Help settle a debate:
Would you prefer (have preferred, will prefer) to have a proposal with some sort of public display (at an amusement park, ballgame, riverwalks, etc.) where people can see what's going on, or have something more private with just the two of you? If you had something public, what was it and what did you think of it? I'll share the origin/my opinion later...
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A ball park in front of 50,000 people? A little much, IMO.
Edit: Based on what Ten said, I want to add that I was 100% aware the "proposal" was coming because we had already decided to get married and bought the ring together. FI just wanted to do something a little traditional and sweet. I even knew where he was keeping the ring before the proposal, but I had no idea he would propose that night. I feel like even a completely surprise proposal should NOT include even a question of whether or not she will say yes though, so she shouldn't feel pressured into saying it if it is in public. I assume people talk about marriage and their future in all serious relationships. Perhaps I'm just too hopeful.
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ETA: I wouldn't have cared if it was jumbotron-esque.
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They were all in on it and thankfully, recorded it. I think if he had done it while we were at the restaurant I would've been a little shy because I cried like a baby ... and strangers don't need to see that.
EDIT : I also had no clue that he was going to propose, so I was thoroughly shocked.
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My sister and I were having lunch at Cheesecake Factory and her phone rang so she went outside.
I looked up and Robert walked in. (He lived in NY at the time, so that was another surprise).
I said "Ohmygod" like 20 billion times because as soon as I saw him, I knew what was going on. There were only two other tables around us, but then all the servers came around to clap and congratulate us.
It was perfect. And I love that my sister knew and kept it a secret from EVERYONE.
Robert had taken my Dad out to lunch to ask "permission" a few months before so everyone knew it was coming eventually.
Yes, I like that he asked for my Dad's permission. Yes, we discussed it like two adults. But I like that he proposed and I love that him and my Dad had lunch to talk about things.
[QUOTE] I assume people talk about marriage and their future in all serious relationships. Perhaps I'm just too hopeful.
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I don't know. I've seen an awful lots of times where people on these boards will say, "It was a complete surprise. I had no idea!" Or the flip side, when a woman is ready to get married and gets all sorts of advice to let the man do it when he's ready, in his timeframe, and she should basically just shut up and wait till he does it, rather than discuss it.
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Luckily, he waited so freaking long from the time he spoke to my parents to when he actually asked (oh, three months) so it was a surprise to everyone. It was perfect.
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[QUOTE]I thought Fi was going to do it during our formal pictures on the cruise, which would heva been cute but also kind of embarrassing because there is a line of people waiting. Luckily, he waited until we were alone by these big beautiful staircases to propose.
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FI was going to wait until formal night too, but he was afraid I'd find the ring. So he asked while we were still in port - we hadn't even gone to the muster drill yet! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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