telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding

aral2003 · August 2010

Isn;t this website for people planning weddings and not married old hags? guess some peoples' marriages are pretty boring!!!!

AmoroAgain · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:4f53079b-122c-4290-8820-de9c37c9eba1">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Georgia it's not puppies and rainbows it's honest advice instead of constantly berating everyone on here. I'm convinced that the majority of you are old hag knotties not at all concerned with what people are truly going through and instead using this site as a way to inflict self-doubt into the minds of every bride to be.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

I gouge marks on my bedpost every time one runs away crying from something I said.

wadingmoose · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:4f53079b-122c-4290-8820-de9c37c9eba1">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Georgia it's not puppies and rainbows it's honest advice instead of constantly berating everyone on here. I'm convinced that the majority of you are old hag knotties not at all concerned with what people are truly going through and instead using this site as a way to inflict self-doubt into the minds of every bride to be.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

No. I use this site simply for my own entertainment.

Women don't need more self-doubt. Most of us suffer from it enough. I dont' think that would be this poster's problem. This poster seems to suffer from a lack of self-honesty about the situation and her role in it.

Stackeye210 · August 2010

Honestly though Aral2003......people have given you great advice in this board, you just don't want to hear that the GM has the right to refuse to come if his wife isn't invited, and you refuse to think it's necessary to invite a social unit as such. We can't help you if you don't want to listen to the true etiquette of the situation.

georgia_bride09 · August 2010

[QUOTE]Georgia it's not puppies and rainbows it's honest advice instead of constantly berating everyone on here. I'm convinced that the majority of you are old hag knotties not at all concerned with what people are truly going through and instead using this site as a way to inflict self-doubt into the minds of every bride to be.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

You caught me! I'm just here to inflict self-doubt on delusional brides. And bodily harm if necessary. And the occasional "Biitch, please".

Biitch, please.

laurenclaire1386 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:8db29770-22ec-4e3a-b0bb-f22e41f12908">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Isn;t this website for people planning weddings and not married old hags? guess some peoples' marriages are pretty boring!!!!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]
Oh how clever and original you are. Actually, this board is a support group for those of us who have sharted in public, or been near someone who has sharted. Sorry for any confusion.

AmoroAgain · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:8db29770-22ec-4e3a-b0bb-f22e41f12908">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Isn;t this website for people planning weddings and not married old hags? guess some peoples' marriages are pretty boring!!!!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

deep breath

HAHAHAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Yes, you're right. It's because my marriage is SOOOOOO boring. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

emilyinchile · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:4f53079b-122c-4290-8820-de9c37c9eba1">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Georgia it's not puppies and rainbows it's honest advice instead of constantly berating everyone on here. I'm convinced that the majority of you are old hag knotties not at all concerned with what people are truly going through and instead using this site as a way to inflict self-doubt into the minds of every bride to be.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

But Shana, your advice is, to put it bluntly, crap. You told someone to ask the groom's parents for money - NO (and you then said that oops, you realized you were wrong). You're now telling someone to replace a groomsman - NO.

It's fine to phrase things however you want, but the substance of what you are saying is just bad advice.

emilyinchile · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:d385b9a3-ac43-4679-93e3-c65bfea70aac">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : I gouge marks on my bedpost every time one runs away crying from something I said.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

DED

Stackeye210 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:8db29770-22ec-4e3a-b0bb-f22e41f12908">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Isn;t this website for people planning weddings and not married old hags? guess some peoples' marriages are pretty boring!!!!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

You need married hags on a planning website to help people like you from making HUGE etiquette mistakes at their $150/plate classy, elegant Saratoga, NY wedding. So try to soak it all in.

AmoroAgain · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:b1b17bce-d775-4031-8528-94b10c9ad336">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]You caught me! I'm just here to inflict self-doubt on delusional brides. And bodily harm if necessary. And the occasional "Biitch, please". Biitch, please.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]
Blaque pussy approves of this message.

ShanaFry · August 2010

You have a bone to pick Georgia pick away, sorry that I'm not mean and angry and I enjoy being considered a nice person vs. rude and outspoken. Last time I checked being considerate and kind weren't bad attributes.

wadingmoose · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:8db29770-22ec-4e3a-b0bb-f22e41f12908">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Isn;t this website for people planning weddings and not married old hags? guess some peoples' marriages are pretty boring!!!!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

Oh...sweetie....

My job is boring. My marriage is fine. That's why I'm on here during the day and not in the evening.

AmoroAgain · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:018584ce-aa96-4aac-a08a-d7737b2cc82a">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : Oh...sweetie.... My job is boring. My marriage is fine. That's why I'm on here during the day and not in the evening.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Wait, what does it mean when I'm on here during my evening!? OH NOESMYMARRIAGE IS DOOOOOMED.

kikibaby · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:3da5c28f-e35f-4796-9091-1ee607168e01">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : Honest advice is not telling someone to find a replacement GM. That is bad advice, you do not replace GM - just sharted undies.
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

Stacks, can I use this as my sig quote? it just says it all, really.

aral2003 · August 2010

my fiance and i expected this GM to back out as a result. and we are fine with it. it is just very sad that this 30-yr old "woman" felt the need to shout such a degrading word at someone's wedding and that it put her husband in a difficult position. how disrespectful is that to the bride and groom and their families.

Stackeye210 · August 2010

Quote away kiki.

georgia_bride09 · August 2010

[QUOTE]You have a bone to pick Georgia pick away, sorry that I'm not mean and angry and I enjoy being considered a nice person vs. rude and outspoken. Last time I checked being considerate and kind weren't bad attributes.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

I think you're lost. Try Brides.com. or weddingwire.com.

You're welcome!!1!!

wadingmoose · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:95d19e27-6ff7-4aa9-9700-2a4ea5c33fe3">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]You have a bone to pick Georgia pick away, sorry that I'm not mean and angry and I enjoy being considered a nice person vs. rude and outspoken. Last time I checked being considerate and kind weren't bad attributes.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

I don't think considerate and kind are the qualities that Georgia has seen in you. Look, you seem like you might have a head on your shoulders. Insulting people here and calling us hags isn't really going to win friends and influence people. You know, since you're talking about kindness and consideration.

We like to have fun. We aren't paid to be here and answer questions. Most of us stay because we have fun and only because we have fun. Like Stacks said, it's the married people that have experiences you can learn from.

But I'll be honest, when a question involves someone being called the c-word, I'm gonna have fun with it. How could I not?

Stackeye210 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:abd580ae-7ba6-4a21-bf32-c1b889b831c0">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]my fiance and i expected this GM to back out as a result. and we are fine with it. it is just very sad that this 30-yr old "woman" felt the need to shout such a degrading word at someone's wedding and that it put her husband in a difficult position. how disrespectful is that to the bride and groom and their families.
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

I completely 100% agree with you! All the rest of your bragging just wasn't necessary.

emilyinchile · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:abd580ae-7ba6-4a21-bf32-c1b889b831c0">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]my fiance and i expected this GM to back out as a result. and we are fine with it. it is just very sad that this 30-yr old "woman" felt the need to shout such a degrading word at someone's wedding and that it put her husband in a difficult position. how disrespectful is that to the bride and groom and their families. 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

Not really. It's disrespectful to you, but I don't think that her calling you a bad word and then you deciding to univite her from your wedding somehow means that she is disrespecting your parents.

But I'm an old married hag, so what do I know.

ShanaFry · August 2010

You're right about the ask groom's family for money that was my mistake but replacing a groomsmen, seriously you're kidding right? Most people have to add or subtract friends from WP to match numbers anyway, I'm sure there is a guy involved in this party that could stand in, not to mention that was a sidenote to the real point, which was forget about it no unit would be invited to my wedding if it was going to make me feel uineasy on the most important day of my life.

NuggetBrain · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:4f53079b-122c-4290-8820-de9c37c9eba1">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Georgia it's not puppies and rainbows it's honest advice instead of constantly berating everyone on here. I'm convinced that the majority of you are old hag knotties not at all concerned with what people are truly going through and instead using this site as a way to inflict self-doubt into the minds of every bride to be.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

If there was some way to singlehandedly inflict a mental thought into somebody's head strong enough to change their actual behavior or mental health, I would use my power for better things than making a bunch of strangers on the internet feel sad that I don't agree with their color scheme.

georgia_bride09 · August 2010

So your whole post was just to biitch that she called you a c*nt? I bet you a dollar she's over it. Now it's your turn.

laurenclaire1386 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:d6b2ce4c-26fd-42dd-b1cc-b0c683cfa61f">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]You're right about the ask groom's family for money that was my mistake but replacing a groomsmen, seriously you're kidding right? Most people have to add or subtract friends from WP to match numbers anyway, I'm sure there is a guy involved in this party that could stand in, not to mention that was a sidenote to the real point, which was forget about it no unit would be invited to my wedding if it was going to make me feel uineasy on the most important day of my life.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]
Nope. Wrong. Most people pick their nearest and dearest to be in the wedding party and don't give a good gosh darn about numbers.

wadingmoose · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:abd580ae-7ba6-4a21-bf32-c1b889b831c0">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]my fiance and i expected this GM to back out as a result. and we are fine with it. it is just very sad that this 30-yr old "woman" felt the need to shout such a degrading word at someone's wedding and that it put her husband in a difficult position. how disrespectful is that to the bride and groom and their families.
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

The situation that lead to this is the sad situation. You want to stop and point fingers at this single point in time without taking responsibility for your actions that helped bring you to the pointing of the fingers.

What is truly sad and disrespectful is the fact you want to gloss over that and paint this woman (who isn't here to defend herself, mind you) as a horrible, awful person.

It takes two to tango, sweetheart.

AND, finally. YOU put her husband in the awful situation when you issued your petty ultimatum by not inviting his wife. THAT was all your doing, not hers.

emilyinchile · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:d6b2ce4c-26fd-42dd-b1cc-b0c683cfa61f">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]You're right about the ask groom's family for money that was my mistake but replacing a groomsmen, seriously you're kidding right? Most people have to add or subtract friends from WP to match numbers anyway, I'm sure there is a guy involved in this party that could stand in, not to mention that was a sidenote to the real point, which was forget about it no unit would be invited to my wedding if it was going to make me feel uineasy on the most important day of my life.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

Wrong. Even sides aren't necessary. A lot of people don't have them, even people who are "soooo anal" or "totally OCD!" with lots of things. WPs are about your best friends in the world - if I have 4 and my H has 3, what kind of sense does it make to put numbers above friendships and either say I have to exclude one of my friends or that he has to ask someone he's not that close with to share our wedding day just to get to even sides?

opalsky007 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:d6b2ce4c-26fd-42dd-b1cc-b0c683cfa61f">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]You're right about the ask groom's family for money that was my mistake but replacing a groomsmen, seriously you're kidding right? Most people have to add or subtract friends from WP to match numbers anyway, I'm sure there is a guy involved in this party that could stand in, not to mention that was a sidenote to the real point, which was forget about it no unit would be invited to my wedding if it was going to make me feel uineasy on the most important day of my life.
Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

NO. Numbers do not have to match. It's a wedding, not a broadway kickline.

You have the people up there who are important to you. How would you feel if you were the "backup" friend who got called in to fill an empty bridesmaid dress?

crfische · August 2010

WHATS GOING ON IN HERE?!?

wadingmoose · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_telling-groomsman-his-wife-not-invited-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3c4ed31-7b33-4350-b5f5-e31e428a9188Post:ee90d484-8382-45fa-a711-94e4b05b0ddf">Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : Wait, what does it mean when I'm on here during my evening!? OH NOESMYMARRIAGE IS DOOOOOMED.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

It means your husband is out of town or sitting next to you on the sofa while you skype chat with people.

HI ALLEN!!!!

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