Good evening ladies

LeiselEB · June 2012

That reminds me that H needs to get his ring engraved still. Though I'm not sure he'll choose the Batman symbol. It's on the inside of his ring, though, right? If it's visible I'd find that pretty weird.

musicalsunlight · June 2012

I think I just was judgy the whole time because I think "private" ceremonies and big receptions are so phony. Especially because BILs excuse was that they didn't want the "attention". Pretty sure they had lots of attention during the reception.

Also, other funny points: SIL's (weird to say) MOH had like the most awkward speech ever. It literally was like this:

"Hi....My name is A and I ..um... have... .um... known K for....well... since Kindergarten.... and um... she's pretty great..."

It was painful yet hilarious to watch. And then BIL's BM did his speech while BIL was out having a cigar with his cousin, so that was weird timing.

willywally5 · June 2012

Yeah, to each his own, I guess. I mean, I lke Batman. But he must REALLY like Batman.

There's a Hooters in Fargo. It's kind of off the beaten path though and I've never been. I don't have anything vs. the girls. Have heard the food is just meh.

ErinG93 · June 2012

Daff, I have been thinking about those two situations quite a bit lately. I don't really know. H's best friend just got married in Hawaii with only his now wife, and then had a huge reception here. My cousin just got married on Friday with immediate family only at the ceremony and then a large reception. I felt ok about both, but I have been wondering the same thing.

LeiselEB · June 2012

Thanks, Eagles! I'm not sure if this is discernable from that picture, but I'm doing my "trying not to smile too big but really I'm dying to smile" face so my mouth looks kind of squished, haha.

musicalsunlight · June 2012

Leisel it is visible. >.>

Daff, I agree with you. I don't really get why it is acceptable. Plus the fact that J IS immediate family so it mainly pisses me off more for him.

angelstar975 · June 2012

I'm watching Gossip Girl and it's making me hate on all these super skinny biiitches. I need to get my butt back to the gym like, yesterday.

I really don't have a problem with DWs and AHR. Then again, I also don't have a problem with peole getting legally married and then having the big party later. As long as I know they are married beforehand, I'm cool with it, even if they do choose to do the whole she-bang, with bridesmaids, etc.

LeiselEB · June 2012

I don't mind when people do private ceremonies, but I also don't really understand the point. It makes more sense to me have either a very small wedding overall, or just invite everyone to everything. I tend to not get that up in arms over DWs or AHRs in general though.

Winnertag1 · June 2012

I always eat so much when FI makes his pasta, I keep eating even after I'm full cause it tastes so good. I have a big food baby right now haha & I am still tempted to eat more.

[Deleted User] · June 2012

Yeah, I just don't understand how all of those things can be true. Had an argument about wedding etiquette on another board, and this tripped me up. Like I know that they're considered proper etiquette, but I can't just say that in one breath and then say receptions are to thank the ceremony attendees in the next breath without feeling like a douche. So I'm a bit stumped on this one.

musicalsunlight · June 2012

I actually don't care at all about vow renewal/PPDs when its "known", because they are inviting everyone to all of it. I just don't really get the private ceremony thing if you are gonna get everyone together after to oogle after you and pay a lot of attention to you.

Nickivegan · June 2012

Thanks again for all the kitty love. We just got off the phone with mom, the vet tech. My mom is so awesome SHE WENT INTO WORK RATHER LATE, ON HER DAY OFF TO DO THE SURGERY so it will cost us less. And then left work today to get yummy food to try to get Tyra to eat. My mom is The best. Tyra is now drinking and not throwing up, so there's some inprovement.

StefffiC · June 2012

I wish we could elope and not have a wedding. DH wants a wedding. At least he's involved in the planning.

LeiselEB · June 2012

Nicki, that's so good to hear! You have an awesome mom.

musicalsunlight · June 2012

Aw that is so awesome of your mom Nicki. Is she a vet?

Nickivegan · June 2012

Happy birthday J! I want a rootbeer float now. Or a tequila smoothie.

ErinG93 · June 2012

Nicki, your mom is a vet? That's really cool. I have mad love for Fox's vet. He would not be alive without her. I will be thinking of Tyra tonight. (hugs)

LeiselEB · June 2012

Steffi, is there a reason you want to elope? I don't mean to be intrusive, I just never considered eloping so I'm always curious about it when people prefer that option.

J&K10910 · June 2012

Thanks Nicki and Eagsies!

Nicki, a tequila smoothie? AKA a margarita? Or is there another tequila smoothie I don't know about?

musicalsunlight · June 2012

J and I are also terrible people because we were joking about how quickly SIL will get knocked up. They just are the type to have an "oops" baby because they have no grasp on how to be responsible and have waited (though J thinks they are lying) to have sex, and I am pretty sure don't believe in BC. We'll see.

willywally5 · June 2012

I don't really get the whole private ceremony, big reception right after. I mean, it's the reception that is the spendy part. KWIM?

Although we did that oh-so-many-moons ago but I think it was because it was not the first rodeo for either of us. So we kept it super low-key. But that was dumb of us to do it that way now that I think about it

Nickivegan · June 2012

Yeah, she is a tech. Been at the same place for 25 years. She is amazing, we raised and rehabilitated many different types animals when I was growing up. And now my mom is training dogs professionally with positive reinforcement and clickers. She is a dog goddess.

StefffiC · June 2012

Glad your kitty is doing better Nicki.

Daff - My MIL says we're having two receptions, one the night before (the rehersal dinner) with alcohol and a more limited guest list (out of town family and friends and in town family on his side, none of my in town family, they don't mix with alcohol) and one after the wedding (BBQ, at the church, no alcohol). I feel like it's bad etiquette, but it's within the rules and it gives everyone what they want and I get to party all weekend.

musicalsunlight · June 2012

That's great, Nicki. I love vets and vet techs because they have saved Tory and Willow both now. hah.

Nickivegan · June 2012

Chrissy you will have a TK reception. Full of the evening Eeners! As in, I just invited us all to your wedding that has yet to be determined.

lyndausvi · June 2012

I've been invited to 2 wedding that not everyone was invited to the ceremony. I didn't have a problem with either one.

First one was my cousin. I was on the ceremony list.   The couple wanted to get married at their very small church, yet childhood church. (sat may 50-75 people?).   They both had large families and they had a lot of friends.   They are religious. This was their church. The ceremony part was about them as a couple. I can't fault them for not wanting to change venues. So they invited about 50 people to the ceremony and then had about 250 at the reception.   People might have been disappointed not seeing the ceremony, but they all understood the reason why.

The second one was Dh's cousin. It was his first, her second. She only wanted a JOP ceremony, he wanted something bigger. The compromised by having a JOP with only parents, siblings and a MOH and BM (and their SOs).   Then there was a party after.    Again, it would have been nice to have seen the ceremony, but we still got to celebrate with them on the day off.

To me I don't get upset or offended when my family/friends invite me to a party where there is an open bar, food, dancing and I get to hang out with family and friends. Sure it would be nice to see the actual ceremony, but it's not a deal breaker for me. It's not like they even know I'm there anyway.   The party is where you can actually celebrate with the couple.

StefffiC · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-ladies-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9dd48e05-03f3-4121-88e9-c5820ffddfffPost:6b3cff35-9a0d-4a2f-b5ed-c8b51159712c">Re: Good evening ladies</a>:
[QUOTE]Steffi, is there a reason you want to elope? I don't mean to be intrusive, I just never considered eloping so I'm always curious about it when people prefer that option.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

I just never wanted to have a wedding with the big dress and all the trappings. But, it is both our first marriages and it's important to him, so we're doing it. And, it is fun, but I could do without it.

musicalsunlight · June 2012

Lynda I probably wouldn't care as much about a cousin or friend or one of J's cousins. But J's only brother? Yeah that I take issue with. Plus I am weird and actually enjoy the ceremony part.

lyndausvi · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-ladies-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9dd48e05-03f3-4121-88e9-c5820ffddfffPost:94b2f82a-0a84-4ae8-9797-3f5f809fc644">Re: Good evening ladies</a>:
[QUOTE]Lynda I probably wouldn't care as much about a cousin or friend or one of J's cousins. But J's only brother? Yeah that I take issue with. Plus I am weird and actually enjoy the ceremony part.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

I agree with that one. It would have never happend in my family. It won't happen in DH's family either.

LeiselEB · June 2012

I agree with you Lynda. Musu, I didn't put it together somehow that you guys weren't invited to the ceremony. That's incredibly weird that sibling weren't there.

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