this is the code for the render ad
Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Cakes & Food Forum
Wedding Cakes & Food Forum
New Discussion

Tacky?

123457

Re: Tacky?

  • josephandamyjosephandamy member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I say go for it!  We are doing chocolate cupcakes so no matter what you have to be careful about your dress.  What we are doing and I might suggest is that you put a package of baby wipes at each table, then people can clean their hands before they even get up!  They also might make a "dress cover", I guess instead of like a bib at a restaurant it would cover your whole dress.  I don't know for sure about that though.
    Report Reply
  • mszczepan2mszczepan2 member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Definately do your BBQ. Like others have said there are ways to dress up a BBQ meal. It doesn't have to be baked beans, corn on the cob and smothered BBQ chicken. Who cares what others think. You should incorporate your personalities, interests and what represents you both as a couple. Have fun with it!!!
    Report Reply
  • cbeldersoncbelderson
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I actually went to a wedding this past May where the food was BBQ- it was the most fantastic thing ever. It tasted great (it was actually all homemade by the bride's family, and there were still 100 people there) and was really fun! The wedding wasn't really formal, but no one showed up in jeans. It really is your wedding, you should have it how you want. You could present the food in an aesthetically pleasing way, but I think the main point is to have fun. :) Good luck!
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • BrandiB26BrandiB26
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I just recently went to a wedding very similar to yours. The ceremony was outside by a lake and then everyone went inside for the reception. It was definitely not a casual wedding. They had BBQ pulled pork and BBQ bone-in chicken with the works...pickle, onion, and rye bread along with potato salad, etc. It was amazing! It was such a nice change from the norm and everyone complimented her on it. I say go for it!
    Report Reply
  • Liz.P.ALiz.P.A member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    It's whatever you want, I was thinking the same thing about BBQ and I'm having an outside wedding in my sisters backyard. And I'm thinking it's cost effective also. LA
    Report Reply
  • Tiffne4467Tiffne4467 member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I'm having my wedding in August, and I plan on having BBQ meatballs and other sides. I kind of feel a little uncomfortable having BBQ, because it does feel kinda tacky, but I don't have the money to have steak and crablegs!  So BBQ it is! haha
    Report Reply
  • KiKi2011KiKi2011 member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    BBQ at a wedding reception is NOT AT ALL TACKY!!!!!! If you are worried that your guest won't see the vision you have in your mind remember that there are many ways to dress up BBQ. Be creative.
    Report Reply
  • jschliewe2bjschliewe2b
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't care what anyone else thinks. It's your big day, not theres. My fiance and I are having a nice formal ceramony in a little chapel on our local Army base. Then were all going to change and do a grill out at the park down the street from the chapel. It does NOT matter how you celebrate your wedding. The only thing that matters is that you guys are in love. And I say if they think it's tacky for a BBQ reception, they don't really need to be there. If a BBQ makes you happy, then go for it. Do what is comfortable for you and your fiance.
    Report Reply
  • Victoria&CharlsieVictoria&Charlsie member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I worked in a BBQ restaurant that was in a beautiful hotel for about three years, and honestly some of the most beautiful wedding receptions I've ever been to were there. It really is all in how it is presented. If BBQ is what your heart is set on, then do it.
    Report Reply
  • ceratonin1ceratonin1 member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Not tacky at all. Your paying for it do what you want.
    Report Reply
  • mseisenkraftmseisenkraft member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I think it sounds like a fun idea, but I say that with the caveat that I tend to feel like it's *your* wedding, do what you want and make it YOUR wedding.

     As some others suggested, make sure there are knife and fork food options. 

    Also, this may not be an issue because it says the bride is in Mississippi, but as an NYC Jew I'd consider giving the guests a non-pork option! 
    Report Reply
  • Mrs KubackiMrs Kubacki member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    As a bride planning a theme wedding, please allow me to give you my suggestion.  I am also having BBQ at my reception.  LOTS of BBQ.  We are having a Renaissance Wedding and wanted food that fit the theme.  My Dress is made of cream colored silk.  The solution for me was this.  I am having the seamstress make me a frilly over coat that buttons down the front made of thicker material to wear during eating.  I found the pattern on the Vouge patterns website.  It is a beautiful overcoat and will not take away from the evening.  Hope this helps. 

    P.S. Do what YOU want.  It is YOUR day not anyone else's.    Wink
    Report Reply
  • justiceswifejusticeswife member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011

    It is absolutely not tacky! You are a Southern Belle and every single bridal magazine that I've read has listed BBQ, mac & cheese and other Southern staples as some of the most popular fare for brides going the way of comfort food. So don't see it as being tacky, see it as being fashionable! :) Congrats!!

    Report Reply
  • dpickertdpickert
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    believe me, i'm a girl who is extremely laid-back and doesn't really dress-up or put make-up on for anything...obviously this will change on the day of my wedding...but i'm constantly trying to figure out if the reception will look tacky because me and my fiance are sooo laid-back, but if and your fiance love BBQ, THEN DO IT! there are several ways to make it "untacky," if you feel it is tacky. but if you and your fiance like what you guys are doing with the BBQ, then don't sweat it at all.
    Report Reply
  • hlanekhlanek member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I'm a caterer for an up-scale catering company, AND we have a BBQ division. We have done BBQ weddings that crossed over into the upper-end. I'm getting married this summer in an old mansion with a BBQ-ish menu, dining tables set up in and outdoors. Games in the yard, dancing inside, and anything you would imagine at a back yard BBQ- just at a wedding. If the theme fits the menu, there will be no confusion. I think you will have a great time, and knowing that you are pleasing yourself and FI means that much more. If you ask beforehand, your caterer should prepare some take-away meals for you and your honey in case you don't have time to eat at the reception.
    Report Reply
  • karahigginskarahiggins member
    Eighth Anniversary 10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Well i say its all in how you plate it and what else you have on the plate. I mean it seems like you know what you want and what you want sounds GREAT! your guests will probably love it and I dont think its crazy or anything. IT'S UNIQUE! not everyone will eat BBQ in a white dress.
    If you and your soon to be hub love barbeque, do it. At the wedding, people might be sketchy about it at first but when they see you and your guy diggin in, they wont care. they are all there to see you in your happiness, and they are getting a free meal.
    Report Reply
  • DawnaferDawnafer member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I love the idea and am thinking about having my own BBQ Reception.  My solution... there are very cute aprins out now.  You can find a sassy one or a white "bride"  one to go over your gown for the few minuites your eating.  I would suggest a ton of napkins :-).   
    Report Reply
  • SFHsgirlSFHsgirl
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You should wear a bib with a tuxedo on the front.......would be totally cute AND you wouldn't get anything on your dress!
    Report Reply
  • Michele_KelleyMichele_Kelley
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    It's not tacky at all. Do what you want. It's YOUR day not the MOH's. wear a bib during dinner if you're having a saucy BBQ meal. :o)
    Report Reply
  • Michele_KelleyMichele_Kelley
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    those are great ideas!
    Report Reply
  • Kara BaxterKara Baxter member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Well, BBQ and wedding dresses...don't mix well...i don't know of much that will get tomato sauce out. So, IMO, I would either wear a cute little apron - you could have one embordered that says "BRIDE" on it...that would be cute to wear over your dress. Or change for the reception. It never fails no matter how careful  you are, BBQ stains will happen. So better to get it on the apron than on your beautiful dress.

    As far as tacky, only if the BBQ was tacky itself. But I have seen really cute BBQ party themed ones - like the cool bandana's for napkin holders. And those check print table covers. And some kind of cowboy decorations - I have seen those before - and it all looked cool.

    There is a difference between having a few friends over for BBQ vs. a wedding reception. So, presentation is the key. If you have cheezy decorations - yea that could be considered tacky.

    If you have 'low budget" and matching themed decor - It will be a blast and look really cool. Plus like everyone said, "everyone loves BBQ!"


    Report Reply
  • geebaby88geebaby88 member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I don't think it is tacky at all... It's your wedding and if that's what you are comfortable with, then go for it! Good luck and make sure you have lots of napkins ;)
    Report Reply
  • cosborne2583cosborne2583 member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    There are hundreds of ways to dress up bbq so you should totally go for it if thats what you want.Although a big no to the jeans just because youre serving bbq this is not the back yard and there are no drop cloths.its your wedding not a summer get together.
    Report Reply
  • wcfeazellwcfeazell
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Heck no its not tacky! Youve got the same idea I do. BBQ is easy to deal with and tasty. and like everyone else says...its your day!
    Report Reply
  • tammeytammey member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
     Your wedding is a special promise between you and your husband that you have invited friends and family to witness, and celebrate with you. This wedding is going to be YOUR lifetime memory. For every one else it is going to be a memory that goes on the shelf with the other 80 weddings they attend over their lifetime.

    Design your wedding around what captures the things that are special about your relationship. Those memories are yours and yours alone.
    Report Reply
  • guestaccountguestaccount member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Ok I am a wedding planner myself and I have been to and planned weddings with BBQ!! None of which have been super formal but if you dont want super formal anyway then thats perfect! I actually very well might have BBQ at my own wedding! I have done hot dogs and hamburgers at backyard style weddings and I have down pulled pork, ribs, fried catfish and all kinds of "BBQ" foods at semi-formal weddings... girl it IS your wedding and this is the day we all dream about for years and years... i 100% think you should do BBQ!!! have the BBQ restaurant that caters put the food in nicer dishes than the plain silver metal throw-away containers... put them in white or off white or silver pans or casserol dishes on the stands over heater lights/candles and the presentation is beautiful and semi-formal!
    Report Reply
  • danielncherisedanielncherise member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    my fiance and I are having difficulty choosing food for our eception, but since you mentioned it, we may consider doing BBQ as well, idk.Laughing
    Report Reply
  • Jessica HoitinkJessica Hoitink
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Hello there
     Your doing the exact thing we are our wedding is at 3pm and were having a BBQ.  I worried about the whole BBQ sause on dress so were making it kind of fun with homemade bibs one labeled Bride and one Groom.  It could make a cute photo to laugh at for years to come!  I know every one says do what you want  but it's really true!!!!
     Have fun it's your day no one elses!
    Report Reply
  • becky9_18becky9_18 member
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Everyone keeps telling me that you won't have time to eat anyway, so do what you want, if people don't want to eat bbq, they can go somewhere after the reception. the main point is that it's something you both love and you want to share that with everyone. it's not like you couldn't change out of your dress into something more appropriate for your reception while eating bbq. My fiance's best friends wife did that, and it seem fine. :)
    Report Reply
  • thegreersthegreers
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I'm having a 6 o'clock wedding that will be casual (It's so late because of the hot, humid NC temperatures), followed by a BBQ reception.  Both the fi and me are outdoorsy and didn't want anything fancy.  We love BBQ so thought why not? Most of our guests are excited about it!
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards