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Re-thinking my dress choice =(
Hello Gals,
I purchased a wedding dress earlier this year...and loved it up until last month. I saw pictures of myself in it, and it wasn't what I remembered it to look like on me. I didn't gain any weight or anything like that - although I would love to tone up and lose a few lbs. I just wasn't super thrilled about the way it looked on me....just not flattering.
I tend to be a little...how do I put it....detail oriented, I guess.? I overanalyze just about everything....always thinking there is something better out there. So, I feel like once I get it out of my system and try on more dresses I will either find the right one...or...realize I already have the right one.
Tonight, one of my MOHs is coming with me to try on dresses...and I truly hope I feel better about the dress situation.
Anyone else go thru this?? Or have any advice?
I purchased a wedding dress earlier this year...and loved it up until last month. I saw pictures of myself in it, and it wasn't what I remembered it to look like on me. I didn't gain any weight or anything like that - although I would love to tone up and lose a few lbs. I just wasn't super thrilled about the way it looked on me....just not flattering.
I tend to be a little...how do I put it....detail oriented, I guess.? I overanalyze just about everything....always thinking there is something better out there. So, I feel like once I get it out of my system and try on more dresses I will either find the right one...or...realize I already have the right one.
Tonight, one of my MOHs is coming with me to try on dresses...and I truly hope I feel better about the dress situation.
Anyone else go thru this?? Or have any advice?
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Re: Re-thinking my dress choice =(
It is a mistake to try on more dresses in the hopes that you will remind yourself how much you loved the first one. Put the first one on...if you really hate it, or feel there's no way you will feel good about yourself in it, then just forget it completely and shop again (remembering the limitations). But, if you're just getting 'dress cold feet', then step away, breathe, remember why you loved it to begin with, and DO NOT try on anything else. Really.
I agree- really really think about trying more on. I'm sure you look awesome in the one you have. If you loved it when you bought it- I'm sure theres a part of you that still loves it.
However, if you really hate it- and can't see yourself wearing it the day of your wedding, then of course you need to look at more- knowing that you may not get certain ones in time.
Don't second guess yourself. Yes- you know what, there are probably nicer dresses out there, and ones that you may look better in. But isn't that the case with almost everyone?
Maybe I can upload a pic or two and get some opinions?
Thanks for the advice thus far, ladies - much appreciated.
You'd be much better off going out with your BM to lok for accessories and then coming home, puting o your dress and doing your hair, makeup and accessories to see if there's any way you do like you dress.
Go with it sister!!
Please don't go shopping for another one. I'm worried that you'll panic over the short amount of time you have left and pressure yourself into buying something you're not happy with.
Why don't you start thinking about accessories? Sometimes it can be hard to get your head around the whole look when you're standing in your living room in bad lighting with your hair down and no undergarments on. Think about jewelry. Play with hairstyles. Try on shoes. It'll start to feel more real, I promise.
Miss Mrs.
Out of curiosity, what part of it do you find less than flattering?
To answer the question about exactly WHAT I don't find flattering...and it's the tummy area. I just don't see the 'curves'...and I look like a box....with a bit of a belly (what I like to call my turtle shell, haha).
I am concerned that the material (I believe it's taffeta? but could be wrong) will wrinkle al night long and in pictures will look less than stellar.
If you are truly concerned about wrinkles in pictures, consider doing them before the ceremony. My DH and I did this, and it was awesome. We got to relax together before the wedding, and my hair, makeup and dress looked great.
One other thing- once you actually hit the day of, wrinkles will be the last thing on your mind.
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[QUOTE]I just don't see the 'curves'...and I look like a box....with a bit of a belly (what I like to call my turtle shell, haha).
Posted by Missa513[/QUOTE]
Honey, you need to not be so hard on yourself. Let me help you with the visualization...RED CURVES TO DIE FOR!
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Also, I can't tell that you have a tummy at all -- the design includes rouching there to hide *anything* that may be lurking. Seriously, you look great. Give yourself a break & try to see things from your FI's eyes...he's a very lucky guy.
[QUOTE]Okay, first of all- you look great. Take a deep breath. Have you had any fittings yet?<strong> Dresses can fit a lot differently once they have been altered</strong>. Also, with the type of ruching and draping you have in your dress, as well as the fabric, some wrinkles are a possibility. However, you will get it pressed before the wedding- and it makes a huge difference in how the dress looks as well. If you're really worried about your tummy area (why?!), try spanx or something similar and see if that helps when you try on the dress. If you are truly concerned about wrinkles in pictures, consider doing them before the ceremony. My DH and I did this, and it was awesome. We got to relax together before the wedding, and my hair, makeup and dress looked great. One other thing- once you actually hit the day of, wrinkles will be the last thing on your mind.
Posted by kayakrunhike[/QUOTE]
This exactly.
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You look beautiful!
You even said you weren't wearing the proper undergarments in the August pic(though I think you look just beautiful in that picture).
Get yourself in your proper undergarments, try it on again, have someone take a picture of you in it again. Take a really long, unbiased look at yourself before you decide you need to go dress shopping again.
Have you see the consultants on TV say that you need to stop shopping when you find "the one"? It's true! You found it. You win!
I am going to try the dress on again...proper undergarments, veil and all...and then see how I feel/what I think
Thank you all so much for taking the time out to help
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Don't go looking for another dress--you definitely already have a winner!
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Tanq, gold star for that re-visualization. Genius.
Miss Mrs.
Tanq&Tonic maybe I should have a red line stitched on my dress for "effect"...hahaha so everyone can see the curves I couldn't. LOL I agree with opalsky007...gold star for you.
You don't realize how much talking about things and *breathing* will calm a stressful bride...