So I'm pretty sure my fiance wants to be part of the shower, which is perfectly fine with me. But does that mean I should invite men to the party as well as the women? That would mean I would basically have everyone invited to the wedding at my shower as well, which I think will be too much.
Also I know the people who are out of state will not be coming to the shower, should I invite them anyway?
Thanks for the help!!!
Re: Who do we invite to the shower?
Example: DD had a guest list of just about 100. Her shower was for about 20-22 people. Same with DIL's shower.
As for inviting OOT people? Check with your mom and FMIL on that one. In our family, it's considered very poor form to invite someone to a shower when you know they can't/won't attend. It's considered the height of being gift grabby.
But, for our DD's shower, her FMIL gave a guest list with "courtesy invitations". In their family, it is considered very rude not to send an invite to every party/shower/etc. In her family, people would get in a snit if they heard about a shower that they couldn't attend, but weren't invited to nonetheless.
So check on how your respective families handle that issue.
I ditto what Trix said about the oot guests. Certain close relatives on my side of the family would be insulted if they didn't get a courtesy invitation. On my husbands side of the family, it would be regarded as a gift grab. Best to check with the MOB and MOG on that.
[QUOTE]Just because your FI is going to attend the shower, I still feel that it should just be the women invited.<strong> Any woman should be invited that is on your wedding guest list. </strong> However, do not invited anyone that is not invited to the wedding. Your FI can still be involved since it is technically his gifts too but I would keep the rest of it traditional otherwise it might get to be too much.
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No. You don't have to invite, nor should you invite, every woman on the guest list. Showers are meant to be small, intimate gatherings.
Thanks for everyone's help. I think I got it now
Sorry, I'm not actually doing the invites, just trying to put the lsit together for my MOH. Still nto sure if it will actually take place at my house or not. Right now my list is around 20 people, which still seems like a lot for my house. Its proving VERY difficult trying to widdle down the list
Even if I just go with family of the bride and groom and my bridesmaids it'll be about 15 people, so I feel like its not worth decreasing the list only by 5 people if it means my other friends won't be invited.