eloped, and want a wedding now..

clj4457 · May 2011

lol whatever

clj4457 · May 2011

Im done with this board. Carry on if you like.

SparrowSong · May 2011

Bravo to the wedding industry. They truly have created a culture where people don't feel they are really married unless they've really spent a huge amount of money on a large celebration with all the trimmings. Most people feel they are entitled a "big day" regardless of when they actualy got married. Despite The Knot's etiquette boards serious disapproval, these do happen all the time out in the real world and I don't see the trend slowing down any time soon. Just eloping and owning the romance in that isn't enough anymore.

But yeah, people can throw any kind of party they want. I guess I honestly don't care about "vow renewels" as long as the couple are effortlessly picking up the tab for the event. I really would laugh at a cash bar or a bridal shower, or lord, a money tree for one of these "big days." And other traditions like father walking the "bride" down the aisle would really be ridiculous since it would make no sense. If someone I knew was having one of these, I think I'd go. But I would be side-eyeing the entitlement of the whole thing and would not take it quite as seriously as someone who managed to make their wedding day their "big day." If someone really wanted to blow $15,000 on a party, there are a lot of other fun themes they could do. But "let's pretend we're a bride and groom", seems to be the most popular theme so again I say Bravo to the wedding industry. Way to cash in not only on the singles, but the already marrieds.

trix1223 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_eloped-want-wedding-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d6b9ed1e-487e-4827-9f2c-96afc7a63596Post:8dfcf175-3442-49df-88ae-d580327a5242">Re: eloped, and want a wedding now..</a>:
[QUOTE]Bravo to the wedding industry. They truly have created a culture where people don't feel they are really married unless they've really spent a huge amount of money on a large celebration with all the trimmings. Most people feel they are entitled a "big day" regardless of when they actualy got married. Despite The Knot's etiquette boards serious disapproval, these do happen all the time out in the real world and I don't see the trend slowing down any time soon. Just eloping and owning the romance in that isn't enough anymore. But yeah, people can throw any kind of party they want. I guess I honestly don't care about "vow renewels" as long as the couple are effortlessly picking up the tab for the event. I really would laugh at a cash bar or a bridal shower, or lord, a money tree for one of these "big days." And other traditions like father walking the "bride" down the aisle would really be ridiculous since it would make no sense. If someone I knew was having one of these, I think I'd go. But I would be side-eyeing the entitlement of the whole thing and would not take it quite as seriously as someone who managed to make their wedding day their "big day." If someone really wanted to blow $15,000 on a party, there are a lot of other fun themes they could do. But "let's pretend we're a bride and groom", seems to be the most popular theme so again I say Bravo to the wedding industry. Way to cash in not only on the singles, but the already marrieds.
Posted by SparrowSong[/QUOTE]

^^Yes, indeed!!^^

Birdie1483 · May 2011

If you're bothered by what us internet strangers are saying to online, just think of what your friends will say behind your back.

marinabreeze · May 2011

I agree with SparrowSong entirely.

I also think that in general, our society's focus on materialism and consumerism has created an entitled populace who thinks that they "deserve" things that they really don't rather than taking responsibility for and living with the choices they make.

pearlaqua · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_eloped-want-wedding-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d6b9ed1e-487e-4827-9f2c-96afc7a63596Post:19128a54-dc94-47c4-8b63-f3231a4ea928">Re: eloped, and want a wedding now..</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree with SparrowSong entirely. I also think that in general, our society's focus on materialism and consumerism has created an entitled populace who thinks that they "deserve" things that they really don't rather than taking responsibility for and living with the choices they make.
Posted by marinabreeze[/QUOTE]

<div>...And then they come back on the boards shocked that their guests weren't excited for them.</div><div>
</div><div>:eyeroll:</div>

Irishcurls · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_eloped-want-wedding-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d6b9ed1e-487e-4827-9f2c-96afc7a63596Post:09577899-d9a4-4cae-81ee-8ef4b3d486a8">Re: eloped, and want a wedding now..</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: eloped, and want a wedding now.. : A better comparison would be to say that your husband's step-sister had a Quinceañera when she was 21 because she had to save up for 6 years and her grandmother couldn't make it when she was 15 because she was sick and now that she is in better health, it is a better time to have her big party with all of her family. Weird, right?
Posted by pearlaqua[/QUOTE]
Omg this is genius.

lyndausvi · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_eloped-want-wedding-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d6b9ed1e-487e-4827-9f2c-96afc7a63596Post:8dfcf175-3442-49df-88ae-d580327a5242">Re: eloped, and want a wedding now..</a>:
[QUOTE]Bravo to the wedding industry. They truly have created a culture where people don't feel they are really married unless they've really spent a huge amount of money on a large celebration with all the trimmings. Most people feel they are entitled a "big day" regardless of when they actualy got married. Despite The Knot's etiquette boards serious disapproval, these do happen all the time out in the real world and I don't see the trend slowing down any time soon. Just eloping and owning the romance in that isn't enough anymore. But yeah, people can throw any kind of party they want. I guess I honestly don't care about "vow renewels" as long as the couple are effortlessly picking up the tab for the event. I really would laugh at a cash bar or a bridal shower, or lord, a money tree for one of these "big days." And other traditions like father walking the "bride" down the aisle would really be ridiculous since it would make no sense. If someone I knew was having one of these, I think I'd go. But I would be side-eyeing the entitlement of the whole thing and would not take it quite as seriously as someone who managed to make their wedding day their "big day." If someone really wanted to blow $15,000 on a party, there are a lot of other fun themes they could do. But "let's pretend we're a bride and groom", seems to be the most popular theme so again I say Bravo to the wedding industry. Way to cash in not only on the singles, but the already marrieds.
Posted by SparrowSong[/QUOTE]

<div>I think love you.</div>

SheDayZ · May 2011

I have read enormous amounts of etiquette regarding vow renewals. At this present time, vow renewals are seen as "anything goes" when it comes to attire. From a pant suit, to a princess dress-go for it. It is not PC to expect gifts, have a pre-wedding party, be walked down the aisle by dad, or have a shower.

I get the impression that this particular board doesn't like the idea of vow renewals. Don't like them for yourself, but don't knock them for others. My DH and I are renewing after 15 years, 7 kids, and two really hard years. I've got people calling me 6 months ahead of time to make sure they are on the guest list. Do I know how to throw a party or what?!?! I am wearing a wedding dress, but having the train cut off-no veil because I hate them.

noodle_oo · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_eloped-want-wedding-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d6b9ed1e-487e-4827-9f2c-96afc7a63596Post:8dfcf175-3442-49df-88ae-d580327a5242">Re: eloped, and want a wedding now..</a>:
[QUOTE]Bravo to the wedding industry. They truly have created a culture where people don't feel they are really married unless they've really spent a huge amount of money on a large celebration with all the trimmings. Most people feel they are entitled a "big day" regardless of when they actualy got married. Despite The Knot's etiquette boards serious disapproval, these do happen all the time out in the real world and I don't see the trend slowing down any time soon. Just eloping and owning the romance in that isn't enough anymore. But yeah, people can throw any kind of party they want. I guess I honestly don't care about "vow renewels" as long as the couple are effortlessly picking up the tab for the event. I really would laugh at a cash bar or a bridal shower, or lord, a money tree for one of these "big days." And other traditions like father walking the "bride" down the aisle would really be ridiculous since it would make no sense. If someone I knew was having one of these, I think I'd go. But I would be side-eyeing the entitlement of the whole thing and would not take it quite as seriously as someone who managed to make their wedding day their "big day." If someone really wanted to blow $15,000 on a party, there are a lot of other fun themes they could do. But "let's pretend we're a bride and groom", seems to be the most popular theme so again I say Bravo to the wedding industry. Way to cash in not only on the singles, but the already marrieds.
Posted by SparrowSong[/QUOTE]

::clapping::

I'm late to this thread, but want to throw in my 2 cents anyway.

OP: I think you have a pretty good attitude about the whole thing. I hope you have a wonderful party! it is great to celebrate and you sound happily married, and that makes me happy for you. That's the most important thing, right?

The only piece of advice I have for you: even though you dont' want to hear it, wearing that huge wedding dress will just make you look silly. Everything else is totally fine, but that is a "princess" wedding dress. Sure it is pretty, but seeing as you've been married 5 years and have children already, it is really not appropriate. You absolutely can wear it if you want to, but seriously, you will just look silly. Besides, isn't that $1000 better spent on your honeymoon/vacation anyway?

aimeesalzmann · May 2011

My husband and I also eloped (24 years ago) and on our 5th wedding anniversarry we had a renewal of our wedding vows in front of friends, family and God in our Church. I wore a traditional wedding gown, no veil and did not have an escort down the aisle. Our Pastor did a beautiful reading on the importance of reconfirming our love and vows with our family and friends in God's house. We did not do the traditional things like toss the bouquet, or garter but otherwise we kept it like the wedding we never had. Since it was a renewal of vows, we asked "no gifts please but donations made to the Susan G. Komen would be appreciated if you would like to do so" on our invitation.

Have fun, share your love for eachother in front of friends and family and make it your day ~ just make sure people know it's a wedding vow renewal and don't expect "gifts" since after 5 years you should have your household items already.

Much love and happiness to you!

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