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Emotional maturity is primarily developed through compassion a delayed gratification of one's desires.
hopeful holiday engagements
I know that I can't be the only one who gets her hopes up around every holiday, birthday, anniversary, etc. It's just so hard not to! I have been with my BF for 8 years--since we were juniors in HS. Now, at 24 we've been through a lot and certainly seen our fair share of holidays, and i'm familiar with the feeling of the "let down", if you will.
Of course, the bright side is that it's exciting and fun to imagine what it would be like if... Im trying to keep my cool and simply enjoy the holidays for what they are and not what they might be.
Can anyone else relate? Or am I totally crazy, lol?
Of course, the bright side is that it's exciting and fun to imagine what it would be like if... Im trying to keep my cool and simply enjoy the holidays for what they are and not what they might be.
Can anyone else relate? Or am I totally crazy, lol?
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Re: hopeful holiday engagements
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In my head I have a little rule that keeps me from talking about wedding things too much: Every time you talk about it, it gets delayed one month.
Helps me keep my mouth shut about wedding/engagement talk and enjoy my relationship now.
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[QUOTE]I know that I can't be the only one who gets her hopes up around every holiday, birthday, anniversary, etc. It's just so hard not to! I have been with my BF for 8 years--since we were juniors in HS. Now, at 24 we've been through a lot and certainly seen our fair share of holidays, and i'm familiar with the feeling of the "let down", if you will. Of course, the bright side is that it's exciting and fun to imagine what it would be like if...<strong> Im trying to keep my cool and simply enjoy the holidays for what they are and not what they might be.</strong> Can anyone else relate? Or am I totally crazy, lol?
Posted by laurae29[/QUOTE]
Do this. Follow your own idea. Focusing on it won't do you any good.
Needless to say, I wasn't hoping or expecting it last Christmas (we'd also only been together just over a year, and I knew he wouldn't propose that soon anyways). I did sort of hope for it on our trip to Puerto Rico in May, but he said "vacations are too predictible too". So when we went to Hawaii in September, I wasn't expecting it, but lo and behold.... he was just trying to throw me off, and it worked, I was completely surprised when he proposed and it was perfect.
Long story short, it can happen anytime and it felt better because I wasn't 'expecting it'. So try to put it out of your mind because if it does happen, it adds to the surprise and if it doesn't happen, you won't be disappointed.
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[QUOTE] In my head I have a little rule that keeps me from talking about wedding things too much: Every time you talk about it, it gets delayed one month. Helps me keep my mouth shut about wedding/engagement talk and enjoy my relationship now.
Posted by MissOwl[/QUOTE]
Love it! I'm going to remember this one!
OP- I've felt this way before, but he's told me that holidays and anniversaries are predictable and he wants it to be a complete surprise, so fortunately around holidays I don't think about it. Good luck and PP have good advice, do something else to distract you! Especially around the holidays, you can distract yourself with baking... mmmm cookies... so going to bake some cookies/fudge now...
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[QUOTE]I know that I can't be the only one who gets her hopes up around every holiday, birthday, anniversary, etc. It's just so hard not to! I have been with my BF for 8 years--since we were juniors in HS. Now, at 24 we've been through a lot and certainly seen our fair share of holidays, and i'm familiar with the feeling of the "let down", if you will. Of course, the bright side is that it's exciting and fun to imagine what it would be like if... Im trying to keep my cool and simply enjoy the holidays for what they are and not what they might be. Can anyone else relate? Or am I totally crazy, lol?
Posted by laurae29[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm right there with you! BF and I had our 7 year anniversary about 2 weeks ago and though I will admit I was a little disappointed that it didn't happen I was really proud of myself that I shrugged it off and didn't dwell on it. But, I wont lie and say that I am not hoping just a little bit that he will propose while we are both at home for break. </div><div>
</div><div>Do some reading or something really fun to keep your mind off it. I plan on doing some leisure reading over the break and spending as much time as I can with friends and family to try and keep my mind preoccupied. I can be your sanity buddy if you need one!
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Miss Owl...your rule is one that I need to adopt myself!
Emotional maturity is primarily developed through compassion a delayed gratification of one's desires.
Besides, I know it's not coming yet. The diamond is still sitting in my drawer. But still, I would bet that it'll happen on an otherwise ordinary day. Or maybe our anniversary. But it's more likely to happen while we're traveling somewhere together than on a holiday.
Sometimes I wish for a holiday proposal, but I know that no matter WHEN we get engaged, the day will automatically be made special.
We drove past the jewelry store where we looked at rings today, and BF turned and said, "Did they ever find another of the ring you liked that was discontinued?" And I said, "Uh, no - they gave you that information, that's in your hands now." And so sparked the engagement talk...
I know the source of income he's using to pay for the ring won't come until this summer, so it calms the nerves. Even if he puts it on his credit card a few months before, it won't be until the end of spring semester.
Last summer, I thought it would be on the trip we took in October. But as the trip approached, I knew it wasn't the right time and that it wasn't going to happen, so I wasn't disappointed. Right now, I figure before our trip to Costa Rica in October - or during. I wouldn't object if it was during the trip!
Someone want to explain to me why there is engagement on the brain more so during the holiday season than the rest of the year?
[QUOTE]My BF met my folks and talked to my father alone one-on-one. <strong>But the talk was too short</strong>, so I am not expecting anything yet and besides, we can't afford a wedding or moving in together anytime soon. It could be in a Christmas, New Years, any Holiday, or even any ordinary day. No matter what day it will be the best day of my life.
Posted by mzm153[/QUOTE]
I'm not saying that is was "the talk" but FI's talk with my dad went like this
FI: Can I ask Emily to marry me?
Dad: Can you support her?
FI: yea
Dad: ok.
..and that's it. Neither of them are really talkers.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: hopeful holiday engagements : I'm not saying that is was "the talk" but FI's talk with my dad went like this FI: Can I ask Emily to marry me? Dad: Can you support her? FI: yea Dad: ok. ..and that's it. Neither of them are really talkers.
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]
Sounds like FBD and Dad's conversation.<div>
</div><div>FBD: I'm going to ask Paige to marry me.</div><div>Dad: I think that's a good idea. Congratulations.</div><div>FBD: Thanks. </div><div>Dad : Let's have a beer.</div><div>
</div><div>The end.</div>
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Canada is kind of like a whole other world with new things to discover that us americans only dream of. - Narwhal
Paige I would like to profess my love for you and your brilliant mind. - breezerb
Murried Bio
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: hopeful holiday engagements : Sounds like FBD and Dad's conversation. FBD: I'm going to ask Paige to marry me. Dad: I think that's a good idea. Congratulations. FBD: Thanks. Dad : Let's have a beer. The end.
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]
Hahaha. I can imagine the convo between BF and my father.
BF: I'm going to propose to your daughter.
Dad: Cool! So who do you like in the Giants game?
[QUOTE]Soo I am just going to make FI re-propose around Christmas when we go to NYC. I feel that it would be so much better at the Rockefeller Center under the big tree. Of course that's not going to happen sillies. But its a freakin sweet idea to think of.
Posted by coastiegrl25[/QUOTE]
It would only count if you were both wearing ice skates and a I <3 NY scarf.
Although, I've pretty much convinced myself that he's not in any position to propose with how things are going with his job... So, I'm not 'getting my hopes up' for a holiday proposal... Which is so much better for my state of mind... At this point, whatever happens, happens...
I love Christmas (as I'm sure most of you know by now haha) but I could care less about the day of a proposal. Holiday or not, I'm just not picky about that.