" with posters on their forum.

MissIntentional · January 2010

I've found a ton of inpiration here by looking at people's bios.

sarah0725 · January 2010

I posted there a little bit when I first got engaged, but I am overwhelmingly more comfortable here. Here, there's a bit of hazing but if you generally don't do rude things to your wedding guests, are funny and helpful in other people's posts, and listen to the good advice people give you, you will do well here. If all you want is for people to tell you that you're great and accept you no matter what your ideas are, then go over there.

ggmae · January 2010

I love TK and was never a member of any other site. The girls are honest, and I appreciate that.

laurenclaire1386 · January 2010

WW is just too bizarre for me. I lurk over there, but mostly for entertainment. I hear the budgeting tool is good though. I think there are a couple posters here who use their tools on WW and occasionally post too, but spend most of their time here. The only part of the TK website I even really use are the boards, and most of the time I only post on this one. What made you pick this board to post this on? Because someone linked to it?

ExpatPumpkin · January 2010

The Knot is where you'll get real opinions. On WW you'll get validation. Have a bad idea, they'll help set you straight on TK. It may be harsh sometimes, but it's better to hear it from internet strangers than to have your friends and family talking behind your back.

Have a bad idea, they'll validate it on WW. You want to put poems requesting money on your invites? WW. Charge for admission to your reception? WW. Have a cash bar but give "free drinks bracelets" to your bridal party? At WW they'll teach you how.

squirrly · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:4bb7c253-a0e4-4f68-97ed-fd07d9f98323">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]I posted there a little bit when I first got engaged, but I am overwhelmingly more comfortable here. Here, there's a bit of hazing but if you generally don't do rude things to your wedding guests, are funny and helpful in other people's posts, and listen to the good advice people give you, you will do well here. If all you want is for people to tell you that you're great and accept you no matter what your ideas are, then go over there.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

I concur. I also find it really hard to read over there as the complete lack of proper grammar and spelling is both frustrating and confusing. I like the WW site - vendor listings and reviews, their planning tools, etc., but I just can't deal with the boards.

HisBelovedOne · January 2010

I prefer WW for some of the planning tools. I like their guest list tool better (it lets me add notes for each guest, so I can put a note in the file for the guest who's playing his violin in the ceremony), and I like that their budget tool lets you redistrubute the money if you delete or come in under budget for something.

I've never used the WW forums, so I can't really compare them for advice.

alliewallie · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:3fc8230d-eb7b-4147-9f2f-1b49b3f887c0">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]The knot is great for advice, as long as youre looking for help and honest suggestions. The knot is NOT known for<strong> justifying bad ideas.</strong>
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

What exactly do you mean, the fact is i am having a budget wedding, so i cant afford to be completely have an emily post wedding lol.

Also, i am on base in Germany with my fiance so i am not able to communicate with family very often, which means i will need LOTS of planning advice. Is that ok on this site? or is it for serious wedding issues only (not just stuff like i need wedding color advice lol)

SarahPLiz · January 2010

I have only posted here. i may have an account there, but I haven't really felt the need for other advice. I like the people here and the advice they give is very honest and very good. I think some people do post on both though.

You should definitely decide for yourself which one you are more comforatble with, as personal tastes and needs vary. Try lurking on both boards for a while before you post too much, and see how your values and ideals compare to those of the posters..

kate51485 · January 2010

You should know too that many girls on this board, and throughout other boards, get together in person and have made great friendships. I don't know if that exists on WW, but people here truly care about each other.

I also can't stand the lack of grammar and the overuse of text-speak and LOLs, etc. on WW. They make no effort to appear intelligent or sophisticated.

tjeffries11 · January 2010

I like WW because enjoy the tools and the people. I guess I'm an easy going person. Bad grammar never bothers me since everyone doesn’t have my training and I like the fact that the girls there embrace you. Believe me, when your fiancée is acting silly while your mother is demanding you add an additional 20 people to your guestlist - you will appreciate happiness and light!

SarahPLiz · January 2010

YOu can get all kinds of acvice here, and using proper etiquette should never bust your or your guests budget, so that's not a concern. Visit the budget brides board and see all the creative stuff that can be done on a budget.

Your local and club boards are probably the best place to discuss color schemes, but you are welsome to discuss whatever you want, WR or not.

laurenclaire1386 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:c58131ad-dc6a-4d3a-8d04-9344b318f663">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : What exactly do you mean, the fact is i am having a budget wedding, so i cant afford to be completely have an emily post wedding lol. Also, i am on base in Germany with my fiance so i am not able to communicate with family very often, which means i will need LOTS of planning advice. Is that ok on this site? or is it for serious wedding issues only (not just stuff like i need wedding color advice lol)
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Like, if you think it's a good idea to hit your guests up for money in any way, you're not going to get a good response over here. It's totally possible to plan a wedding on a budget, not break the bank, and still treat your guests well. The point of etiquette is to make sure you're good to your guests and that they are comfortable. You can do that and still not spend a ton of money. Etiquette doesn't mean expensive.

alliewallie · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:b7923d94-f6dd-4728-a1c5-c4785918c35a">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]WW is just too bizarre for me. I lurk over there, but mostly for entertainment. I hear the budgeting tool is good though. I think there are a couple posters here who use their tools on WW and occasionally post too, but spend most of their time here. The only part of the TK website I even really use are the boards, and most of the time I only post on this one. <strong>What made you pick this board to post this on? Because someone linked to it?</strong>
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

I signed up for the knot this morning, but had not done anything about it yet and had not really looked at a whole lot of posts but had looked at some on budget weddings and DIY.

i was on weddingwire and saw a link to it in a conversation about a website war..which made me doubt my choices on both sites and promted my question, is the website war real or a joke?

ExpatPumpkin · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:c58131ad-dc6a-4d3a-8d04-9344b318f663">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : What exactly do you mean, the fact is <strong>i am having a budget wedding, so i cant afford to be completely have an emily post wedding</strong> lol. Also, i am on base in Germany with my fiance so i am not able to communicate with family very often, which means i will need LOTS of planning advice. Is that ok on this site? or is it for serious wedding issues only (not just stuff like i need wedding color advice lol)
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

<div>Being a budget bride is not an excuse for being rude to your guests. You can have the wedding that you can afford and still be a gracious hostess. We can help you with that here. Over at WW, they'll validate any rude idea you have.</div>

alliewallie · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:906d3e30-624b-4c93-8352-350fd5ee1ee6">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]I've gotten tons of good advice and ideas out of this site. I never looked at any other sites though.
Posted by lauralaur[/QUOTE]

Thank you so mcuh! and fyi i really like you dress!

alliewallie · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:669b23d2-fe8c-4864-8860-f7a4146b285e">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]No, I stay here. It's far too much blind validation and puppies and rainbows over there. Just because it's your wedding doesn't mean you get to do whatever and be rude to your guests if you want. I prefer the blunt honesty here, even when it stings.
Posted by mocha beans[/QUOTE]

Like hateful or construtive honesty? I just see that certain posts get really hateful responses

kate51485 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:c58131ad-dc6a-4d3a-8d04-9344b318f663">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : What exactly do you mean, the fact is i am having a budget wedding, so i cant afford to be completely have an emily post wedding lol. Also, i am on base in Germany with my fiance so i am not able to communicate with family very often, which means i will need LOTS of planning advice. Is that ok on this site? or is it for serious wedding issues only (not just stuff like i need wedding color advice lol)
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

You do not have to spend a lot of money to be polite :)

And we talk about a lot of stuff here, definitely not wedding only topics.

alliewallie · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:6f5f6d34-865e-4e0d-93e1-0319ca4b871f">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]I've found a ton of inpiration here by looking at people's bios.
Posted by MissIntentional[/QUOTE]
I am new lol what does that mean?

ggmae · January 2010

Er, I wouldn't call it a website war. That's pretty extreme.

nda_roxybabe · January 2010

There are lots of budget brides over here. Even if the etiquette board is not the right fit for you one of the other boards on here may be. Thats another great thing about TheKnot...there are lots of active boards to choose from.

mocha beans · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:c58131ad-dc6a-4d3a-8d04-9344b318f663">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : What exactly do you mean, the fact is i am having a budget wedding, so i cant afford to be completely have an emily post wedding lol. Also, i am on base in Germany with my fiance so i am not able to communicate with family very often, which means i will need LOTS of planning advice. Is that ok on this site? or is it for serious wedding issues only (not just stuff like i need wedding color advice lol)
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Having an *emily post* wedding doesn't mean you have to drop big bucks. It just means that you are courteous and considerate of your guests. You make them comfortable, whatever your budget. If that means only being able to host beer and wine instead of a full premium open bar, then so be it.

We can help you with ideas, but in the end you have to make your own decisions. We can't decide for you.

laurenclaire1386 · January 2010

There's not a war. One of WW's posters came over here, started a bunch of ridiculous stuff, got found out, and left. She claims that we're mean and crazy and full of drama. But no one started any drama, except her. It's not a war, but TK and WW have completely different opinions on almost everything. Crazy ideas like pajama weddings (one I saw on WW) recently don't go over well here. Because posters here don't hop on board with every hare brained idea someone has doesn't mean we're all rude and mean.

nda_roxybabe · January 2010

Definitely constructive criticism. We're not out to get anyone or be haters (haha) but bad ideas are going to get real advice. Honesty is important isn't it?

ExpatPumpkin · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:96ba8b89-cebd-4e74-a399-2dfab6c44fad">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : I am new lol what does that mean?
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

<div>A lot of people have wedding bios linked in their signatures. Mine is next to my picture, for example. She means that she has gotten a lot of ideas from browsing others' bios...</div>

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