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MrsHoward2Be
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Update!
MrsHoward2Be
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Nothing has really changed. He is gone for 28 days working and only home for 12. Not sure if we're gonna continue with counseling. We have to try to cram a few sessions in while he's at home.
We're just not understanding each other right now, I told him I'm terrified of getting married. But he thinks I'm just giving up and running away. I haven't seen to many positive examples of marriages in my life. Never really thought I would get married either. ( I haven't told him this). I'm not trying to run the streets or anything like that. (thats what he thinks).But marriage is a huge decision in my life.
Not sure if our relationship will continue after this. He hurt because I left. I told him I'm mentally going through a lot right now.
We're just not understanding each other right now, I told him I'm terrified of getting married. But he thinks I'm just giving up and running away. I haven't seen to many positive examples of marriages in my life. Never really thought I would get married either. ( I haven't told him this). I'm not trying to run the streets or anything like that. (thats what he thinks).But marriage is a huge decision in my life.
Not sure if our relationship will continue after this. He hurt because I left. I told him I'm mentally going through a lot right now.
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Re: Update!
{{HUGZZ}}
Its really difficult but, you need to find out if the reason for the way you feel is because you havent seen good marriages and are afraid or u dont think this is the man for you. Im marrying a man that has never seen marriage go right. But, I have. It is scary. We all have our insecurities. Lord knows I have mine, haveing been through a failed marriage already I find myself alone with the Lord sometimes asking him if I can do this this time. If I wont fail this time. If this is the man for me this time. Am I a woman worth marrying? But, all those thoughts are the enemy lying to you, you take them to God and he'll tell you the truth.
If your hesitance is rooted in fear, I say meet that fear with forch head on. If you have genuine concerns as to why this man isnt the best God could bring for you then you have a lot of thinking to do.
You continue to be in my prayers
I sent you a PM because i was worried.. I hope you are okay.. I am so sorry that you are going through this and I truly believe that marriage conseling can help you get through this. But, you have to be open and not modist about what you say in there.. You know what I mean? You are there to make it work, and work out the kinks. As you know life is not peachy and you have to go through somethings to get where you want to be, but use those obstacles as trials and tribulations that will only make you stronger. I totally know where you are coming from when it comes to not having successful marriages I can't name you one in my life, but please don't let other peoples problems become yours.. You know??? if you have this awesome man that is everything that you ever dreamed of, just take it slow, and day by day and always communicate with each other, that way, ya'll won't ever get lost. I hope you can get through this, Please communicate, he sees something in you and he sees something in ya'll, that's why he got on one knee.. I've never been married and i know that there are going to be tons of test, and yes i am scared just like you, but i couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else.. Please pray sistah, and ask God to get you through this, and ask him to show you and guide you.. And please talk to him and tell him about all your fears and worries and take things day by day..I'm here if you wanna chat.. I am praying for you..
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[QUOTE](<strong>(Huggs)) Better to to be cautious on the front end, then end up divorced on the back end. Sending prayers your way</strong>.
Posted by 20pearls16[/QUOTE]
<div>so agree! prayers are going up and blessings will come done </div>