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How long have you been with your FI? Just curious :)
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  • edited December 2011
    7 years in May.
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  • MrsPapsMrsPaps member
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    "offically" 3 years but we've been main stays in each other's lives for about 4 and a half years. Just slow into the dating game :-)
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  • edited December 2011

    July 30th of this year would have been 6 years but we will be married on July 1 (yeah!!!) But, we have known each other since 1996.

  • TEA&CoTEA&Co member
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    It was 4 years in January.
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  • edited December 2011
    2 years in a week! Known each other for about 3 years.
  • edited December 2011
    6 years next month!
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    4 years on Friday! :)
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  • edited December 2011
    1 year in July... but by the time we're married it will be over 2 years.

    ... it's quick, I know, but when you know, you know. We both told our best friends on our first date (without each other knowing) that we'd met the person we were going to marry.
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    edited December 2011
    6 years in July :)
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    It will be two years this Jun but we've know each other for closer to three.
  • fashionxfashionx member
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    edited December 2011
    was 9 years in February.

    We started dating the end of my junior year of high school.
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    9 years in July
  • daizee32daizee32 member
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    edited December 2011
    A year and 2 months.  :)
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  • edited December 2011
    Going on 4 years, although I have know him for 7.
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    6 Years in October! :)
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    edited December 2011
    We'll have been dating for 3 years by the time we get married in October :)  
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    Wow, I'm surprised by all of the "long" relationships.

    DH and I were married on our 11 yr dating anniversary.  AW warning: We've been "dating" since 8th grade :O) (with one 3-month break up our soph. year of high-school, but otherwise together the whole time)
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_illinois-chicago_poll-long-fi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:72Discussion:15638d39-90ae-4126-a3f7-d261acff49a7Post:abb7e0fa-d2d7-47dd-8ece-f7781c6351e4">Re: Poll: How Long Have You Been With Your FI?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it would be interesting to see the correlation between # of years with FI and how old you are. This is just a thought, but I'd guess most of the longer relationships are people who are younger (dating through college or hs sweetheart) and the shorter relationships are older. Just a generalization obviously. FI and I have been together for one year and 7 months - it will be just under 2 years when we get married. I'm 29, he's 31. I guess what I'm trying to say is just that it's probably easier to commit to your prince onces you've dated a ton of frogs.
    Posted by rombacja[/QUOTE]
    I agree with this, generally. FI and I are 26 and we'll hit the 3 year mark a few weeks before our wedding. I've dated a ton of losers, so it was easy to see that FI was a winner when we found each other :) I remember calling one of my best friends back home and telling her I "met someone special" the Monday after the weekend when I met FI. And now here we are!
  • edited December 2011
    Our 2 year is this Friday!

    I would agree with PP.  We were engaged in 18 months - but are 28 and 30.  I had to go through many losers to find the one
  • rombacjarombacja member
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    I think it would be interesting to see the correlation between # of years with FI and how old you are. This is just a thought, but I'd guess most of the longer relationships are people who are younger (dating through college or hs sweetheart) and the shorter relationships are older. Just a generalization obviously. FI and I have been together for one year and 7 months - it will be just under 2 years when we get married. I'm 29, he's 31. I guess what I'm trying to say is just that it's probably easier to commit to your prince onces you've dated a ton of frogs.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_illinois-chicago_poll-long-fi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:72Discussion:15638d39-90ae-4126-a3f7-d261acff49a7Post:abb7e0fa-d2d7-47dd-8ece-f7781c6351e4">Re: Poll: How Long Have You Been With Your FI?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it would be interesting to see the correlation between # of years with FI and how old you are. This is just a thought, but I'd guess most of the longer relationships are people who are younger (dating through college or hs sweetheart) and the shorter relationships are older. Just a generalization obviously. FI and I have been together for one year and 7 months - it will be just under 2 years when we get married. I'm 29, he's 31. I guess what I'm trying to say is just that it's probably easier to commit to your prince onces you've dated a ton of frogs.
    Posted by rombacja[/QUOTE]

    I'm 24 and have been with DH 11.5 yrs, almost half of my life.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_illinois-chicago_poll-long-fi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:72Discussion:15638d39-90ae-4126-a3f7-d261acff49a7Post:abb7e0fa-d2d7-47dd-8ece-f7781c6351e4">Re: Poll: How Long Have You Been With Your FI?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it would be interesting to see the correlation between # of years with FI and how old you are. This is just a thought, but I'd guess most of the longer relationships are people who are younger (dating through college or hs sweetheart) and the shorter relationships are older. Just a generalization obviously. FI and I have been together for one year and 7 months - it will be just under 2 years when we get married. I'm 29, he's 31. I guess what I'm trying to say is just that it's probably easier to commit to your prince onces you've dated a ton of frogs.
    Posted by rombacja[/QUOTE]


    I am 25 and have been with FI for 7 years so almost a quarter of my life.  But I totally agree.
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  • edited December 2011
    We've known each other three years this month...together 3.5 by the time our October wedding gets here :)
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    i'm 22 and it'll be 7 years in october. C: i can't believe it. that's nearly a third of my life. i definitely look forward to spending the rest of our lives together. we'll have been together for nearly 8 years by the time we get married.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_illinois-chicago_poll-long-fi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:72Discussion:15638d39-90ae-4126-a3f7-d261acff49a7Post:abb7e0fa-d2d7-47dd-8ece-f7781c6351e4">Re: Poll: How Long Have You Been With Your FI?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it would be interesting to see the correlation between # of years with FI and how old you are. This is just a thought, but I'd guess most of the longer relationships are people who are younger (dating through college or hs sweetheart) and the shorter relationships are older. Just a generalization obviously. FI and I have been together for one year and 7 months - it will be just under 2 years when we get married. I'm 29, he's 31. I guess what I'm trying to say is just that it's probably easier to commit to your prince onces you've dated a ton of frogs.
    Posted by rombacja[/QUOTE]

    I think it has exceptions though. I'm going on 25 and we haven't been together a "long" time. I was just lucky to figure out what I needed and wanted at a younger age.
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  • edited December 2011
    We are both over 30 - we've been together for almost 2 years. Yes, have been to hell and back with dating, and when I met him I knew what I wanted and knew it was him!
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    edited December 2011
    interesting point, rombacja.

    It could have to do with the money and being able to take on the next step of marriage too.

    I'm turning 26 next month and have been with FI for 9 years (since HS). We did know we wanted to get married to each other for a long time, but because of school, getting real jobs, and all other things, it wouldn't have made sense for us financially to get married within just a couple years of dating. Plus, so many people tell you not to get married at age 19 or 20, so wanting to "make sure" we're comitted to each other before actually getting married, was important to us too. I'm sure if we had met each other when we were a little older, it wouldn't have "taken so long" lol.
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm 25 and have been with FI for 5 yrs this summer....but we've known each other for 8yrs.
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    edited December 2011
    It will be 7 years in October (I'll be 27).  We started dating my sophomore year of college and met freshman year.  

    I think that's an interesting observation about lenght of time together vs. age.  I think there is a stigma about young people (20 and under) getting married, espcially when they haven't been dating long. At the same time, it's much more socially acceptable for "older" (28 and older) to get married after a shorter time period.

    People can be judgemental on the topic, and I admit I am too sometimes, but I don't think it's the best tool to predict marital success.  A couple my FI and I went to school with started dating a couple years after us, got married right after college, and are now divorced.  

    I think the most important thing is if you are able to grow and change together.  During the period after high school and the period after college,(and I'm sure other phases I haven't reached yet!) your life changes pretty siginificantly.  I thnk that couple that divorced were good with the college versions of each other, but wanted different things as the "adult" versions of themselves.  As long as your relationship can adapt and you support and care about each other, you're pretty much set regardless of age or length of time together!

    Phew! Sorry about the long post, but I think it was an interesting point.
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