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NuggetBrain · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:30b34a36-4b2e-49c2-9de8-920b96f87ddf">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wowwow hahah well see if yall wouldnt have judged it from the get-go you would have known that my comment of the idiot thing has merit. He has cheated on her 4 times and yet I am here for her eveyrtimes. and regardless of the adivce, she goes back to him so my bad calling him an idiot :)
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

He's not the idiot, she is. If someone cheated on me multiple times and I kept running on back to them, then that's my fault for continuing to allow myself to be put into that situation. You're kind of focusing all the blame on the wrong person here. First time? Yeah, I can see being upset on her behalf and falling firmly into the "what a d*ck" camp. 4th time? Not so much. That's not to say he's not a douchetastic fucktard, because he is. But she's not Captain Innocent in this whole fiasco.

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:c99b5981-fb75-44cf-8112-ae8a9096a534">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma??? : That's not the point. The point is if you were my friend, and I loved this guy, even if he was being an idiot and I was being an idiot too, I still don't want to be friends with someone that hates my boyfriend and calls him names. Even if he IS an idiot. Also? Relevent backstory belongs in the OP. If you would have said "Her boyfriend who is constantly cheating on her and being a diick to her" it probably owuld have been more well received than you continuously calling him "her idiot man" and us not knowing why.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>My mouth. The words. You took out of.</div>

chirpchirp · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:b7804cf3-57ef-45cb-a9c5-121102cb59fd">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma??? : He's not the idiot, she is. If someone cheated on me multiple times and I kept running on back to them, then that's my fault for continuing to allow myself to be put into that situation. You're kind of focusing all the blame on the wrong person here. First time? Yeah, I can see being upset on her behalf and falling firmly into the "what a d*ck" camp. 4th time? Not so much.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Word.

LessThanZero · December 2010

In Response to Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???:
[QUOTE]wowwow hahah well see if yall wouldnt have judged it from the get-go you would have known that my comment of the idiot thing has merit. He has cheated on her 4 times and yet I am here for her eveyrtimes. and regardless of the adivce, she goes back to him so my bad calling him an idiot

Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

Stop saying that. I, for one, asked you some relevant questions and answered (as best I could) your main question.

J&K10910 · December 2010

ANDALSOONEMORETHING?!

You saying you're "always there for her" and then badmouthing the bejeezus out of the guy does not compute. Listening to her biitch and then saying "The guy is an asshole and I hate him and you should dump him and hang out with me" =/= being there for her.

NuggetBrain · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:b80c7189-5805-4556-98ec-01d16d4e44ea">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma??? : [QUOTE ]wowwow hahah well see if yall wouldnt have judged it from the get-go you would have known that my comment of the idiot thing has merit. He has cheated on her 4 times and yet I am here for her eveyrtimes. and regardless of the adivce, she goes back to him so my bad calling him an idiot :) Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE] Stop saying that. I, for one, asked you some relevant questions and answered (as best I could) your main question.
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

NO YOU DIDN'T, YOU'RE AN EVIL SHREW AND WE ALL FEEL BAD FOR YOUR HUSBAND!111111

NatesGirl16 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:30b34a36-4b2e-49c2-9de8-920b96f87ddf">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wowwow hahah well see if yall wouldnt have judged it from the get-go you would have known that my comment of the idiot thing has merit. He has cheated on her 4 times and yet I am here for her eveyrtimes. and regardless of the adivce, she goes back to him so my bad calling him an idiot :)
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]
I think people probably judged you right away because of your apparent lack of respect for the rules of the English language and then figured you were insane from there.

LessThanZero · December 2010

I like you Nugget. I really do.

And Nates, you are killing me, haha.

maratea · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:2d8c3258-76f6-4230-9bb0-b9ee523fc5a2">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma??? : I think people probably judged you right away because of your apparent lack of respect for the rules of the English language and then figured you were insane from there.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]
pssh.whats er u talkin 'bout?i can read this totes fyn.

LessThanZero · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as,<strong> i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly.</strong> Over andOover. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about ehr enough to step in, not about being a mother hen
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

Oh hi. You didn't happen to read a previous post that states that her staying with a guy that cheated on her 4 times makes HER the idiot, did you?

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as, i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly. Over andOover. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about ehr enough to step in, not about being a mother hen
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

<div>Soo...how have you stepped in exactly? I'm going to guess and say you haven't. Which is right. It's none of your business. He may be an asshole for cheating on her, but she's just as much an idiot for going back to him, and it's pretty obvious she doesn't care what you think of him. Don't waste your breath on people who don't want your help.</div>

Nebb · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as, i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly. Over and Over. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about her enough to step in, not worried about being a mother hen.
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]
Then why did you say it bothers you that she doesnt hang out with you as much?

chirpchirp · December 2010

She seems to be a little behind on the responses. Maybe she's trying to figure out where the spell check button is before she hits add post. Oh wait.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as, i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly. Over and Over. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about her enough to step in, not worried about being a mother hen.
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

We don't try to find mean cocky things to say. It comes naturally to us. That's why we're the Snarky Bitches.

LessThanZero · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:689666f9-96e8-463c-9244-359b0536dcc9">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]She seems to be a little behind on the responses. Maybe she's trying to figure out where the spell check button is before she hits add post. Oh wait.
Posted by chirpchirp[/QUOTE]

She's going to read your post and be like, "There's a spell-check button?"

Oh there I go just trying to come up with cocky comments again.

chirpchirp · December 2010

Stop being so cocky. geeez.

NatesGirl16 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:46a3b961-c0c5-4b33-95d7-cd3fc2a3464d">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma??? : We don't try to find mean cocky things to say. It comes naturally to us. That's why we're the Snarky Bitches.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
So true. TK isn't into false advertising.

LessThanZero · December 2010

Haha, Chirp Chirp said "c0ck".

J&K10910 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as, i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly. Over and Over. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about her enough to step in, not worried about being a mother hen.
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

You didn't read my response, huh? Have you ever been in a relationship where someone didn't like your SO for one reason or another? If not, you can't really understand how it feels to be in love with someone and have someone you thought was there for you insult him, regardless of what he's doing.

At this point in the conversation, the ideal thing to do would be to admit that we're right and let us all move on with our lives. You included. I think you need to take a step back from this. I get that you feel like you were being helpful to her. But from what you're telling us, it's obvious to me that she doesn't feel like you're being helpful to her. Maybe you need to re-evaluate your approach if you value this friendship at all. If you don't, then don't waste your time, kick her out of your WP and find a new place to live and move on. Whatever.

NuggetBrain · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as, i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly. Over and Over. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about her enough to step in, not worried about being a mother hen.
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

There is nothing for you to step in on. If she had a child, and her FI was abusing her child, then by all means, step in. Call Social Services. Call her mother. Call a goddamn press conference. But it is absolutely NONE of your business if she chooses to continue to go back to Douche McTwatBurger everytime he decides to go vag hopping. That is HER choice. Can you continue to be her friend? Sure. But the next time she comes to you boohooing because she caught her boyfriend poking a poonanny that isn't hers, just nod a few times and go "Well, you know my opinion on it so I don't know what you want me to do. I hope everything works out. Bye."

J&K10910 · December 2010

Vag hopping. LOL! (for real)

AllAboutTheBenjamin · December 2010

Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:30b34a36-4b2e-49c2-9de8-920b96f87ddf">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wowwow hahah well see if yall wouldnt have judged it from the get-go you would have known that my comment of the idiot thing has merit. He has cheated on her 4 times and yet I am here for her eveyrtimes. and regardless of the adivce, she goes back to him so my bad calling him an idiot :)
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

Don't even pull that out of your ass right now. We can know nothing that you don't tell us.

Maybe he is an idiot for cheating on her, but she's an idiot for going back to him. And you're being an idiot if you think you can influence her choices in relationships. She knows he cheats on her, so it's her problem and it's none of your business.

I've had the same issues with friends that I lived with - it's somewhat of a roommate syndrome. You grow apart even though you're right next to each other all the damn time and before you know it, every single thing they do or don't do pisses you off and you don't even know why. In fact I think we've all been there before. I did actually tell a close friend, who was my roommate, that I didn't like her boyfriend. And our relationship suffered, especially after they got engaged. But you know what? Eventually they called it off and she found someone else and we are close again. Life goes on.

If you never want to be friends with this girl again, then kick her out of your bridal party. But really, you should just suck it up.

maratea · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as, i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly. Over and Over. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about her enough to step in, not worried about being a mother hen.
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]
She's a fucking adult. As a friend, you should be supportive, regardless of how much you dislike her BF. Because someday when this friend's heart gets broken, she's going to need a supportive friend to be there for her.

Anysunrise · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:9519ff8b-5a3e-47b0-9a2a-4c0249f240dc">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]Vag hopping. LOL! (for real)
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't get it.</div><div>
</div><div>(Hah! That's what he said.)</div>

[Deleted User] · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:1fa4a207-6209-419b-b937-8d48686acd23">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma??? : So true. TK isn't into false advertising.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]

Seriously, I mean, we come with a warning label and everything.

Apparently I'm grumpy tonight. I'm gonna go eat my Spaghettios and pretend annoying people don't exist.

pirategal03 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:aea7c30f-92e7-4f9e-913c-93df39a4d9e1">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]wow no. Mother hen has nothing to so with it. Seeing how my finace lives with us, it has nothing to do with her not spending time with me because she is with him If you would stop trying to find mean cocky things to say you would have seen that as, i call him a idiot for him cheating on her continuosly and then seeing her hurt constantly. Over and Over. Sorry but to me a good friend would be a person who cares about her enough to step in, not worried about being a mother hen.
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

So it's you and her and your FI living together? Don't you think maybe she's feeling like a bit of a third wheel?

I reiterate; focus on the friendship in a NWR way.

J&K10910 · December 2010

THIS IS WHY I TRY NOT TO BE HELPFUL. My actually helpful advice gets ignored because of ALL YOU BITCHES! GAH!!!!! Or because no one takes me seriously. That's a possibility too.

NuggetBrain · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:e275b86a-41b3-47e6-bc33-b1b21fdfdc30">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]Well thanks for the advice girls :) And oh darn I couldn't find the spell check :)
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

Wait, did you say your FI lives with you guys too? Is this in a dorm room? How old are you?

LessThanZero · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:e275b86a-41b3-47e6-bc33-b1b21fdfdc30">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]Well thanks for the advice girls :) And oh darn I couldn't find the spell check :)
Posted by MrsH8611[/QUOTE]

Are you sure? Because that's the first post you made in this thread that didn't resemble that of a 3 year old.

NuggetBrain · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-need-yall-this-one-please-moh-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:eeccfb52-6cb1-4774-b689-c2f8e74e78d1Post:38ee57fb-2327-496c-b41b-4b6bae9ad1d2">Re: I really need yall on this one please... MOH dilemma???</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>THIS IS WHY I TRY NOT TO BE HELPFUL.</strong> My actually helpful advice gets ignored because of ALL YOU BITCHES! GAH!!!!! Or because no one takes me seriously. That's a possibility too.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Your reason is far better than mine. I just can't manage to give a f*ck.

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