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TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Idk -Just as a hypothetical.... I think that watching somebody really really obese eating at a buffet makes me want to say something/do something about as much as when I see somebody smoking in front of their kids. I don't...because it's rude...but I think about it. Obviously this wasn't the case here so he should have shut his pie hole.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

I get what you're saying, but a fat person isn't going to go on a major diet overhaul immediately, anymore than telling someone "smoking is bad for you" will make them quit cold turkey. It's likely not new information.

mandapanda78 · April 2011

It's SombreG I think, babestate, but he doesn't play constantly.

Smokey, you're so preeeettty and we missed you. Would you care to pull up a recliner while we feed you grapes?

smokeybailey · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Smokey! What did you bring in your dish? I really freakin' hope it is green bean casserole.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

Girl, please. It's nachos.

cengle · April 2011

I can see where you're coming from, Andy, but IMO that's something that's between them and their doctor. It's not a stranger's business to monitor what another adult eats. If they're not listening to their doctor or their families, some stranger saying something to them is not going to help at all. And if that personal is an emotional eater, it would probably only make it worse.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2011

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[QUOTE]He actually started the Ass-burger thing, now that I think about it. It was just after his diagnosis and we were talking about some trouble he was having at work. I said "Do you think maybe this has something to do with the Aspergers?" and he yelled "YOU'RE AN ASS-BURGER!!". Never let it be said we don't have humor in our household.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

Having met you both, this is so true. I thought Adam was really funny. And we all know you are.

Meg1979 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : They are obviously different situations...but my feelings about speaking up and telling that person something they are obviously ignoring. Idk - I think people need to be more upfront about the amount of obesity in america. I'm not talking overweightness either - I'm talking about Biggest Loser fat.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I generally stay off FFF, but this annoys me. I don't if it's because I'm one of those morbidly obese out there or what, but we get it. We know we are fat and I wouldn't take kindly to someone, a stranger or friend, telling me to take care of the problem I'm "ignoring."

smokeybailey · April 2011

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[QUOTE]It's SombreG I think, babestate, but he doesn't play constantly. Smokey, you're so preeeettty and we missed you. Would you care to pull up a recliner while we feed you grapes?
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

Are you mad? Feed me cake balls or something. Grapes? What are you, my grandma?

Well, unless they are in liquid form. Then bring it on.

mica178 · April 2011

I've been craving nachos for a while. Darn H for hating Mexican food and being on a diet (a nasty duo).

adamar15 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Girl, please. It's nachos.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

Nachos and scotch...I think I love you.

andy71781 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I can see where you're coming from, Andy, but IMO that's something that's between them and their doctor. It's not a stranger's business to monitor what another adult eats. If they're not listening to their doctor or their families, some stranger saying something to them is not going to help at all. And if that personal is an emotional eater, it would probably only make it worse.
Posted by cengle[/QUOTE]

I totally agree - which is why I wouldn't say anything to that person. But I do think that it's fine for a doctor/loved one to say that - and I don't think that over eating in general is healthy.

ahhhitsshannyn · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Girl, please. It's nachos.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

Well I know it is not mine, but I thought you were going to share!!!

See... see what I did there? :D

baystateapple · April 2011

Nachos sound pretty incredible right now. I have no idea what to make for dinner.

*end tangent*

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Girl, please. It's nachos.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

Then stick around. We have an open bar.

Beachy730 · April 2011

I have to say when I see morbidly obese people when I'm at a buffet or fast food place, it definitely makes me rethink my food choice, or at least feel extra guillty about it. I totally understand that not everyone's weight issues are from a poor diet, but more often than not it is. And when I see obese parents with obese children at buffets and fast food places, I want to punch the parents for teaching their children horrible eating habits. And like Andy said, I'm talking morbidly obese, and possible Biggest Loser candidates, not just people who are overweight.

smokeybailey · April 2011

Okay, I am just catching up on the obesity discussion. Perhaps my desire for nachos AND cake balls is misplaced.

So are you going to judge me while I stuff my face with nachos and wash it down with 30 year old Scotch? Because I would very much like you to "speak up" to save me from myself.

ahhhitsshannyn · April 2011

mmmmm cake balls...

mandapanda78 · April 2011

andy, I have to ask- do you assume that fat people WANT to change? Cause, I don't think they all do. I think it wouldn't be too hard to find someone, even "Biggest Loser Fat" who would tell you they've weighed their options (no pun intended) and have accepted their lives as they are.

Also, I think it's a pretty slippery slope to say "This is where I draw the line on who I judge weight-wise".

andy71781 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Okay, I am just catching up on the obesity discussion. Perhaps my desire for nachos AND cake balls is misplaced. So are you going to judge me while I stuff my face with nachos and wash it down with 30 year old Scotch? Because I would very much like you to "speak up" to save me from myself.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

FTR I never said I'd speak up. I'm probably just ask you to share some of that scotch with me.

georgia_bride09 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I can see where you're coming from, Andy, but IMO that's something that's between them and their doctor. It's not a stranger's business to monitor what another adult eats. If they're not listening to their doctor or their families, some stranger saying something to them is not going to help at all. And if that personal is an emotional eater, it would probably only make it worse.
Posted by cengle[/QUOTE]

Not to mention that's rude as hell.

Note to self: only eat carrots in front of Andy.

midgetthemighty · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Smokey! What did you bring in your dish? I really freakin' hope it is green bean casserole.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

OMG I <3 green bean casserole!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Okay, I am just catching up on the obesity discussion. Perhaps my desire for nachos AND cake balls is misplaced. So are you going to judge me while I stuff my face with nachos and wash it down with 30 year old Scotch? Because I would very much like you to "speak up" to save me from myself.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

No, you're skinny. Doesn't count. It's like negative calories if your BMI is under 25 or something. I can't do math, I don't know.

mixtapehearts · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Are you mad? Feed me cake balls or something. Grapes? What are you, my grandma? Well, unless they are in liquid form. Then bring it on.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

<div>We haven't met, but I like how you think....</div>

andy71781 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]andy, I have to ask- do you assume that fat people WANT to change? Cause, I don't think they all do. I think it wouldn't be too hard to find someone, even "Biggest Loser Fat" who would tell you they've weighed their options (no pun intended) and have accepted their lives as they are. Also, I think it's a pretty slippery slope to say "This is where I draw the line on who I judge weight-wise".
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

I think that people who are morbidly obese either want to change or should want to change.

louisvillebride21 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Not to mention that's rude as hell. Note to self: only eat carrots in front of Andy.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

Make sure there's no ranch to dip it in. Dressing is fattening!

Birdie1483 · April 2011

There are people like one particular family member of mine who has been morbidly obese for most of her life and is now to the point where her health is so poor, she can barely walk, can't drive, and will probably end up in an assisted living facility in the next few years. We've tried talk to her to lose the weight and she just won't. I don't think she cares anymore,

Then there are people like me who KNOW they are overweight and hate themselves for it. I can't look in the mirror without being disgusted with what I"ve let happen to my body. If someone other than my mom or FI said something to me about my weight I'd probably roll up into a ball of hysterics on the floor.

louisvillebride21 · April 2011

Gah, even the term Morbidly Obese is annoying. Do you realize that most foot ball players would be considered that? It's calculate don BMI. It's fairly arbitrary. And it's jsut obnoxious. It's none of your business what I eat.

smokeybailey · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I have to say when I see morbidly obese people when I'm at a buffet or fast food place, it definitely makes me rethink my food choice, or at least feel extra guillty about it. I totally understand that not everyone's weight issues are from a poor diet, but more often than not it is. And when I see obese parents with obese children at buffets and fast food places, I want to punch the parents for teaching their children horrible eating habits. And like Andy said, I'm talking morbidly obese, and possible Biggest Loser candidates, not just people who are overweight.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

I live by a buffet and I see these people all the time. Why? Because they can afford it. They probably eat one big meal a day. Same with fast food. I can feed my kids off the dollar menu? Fantastic. Also, because I am poor there are tons of fast food joins on the bus route or within walking distance of my house.

Should they make better choices? Of course. CAN THEY? I'm not so sure about that. I am sure that if you really start breaking down obesity in America, I am confident you will find that poor communities are affected at a much higher rate.

So maybe slow your roll on the punching parents.

JessAndTrav · April 2011

Ugh. My computer died and I was soooooo excited to be here for a whole FFF.

SUCK.

Btw, Hello MandaPanda! I've missed you!

baystateapple · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Then there are people like me who KNOW they are overweight and hate themselves for it. I can't look in the mirror without being disgusted with what I"ve let happen to my body. If someone other than my mom or FI said something to me about my weight I'd probably roll up into a ball of hysterics on the floor.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

This is me, too, Birdie. Except for the part about my mom. Because she has no problem telling me when I look fat. I don't think she does it to be mean. I just think sometimes she's just as socially inept as XBox guy.

*HUGS*

smokeybailey · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I think that people who are morbidly obese either want to change or should want to change.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

Some of those folks have depression and just don't care anymore. They are self medicating and possibly eating themselves to death (knowingly). I don't think that is a fair statement at all.

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