Sweetheart Table

caymans_christy · November 2009

japow - Congrats on the 2 pages!! You going to try and go for 3?

japow1984 · November 2009

lol....No....I just don't think that goal is attainable at this point. I think the post is dead. I'm sure I'll think of another question.....maybe it can be a 3 pager.....that would surpass all the dork dreams i've ever dreamed.

Lilaps · November 2009

I was just at a wedding where they had a sweetheart table and it felt (from a guests stand point) that they were isolating themselves from the wedding. It felt like it was just them up there and then there wedding guests were supposed to wait for them to come around to talk. It really did feel like the bride and groom were being anti-social and off in their own world!

christine825_us · November 2009

We did a six top round seated in the midst of our guests that was my husband, myself and our four parents. It made our parents feel honoured to be sitting with us and since we were near our guests, if someone wanted to pop over and talk for a second, we were easily accessible. I personally hate head tables plus this way everyone sat with their date/SO.

AugSeptBride · November 2009

I absolutely love the sweetheart table and plan on doing one for my own wedding next August. But there is an alternative that a friend of mine did for her wedding. She had a large wedding party (10 on each side) And she also did not want to seperate those from the spouses or boyfriends/girlfriends. So she did 2 or 3 large round tables near one another. It is a great alternative and the tables are close to one another so that is not a big deal. Don't forget you will not be at the table very long...only to hear your toasts and to eat basically. So try not to stress to much over this detail. Good luck!

rubber_chicken · November 2009

we didn't do one ourselves, but most of my friends did them, and for good reason. do this, and you skip the whole debate over wedding party, dates, parents, minister etc.etc. you also get a few minutes of alone time with your spouse to just sit and eat!we just sat at a regular table with a mix of people - i think we sat down for a total of 10 minutes though!

fyrelle74 · November 2009

Just to chime in to so many others..I am a HUGE fan of the sweetheart table. We're having one because I hate the idea of seating any of the WP away from their dates, some of whom won't know anyone else at the wedding...or in one case does but not well and he is extremely shy. Plus with 6 on each side of the WP plus some of them having dates..that table would have been HUGE. lol. But thankfully for me my FI and our families are very laid back about things so I haven't had to argue one thing so far. :P

phut_action · November 2009

In your situation especially, I would say a sweetheart table is perfect... not sure what the issue is with the fam... I'm debating myself. I would like to put the dates with the WP, but our table would also be quite large... Then again I don't know if I like being SO in the spotlight, i know its our day and all but my fiancee and I are both not real attention lovers. I dunno. Then again, this set up is only for dinner. After that hour or two its a free-for-all, so I guess in the long run it doesnt REALLY matter.

phut_action · November 2009

What if you just sat you guys with your maid of honor and best man & their dates? THe rest of the party and their dates at a nearby table??

Ckirwin · November 2009

i feel your pain on the whole sweetheart table debate! my FI is from Ireland and weddings over there are one way and one way only, which includes a top/head table. i shutter just thinking about one, and he can't imagine a wedding without it. here's how i explained it to him. since our WP is mostly fam (5 bros, 4 sisses. 3 friends) we can have the two of us at one table and then seat our families around us so that everyone can talk and mingle with each other and their spouses. or we could have one huge table where the couples are broken up and you can only talk to the person next to you. and the whole facing forward into the crowd while eating instead of facing another person is very strange and lonely to me. i've seen sweetheart tables done where they seem lonely and others where they seem integrated. if you're in the middle of a dance floor or in another room, then it seems like you're at a different event, but if your two person table is mixed among all of the other bigger tables then people won't even notice. and that's what we're doing, our SH table will be towards the back of the tent but surrounded by our families' tables of 10 people each so we're right in the middle of all the action! GL!

lhaverstock · November 2009

We are doing a table for my fiance and I along with both sets of parents (So 6 of us at the head table). We are then seating the bridal party with dates or significant others around us. This gives us a chance to enjoy the company of our parents during dinner since most of the night we will be talking to the guests, dancing, and having a good time.

tommyandy · November 2009

Is there anything your FI really really wants that you're not sure about? If so you can go 'you can have X if I can have a sweetheart table'. The Parents sitting with the bride & groom is a fantastic idea. I just might steal it. p.s. What flavor of lawyer are all of you?

kaynix21 · November 2009

I think it's pretty cute...FI's not too wild about, so we're not doing it. Plus, I'd rather have people around me at dinner, because if it were just the two of us, I'd feel awkward, like I'm being stared at all the time. (wierd coming from a bride, because clearly I'll be stared at on our wedding day). But I'd rather not be the center of attention while I'm attempting to eat, I don't like being watched while I eat, so I'll feel better having six other people sitting with us.

shauni27 · November 2009

I also feel your pain--we have 10 total people in our wedding party plus us. I was never keen on a sweetheart table, feels kind of isolating to me, but I totally understand why people would want one! Makes a lot of sense. I was just at a wedding that had the same size wedding party as I will be having and they did two long tables for the "head table" (bridal party with dates) but to split the two tables up with a sweatheart table in the middle. So it was still long, but the bride and groom got to sit alone together somewhat and the bridal party got to sit with their dates. I think I am going to steal this idea and try it out. Good luck!

AgapeGirl · November 2009

Our wedding date is actually set for New Years Day 2010 and we are doing a sweetheart table. We only have a maid of honor and best man in our wedding party. The best man is married and would probably want to sit with his wife. We're actually planning to have our table sit in the midst the other tables. We've secured a club for the day and it just has a better look and feel for us to be surrounded by family and friends.

jjax214 · November 2009

A sweetheart table is DEFINITELY the way to go - especially if everyone in the bridal party has a date, then they can actually spend time with the person they brought.

AnnieN7 · November 2009

I don't know if anyone suggested this yet...i didn't see it as a was skimming responses. I am having a mini head table Bride, Groom, Matorn of Honor + husband, Maid of Honor + Date, (both are my sisters), and Best man +Date. I also have 7 attendents on each side including Honor attenents so everyone else will be sitting w/ their dates at tables next to head table. This was the solution i came up w/ all my BM's...they were happy to get to sit w/ thier dates and it kept the head table small enough not to be rediculous..good luck

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