Sept 11, 2010??

GlamGalRN · September 2009

What are your thoughts on getting married on Sept 11, 2010? Every single venue has this date available (so I'm thinking they may knock $$ off) but I don't know if it's disrespectful to have a wedding on such a sad day. Your thoughts please!! Thanks!

wadingmoose · September 2009

I probably wouldn't do it. There's obviously a reason why every single venue has that day open.I think it's a little too soon for a lot of people.

Nebb · September 2009

No I dont. The events that occured on september 11th were awful, but there is no reason happy events cant in the future happen on that day. There have been a lot of sad days throughout history, this was just the most recent.

betrothed123 · September 2009

What are your thoughts on getting married on December 7? Do you know what happened that day? I don't see a problem with it, but I know at least one person on this board would flip the F out if they found out someone was even considering it. She's BSC, though, so we won't mention her by name.

Sooles · September 2009

maybe this sounds insensitive, but i wouldnt think anyone should have a problem with it, unless someone they know was killed there or something. every day in the year probably has a sad even attached to it somewhere in the world.

TiDa2009 · September 2009

Ditto Nebb. There's probably something horrible that's happened on every day of the year, but we can't block those days out from living our lives. I think that if your or FI's family was directly involved (ie lost someone close to them), then maybe it would be disrepectful. If not, go ahead.

Brie2010 · September 2009

I don't think it's disrespectful. Life goes on. It wouldn't be my first choice, but if it's all there is, I'd go for it.

mandapanda78 · September 2009

To me, the important part about moving on healthily is to keep living. Yes, we honor the dead but we don't do so by pretending we ourselves have died. Putting a happy occasion on a sad day is a good and healthy thing, in my opinion. If you are comfortable with it- and there's no shame if you aren't- then I say it's a valid option. There's no definitive line of acceptable time-passed before a day becomes "available" for happy occasion again.

tigger9922 · September 2009

I don't think it should be an issue, honestly. Unless someone close to you lost someone on that day and you think it would be hard for them. I don't think we should stop celebrating life because of something tragic....I think just the opposite.

pumpkinpumpkin · September 2009

ditto sooles. Mind you, I got crap from E for posting a FFF on September 11. So who am I to say what's appropriate? To me, it would really depend on what part of the world you're in. If you're in NYC or DC, maybe not.

Golfer'sLady · September 2009

I think most people will notice the date but I don't see a problem with it. Life has to continue with day to day things, even on Sept. 11.Just as PP noted, would you get married on December 7?

fangsiting · September 2009

The difference between the bombing of Pearl Harbor and 9/11 is time. Personally, I think it's too soon for a 9/11 wedding.

karenttrouble · September 2009

I think it's fine unless you live in NY or DC or people in your network were involved.

NuggetBrain · September 2009

Do you live in New York? If so maybe that's why it's all still open. If not, I wouldn't personally because it just seems wrong somehow. But I wouldn't judge someone else for having that day as their wedding.

ExpatPumpkin · September 2009

It will have been nine years, and life does go on. If anything, 9/11 taught us to appreciate life. Why not have a celebration that day? Now, if you asked about Friday, the 13th, I'd say no way

Nebb · September 2009

Its not entirely the same but what happens if youre birthday is september 11th, or you have a child on september 11th - are you not allowed to celebrate it and be happy because it is too "soon". Celebrating life, be it a birthday or a wedding, on a day when people died, is sort of hard to avoid.

BecW2be · September 2009

I think the difference is that Pearl Harbor Day (12.7) and D Day (6.6) as well as other historic days aren't usually referred to by date, but Sept. 11 isn't known by anything else. It will always be 9.11 or Sept. 11, and people will always associate that day with the tragic events. That's the only reason I wouldn't do it, but if you don't have any problem with that, then go for it. The wedding will be a happy day, but for the rest of your life you'll hear, "Oh. Your anniversary is on 9.11? How sad/odd/hard" etc.

betrothed123 · September 2009

It will have been nine years, and life does go on. If anything, 9/11 taught us to appreciate life. Why not have a celebration that day? This precisely. How long are we supposed to mourn before it's okay to move on with life? For me, 9 years is more than enough time.

ExpatPumpkin · September 2009

Unless you're on the Eastern seaboard from DC up to NYC. Or many of your guests are. Then don't do it.

pumpkinpumpkin · September 2009

Call me ignorant. But December 7th doesn't ring a bell. But I'm a Canadian.

MeaghanandMichael · September 2009

I think the most patriotic thing you can do is continue living life happily on that day. That being said, had I lost some one close I am sure I would feel different.

stina93446 · September 2009

Carly answered this question. She said as long as you didn't know someone who died that day and you're ok with it, it should be fine. There are plenty of people including one of my friends whose birthday is Sept. 11. People still get married on December 7th. That's when Pearl Harbor was bombed.

mandysmear · September 2009

I'm Canadian and I don't think I would choose that date.

pumpkinpumpkin · September 2009

Oh yes...Pearl Harbour. I knew it was December, didn't remember it was the 7th. This is bad. I majored in History in University.

salt78 · September 2009

[i]I think the most patriotic thing you can do is continue living life happily on that day. That being said, had I lost some one close I am sure I would feel different.[/i] I 100% agree with birthday girl.

twinkie757 · September 2009

I would do it, especially if you could get the places at a lower rate.

fangsiting · September 2009

Like it or not, 9/11 is associated with crashing planes and the death of many people. I'm sure it sucks to have a 9/11 birthday now. Of course you should still celebrate if that is your birthday, no one has control over what day they were born. IMO, that's very different than picking out 9/11 as your wedding date.

mandysmear · September 2009

I get what you're saying Nebb, and you have a point, but birthdays aren't really something you can control. Wedding dates you can.

betrothed123 · September 2009

Fang,When does that magical switch flip where it becomes approriate, then? Is it 15 years after the event? 20?

Nebb · September 2009

over 200,000 people died on december 26th, but that isnt ever a topic of discussion. Totally different circumstances, but that is a staggering number. Should nothing ever be celebrated on that day too?

ffmaid · September 2009

I think that everyones first thought is the 4 tragic flights hitting Pa, DC, NYC when they hear SEpt 11. So I think that this will slightly mar the occasion. That said I am involved in planning a huge family event for next sept 11 as my grandma turns 80 Sept 11 2010 and we are having a family reunion in honor of her turning 80. Now I may be unusually sensitive as a college pal of mine is still in world trade tower 2

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