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Childcare?!
Hi all..I'm a june 2012 bride and I know it may be a bit early to start planning the small things, but I was wondering about what you all are going to do for childcare? Are you hiring sitters, not inviting children, or just letting the children roam around the venue? I'd like to invite children, but I know how uncooperative they can be at times.. I'd like to pay for some sort of childcare, but I don't have any ideas. I guess that could be a good question to ask a potential venue..if they offer some kind of childcare service..I wonder how much extra that would cost us. Would you guys pay extra for childcare at your wedding? TIA!!
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Re: Childcare?!
I'm allowing kids to roam free. Our wedding is in the afternoon and more casual then formal, so it won't be a big deal for us.
I personally wouldn't pay extra for childcare. If you don't mind having kids present, I would ask the venue if there was maybe a room you could use to set up kid stuff like coloring books and crayons, maybe a movie and have some kid friendly snacks. If you don't want kids involved at all, I would say it's up to the parents to figure out the situation individually. If your wedding is in your area and most people don't have to travel, then I'm sure people with kids won't mind having a sitter for the night.
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One thing I am considering doing is a special toss for the kids like one of my cousins did. It was a bunch of stuffed animals! Super cute.
I'm having an adults only reception minus immediate family's kids.
Even the kids in the wedding will be having dinner and leaving after. I remember being a kid at my aunts wedding (I was the flower girl and it was my 6th birthday) and I cried and acted like a little witch because I wanted to go home. My mom reminds me of it until this day and I keep telling her it was her fault to bring a 6 year old and expect her to last all day and night ahhah...
But do what you feel is best for the feel of your wedding.
We originally planned on having an adults only reception. However, FI has a few younger cousins that we really wanted to be there. We had a hard time saying "Oh you can bring your kids, but not you." So we just decided to let children come. I have a feeling a lot of the adults will want to enjoy the night without their children and not bring them anyways.
Personally, I wouldn't pay for anyone's childcare. I think the parents can make the decision whether or not to bring their kids and it is their responsibility if the kids get bored, cranky, etc. If you have a lot of OOT guests I do think it would a nice gesture to have a list of babysitters that you can recommend but you don't need to offer to pay for it.
Like I said, we're still thinking about it. But I'm strongly considering the option. If FI didn't have nieces and nephews, we would be having a strictly adults only reception.
[QUOTE]<strong>Wow you girls are making feel like a cold hearted bridezilla</strong> not having kids at our wedding! haha The irony is I'm a teacher!
Posted by MaryLaura13[/QUOTE]
Haha, don't feel that way! Like I said in my post above, if it wasn't for FI's nieces and nephews we'd be having an adults only reception too. As it is, no children from my side of the family will be invited.
[QUOTE]Wow you girls are making feel like a cold hearted bridezilla not having kids at our wedding! haha The irony is I'm a teacher!
Posted by MaryLaura13[/QUOTE]
Don't feel that way! If kids weren't cheaper they'd be cut from our list too.
Edit: I would never pay for a babysitter to watch other people's kids. I was kind of answering this question from a parent stand point. My daughter will be at our wedding but I don't want to have to take care of her and tend to her every need during the reception ( I know that sounds bad but you know what I mean). I want her there but want to enjoy myself too lol so we are just hiring a babysitter just for her. I don't really want kids at our reception but there will be a few nieces, nephews, and close family friend children there.
[QUOTE]NO CHILDREN at my wedding! Sorry to sound like such a bitch, but its just not the place for kids (in my opinion) but it also depends what kind of wedding you plan on having like Julbgordo said hers is afternoon and thats perfect for kids. Even the kids in the wedding will be having dinner and leaving after. I remember being a kid at my aunts wedding (I was the flower girl and it was my 6th birthday) and I cried and acted like a little witch because I wanted to go home. My mom reminds me of it until this day and I keep telling her it was her fault to bring a 6 year old and expect her to last all day and night ahhah... But do what you feel is best for the feel of your wedding.
Posted by MaryLaura13[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>I may sound like a bitch too, but there will be only one child at my wedding, my fi's nephew. Honestly, I work with kids all day, and for my wedding, would like it to be an adult afair. Especially since it is going to be a more elegant wedding and at night.</div>
[QUOTE]Wow you girls are making feel like a cold hearted bridezilla not having kids at our wedding! haha The irony is I'm a teacher!
Posted by MaryLaura13[/QUOTE]
I'm not having kids at my wedding either (besides those in the WP) and I'm also a teacher. =) We're having a formal, evening wedding and I personally don't think it's the place for children.
[QUOTE]Wow you girls are making feel like a cold hearted bridezilla not having kids at our wedding! haha The irony is I'm a teacher!
Posted by MaryLaura13[/QUOTE]
GIRL! I am a teacher too! lol.
I am having kids roam free with a potential room set up in the back because I would love for the kids to be there...also my friend had kids at her wedding and although it was an afternoon/evening wedding, I had fun with them as the MOH. Granted, their parents weren't too concerned but we danced with them and had an awesome time! I taught the younger ones all of the choreographed dances...and I think they had an awesome experience...something I would love to give to all my little cousins!
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[QUOTE]Wow you girls are making feel like a cold hearted bridezilla not having kids at our wedding! haha The irony is I'm a teacher!
Posted by MaryLaura13[/QUOTE]
this is funny. to each her own. we will also let them roam free- i think they provide great entertainment, especially on the dance floor. i will probably buy bubbles and coloring books or something like that though!
We aren't going to pay for childcare. I think if the parents want to bring them, they are responsible for them. If they get into trouble, then it is their fault.
If you do decide to invest in childcare for the children at your wedding, I would make sure it can happen on-site for the reception. Most parents I know would happily allow someone else to watch their children at a wedding reception, but would not be willing to let their children be entirely out of their site without personal knowledge of the babysitter.
[QUOTE]We aren't going to pay for childcare. I think if the parents want to bring them, they are responsible for them. If they get into trouble, then it is their fault.
Posted by doeie04[/QUOTE]
<div>I totally agree. We will invite them and if the parents decide to bring them, their kids are their repsonsibiltiy to care for. </div>