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Nebb · May 2012

I have grievences.

1) Ciara coming back all pretending she wasnt making an extremely half assed attempt at hiding who she was. How many times are you going to GBCK lady? either shite or get off the pot already.

2) I get that everyone is besties now a days but the up in everyones business crap is wearing a bit thin. Sure its nice to ask for updates on peoples lives, but use your freaking head regarding the subject matter. Let people update on their own accord! Is that so difficult? It isnt hard to send a private PM of thoughts or good luck, but making it public just brings a situation to everyones attention unnecessarily.

Nebb · May 2012

Thats why I said subject matter, which in todays case I would consider pretty sensitive. Im not speaking for Blue, but Im speaking out of my own concern but maybe people dont want to be asked about it by a million people and would rather talk about it, if they choose, in their own time. How hard is that to understand, its called being patient.

brandichamberlain · May 2012

I think that with the nature of today in the case that got brought up, it is more sensitive because of why she was going. I can understand your point of view about wanting Blue to have space today. But, there are also times when things get brought up and it's perfectly fine. Everyone came on here asking daily about when Raynes had her baby and no one had a second thought.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:3eefd156-58d5-445b-b1d4-76e3a9ad2c28">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]I think that with the nature of today in the case that got brought up, it is more sensitive because of why she was going. I can understand your point of view about wanting Blue to have space today. But,<strong> there are also times when things get brought up and it's perfectly fine. Everyone came on here asking daily about when Raynes had her baby and no one had a second thought. </strong>
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

Yeah. That is not the same thing. At all.

Nebb · May 2012

Quite frankly, people need to stop being so nosy. Its as simple as that. People will talk about things when they want to talk about them.

maratea · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:3eefd156-58d5-445b-b1d4-76e3a9ad2c28">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]I think that with the nature of today in the case that got brought up, it is more sensitive because of why she was going. I can understand your point of view about wanting Blue to have space today. But, there are also times when things get brought up and it's perfectly fine. Everyone came on here asking daily about when Raynes had her baby and no one had a second thought.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]
Those aren't really the same kind of situations. At all. Continually poking and prodding for answers when you damn well know what's going on is bullshit.

brandichamberlain · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:c548610d-3004-4b02-9454-4baaa583fbdc">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : Yeah. That is not the same thing. At all.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, I agree. I know that the nature of the two topics is different. I'm just trying to correlate how news gets asked about often and no one really ever says anything about that. I wasn't in any way trying to say that the two situations are identical. </div>

chelseamb11 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:a69c577f-d351-4620-b531-1a3fa7ef9ca0">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]Quite frankly, people need to stop being so nosy. Its as simple as that. People will talk about things when they want to talk about them.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

This I agree with. But I think there's a huge difference between asking for the results she would have found out today and asking if you remembered something correctly that she already talked about a week ago.

lbarr088 · May 2012

Honestly I think it just depends on the situation. Blue's situation is different from "Oh hey did you pop that thing out yet?" At the same time, both situations do warrant privacy, but I think that often goes out the window when you post things on the internet. It's also a matter of perspective where some people might find it more obnoxious to be constantly questioning personal matters and others could give two shites.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:a78cc0f4-95fe-4768-b9c7-77d0bdd4c36a">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : This I agree with. But I think there's a huge difference between asking for the results she would have found out today and asking if you remembered something correctly that she already talked about a week ago.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Um, the difference is the fuccking subject matter, not when something is mentioned. FFS, this could potentially be a very, very hard day for someone. It's extremely insensitive to get up in her shiiit about it because she just might not fcuking feel like talking about it.

For example. How about you ask someone who's husband died yesterday "Hey, did you finalize his funeral plans yet? What music are you playing" You don't do that. If she wants to talk about it she will. Damn.

lbarr088 · May 2012

.... and on the other side of it, maybe people don't mind being asked because then they feel like they aren't constantly bringing up a certain subject and annoying people with it?

I don't know.

brandichamberlain · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:86956367-afd0-43fc-8708-3d1fa1264466">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : Um, the difference is the fuccking subject matter, not when something is mentioned. FFS, this could potentially be a very, very hard day for someone. It's extremely insensitive to get up in her shiiit about it because she just might not fcuking feel like talking about it. For example. How about you ask someone who's husband died yesterday "Hey, did you finalize his funeral plans yet? What music are you playing" You don't do that. If she wants to talk about it she will. Damn.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I completely see where you're coming from, but it isn't guaranteed to be bad news. She mentioned that there was still optimism by medical staff. We shouldn't count that out right away. </div>

maratea · May 2012

I'll give my general flame: it's annoying as fuckk when people ask 5 or 6 times about the same thing, regarding someone's situation. And I think it borders on weird when people can remember minute details about another poster's life, like when they have doctor appointments, or something was wrong with their car. Do you people write it down on your friggin calendars?

AllAboutTheBenjamin · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:fbc8cbc9-a772-4c23-aa16-b545e1932463">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : I completely see where you're coming from, but it isn't guaranteed to be bad news. She mentioned that there was still optimism by medical staff. We shouldn't count that out right away.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

No, we shouldn't. But we still shouldn't be badgering her for updates either. Show some fcuking discretion for shite's sake.

cheeseandrice · May 2012

Guys. FFS. Blue was blantantly honest last week in that she's 'most likely out' because her appt showed no heartbeat. You're essentially asking her if she's gotten confirmation that her baby isn't going to make it. FORGODSAKE, have some f.cking tact.

And someone seriously compared that to asking if Raynes had her baby yet? Goodgrief, can you be more naive/insensitive/stupid?

brandichamberlain · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:03f74c38-bbec-464a-8959-114cfcf771b5">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]Guys. FFS. Blue was blantantly honest last week in that she's 'most likely out' because her appt showed no heartbeat. You're essentially asking her if she's gotten confirmation that her baby isn't going to make it. FORGODSAKE, have some f.cking tact. And someone seriously compared that to asking if Raynes had her baby yet? <strong>Goodgrief, can you be more naive/insensitive/stupid?</strong>
Posted by Steph+J[/QUOTE]

<div>I have already said that those are two completely different subjects. It was a correlation of news of any type. </div><div>
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</div><div>ETA: I'm not even sure why I'm defending this so hard. I see both sides on this situation. The subject matter could be different, but it isn't guaranteed to be. (in terms of happy vs. sad)</div>

cheeseandrice · May 2012

I'm honestly surprised Edie hasn't blazed in here yet with an update on Blue that she found out godknows how.

I'm nosey as sh1t in real life, adn even chels/edie make me uncomfortable with their 'caring' on here. That's saying something.

lbarr088 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:a1fcb895-2cca-4bbc-9feb-a65898b0f9be">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]I'll give my general flame: it's annoying as fuckk when people ask 5 or 6 times about the same thing, regarding someone's situation. And I think it borders on weird when people can remember minute details about another poster's life, like when they have doctor appointments, or something was wrong with their car. Do you people write it down on your friggin calendars?
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]

<div>I make sure I have my BlackBerry out so I can type in what's going on in everyone's lives.</div><div>
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</div><div>I'm kidding. It is a little weird. I think I'm definitely guilty of doing it at times. </div>

[Deleted User] · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:a78cc0f4-95fe-4768-b9c7-77d0bdd4c36a">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : This I agree with. But I think there's a huge difference between asking for the results she would have found out today and asking if you remembered something correctly that she already talked about a week ago.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

To me, asking if someone went to the doc (or any other appointment) is pretty much the same as asking for an update. Usually, people don't care that you went to the doctor. They only want to know why.

maratea · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:a7b6c1c4-9fc1-4e05-9c59-a974446dabd0">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : I have already said that those are two completely different subjects. It was a correlation of news of any type.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]
In this case, it's called using common sense and having tact, which I can see about half the people in this thread have none of.

cheeseandrice · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:a7b6c1c4-9fc1-4e05-9c59-a974446dabd0">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : I have already said that those are two completely different subjects. It was a correlation of news of any type.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

<div>Legitimate question- do you know what correlation means?</div>

acaponi87 · May 2012

I'm with Nebb on this one.

Nebb · May 2012

I honestly god cant believe some of you people are arguing this. Ask if someone went to the dentist, fine. BUT USE YOUR FHUCKING HEAD FOR SENSITIVE SUBJECTS.

God dammit, are you stupid?!

chelseamb11 · May 2012

I do see both sides of it, and I apologize if my asking hurt Blue's feelings.
She said roughly a week ago that she had another appointment in a week. Rather than sifting through dozens of pages of night threads to answer my own question, I didn't see the big deal in asking it. People have talked about it the past few weeks nonstop either via vibes, questions or comments, so it's not like YIO and I were the first people to bring it up without Blue doing so first.

ETA and for the record, I wasn't asking for an update. I asked it in a "your appointment is later today right?"
I agree, if I was asking for results, it would have been insensitive.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · May 2012

Here's a scene from the Wedding Singer that illustrates my point

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/an-XWMQbY22bhbbJ7/the_wedding_singer_1998_teasing_sammy/

In a word, don't be Jason.

brandichamberlain · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:c94b9241-b858-45cc-9cfb-1b582e8fc616">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : Legitimate question- do you know what correlation means?
Posted by Steph+J[/QUOTE]

<div>I do. And no, I really didn't use it correctly there. </div><div>
</div><div>All I was trying to say was that people are guilty of asking about news often. So I think it is weird for someone to be flamed for asking about some news and not all news. Yes, I understand that today may be more sensitive than other days for other people. But to me: asking about news someone has shared is the same (hence my word choice- even though it wasn't the best one) for everyone. </div><div>
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</div><div>ETA: But yes, I do see where people are coming from on this today. I'm not an insensitive assshole. I didn't even ask about it, so I have literally no idea why I'm defending it.</div><div>
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chelseamb11 · May 2012

Aaaand we broke TK.
I'm convinced they purposefully shut down anytime FFF or AYG happens.

LP11509 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:a3093f60-0573-4f22-b0af-9a6bd8ae9297">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]I do see both sides of it, and I apologize if my asking hurt Blue's feelings. She said roughly a week ago that she had another appointment in a week. Rather than sifting through dozens of pages of night threads to answer my own question, I didn't see the big deal in asking it. People have talked about it the past few weeks nonstop either via vibes, questions or comments, so it's not like YIO and I were the first people to bring it up without Blue doing so first. <strong>ETA and for the record, I wasn't asking for an update. I asked it in a "your appointment is later today right?" I agree, if I was asking for results, it would have been insensitive.
</strong>Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

<div>Right, but asking if she had the appointment today sort of implies that you want to know how it went in my mind. Why would someone care if she had gone to the doctor if they didn't want to know the results of it? That makes no sense to me. </div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ayg-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:c6f1135c-8516-4a51-a6fb-6c25d38dd4fbPost:1a43b9f2-2075-48e5-a3a0-68a0fdac91a9">Re: AYG</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG : I do. And no, I really didn't use it correctly there. All I was trying to say was that people are guilty of asking about news often. So I think it is weird for someone to be flamed for asking about some news and not all news. Yes, I understand that today may be more sensitive than other days for other people. <strong>But to me: asking about news someone has shared is the same (hence my word choice- even though it wasn't the best one) for everyone. </strong>
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

Um, <strong>no.</strong>

You <<

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maratea · May 2012

I know Nebb won't like this, but this gif sums up my feelings perfectly:

allisong23 · May 2012

It blows my mind that people think that something like asking about Raynes is the same as Blue's situation. Do you have an ounce of sensitivity in your body?

I also think it is a little weird that people seem to have memorized details of posters' lives. I have seen it with Nebb's doctor appointments. Seriously, if she wants to share what the doctor said, she will.

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