Unpopular opinions

Re: Unpopular opinions

• heyimbren member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fmil-trying-over-guest-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:cd3a636e-a71b-4d6a-99a0-a4c6f613ae86Post:16042647-889c-4a13-a390-504379519861">Re: FMIL trying to take over my guest list</a>:
  [QUOTE]A lot of Mormon couples have later receptions after the wedding because many friends aren't allowed to enter the temple for the wedding.  Not saying that is anything related but making a generalized statement AutumnFair and heyimbren about 2nd tier guests as not good enough to get invited to the real deal doesn't always apply.  And if its a destination wedding a 2nd reception back home isn't a bad idea either.  Those who get offended about a invitation to a wedding reception and not a wedding ceremony aren't providing the kind of support you need anyway.  No one is ever entitled to an invitation (or a guest) and they should be honored if they receive one whether it be for the ceremony and reception or only the reception.
  Posted by bdriley[/QUOTE]
  
  The exceptions you listed are exceptions to the rule, but they are not the case here. Therefore, they don't apply to this situation.

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• Birdie1483 member

  

  September 2010

  My friends that have been in a ton of weddings agree that they'd rather just sit on the sidelines from now on. However, since I've had so many good friends get married, but none close enough to ask me to be a BM I kind of feel like a loser.

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• wadingmoose member

  

  September 2010

  I don't know who Tyler Perry is.
  
  I'm pretty sure I've never seen any of his movies.
  

  
  "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb

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• NuggetBrain member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:72ec16cd-a356-405c-b09a-7d2e50a3649f">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : I HATE TYLER PERRY. HATE. it annoyed me when Precious came out and all the people involved with the movie were like, "I was abused too." it annoyed me when Mariah Carey was all, "My first husband abused me. Well, there's different kinds of abuse." it was like she was trying to have the credentials to "deserve" to be in the movie.
  Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
  
  I couldn't watch that movie (same reason I couldn't watch Beloved) because I have serious reactions to films like that.  But I want to punch Mariah in the mouth for that mess.  The only thing on you that's abused is your clothing.  GET SOME SH*T THAT FITS, YO.

  

  If I wanted to hear the pitter-patter of little feet, I'd put shoes on the cat.

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• alixzafiris member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:e1598e47-e390-45d2-8bf1-f1a006af96fe">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : The Keg.  I have not gone back there since some idiots let their kid run around the restaurant.  The wait staff should've said something to them because he was a danger to pretty much everyone including himself with waiters carrying trays of hot food and knives around.
  Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
  
  I think the Keg is stearing away from "higher end" nowadays, they used to be good for nice dates and things like that but every time I'm in there lately it's men at the bar in sports jerseys and tables of families with loud, obnoxious kids. I don't go much anymore either.
  
  ANDALSO, I hate getting dressed up to go to a nice restaurant or something and there are people there in jeans. Just because there isn't a written dress code doesn't mean you come dressed like a hobo. We went to the theatre a couple months back (like big, fancy theatre not smaller indie one) and people came in jeans and jerseys and stuff. SO bad.

  
  

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• Celles member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:f7efdbf8-2084-4c22-a3a2-5575dae07be3">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]Breezerb - I am totally with you, I am pro spankings and <strong>can't stand when parents try to reason with a 4 year old.</strong>
  Posted by mgietler76[/QUOTE]
  
  Why not?  Even if a child isn't able to grasp complicated cause and effect relationships at this age, I'm pretty sure a four year-old can associate certain actions with specific consequences.  Otherwise, what would be the point of spanking?  If a child isn't capable of basic reasoning, then spanking becomes abuse instead of discipline (because the child lacks of the cognitive capacity to associate the punishment with the precipitating offense).
  
  I'm not saying I condone <em>or</em> condemn spanking, by the way; I'm not a parent and don't have a fully formed opinion on the matter.  But this statement strikes me as incongruous and kind of, well, dumb.  :p

  

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• JessAndTrav member

  

  September 2010

  I was asked to be a BM once, and then the B&G opted to only have a single BM & GM instead of 2 on each side, and I got the demote.
  
  Sometimes I feel like a loser, but I also step back and realize that none of my best friends have gotten married yet, except the one.
  

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• wadingmoose member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:0c242a97-1121-4c45-b2f2-cb71d85c8a9c">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]I love when Moose says "fuuck your hat". It's great. Makes my day. And yes, Olive Garden =/= good restaurant IMO.
  Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]
  
  
  Have I told you about the guy in my WoW guild?  We were in a dungeon run with random people we'd never met before and would never see again.  Trigger  (his toon name) does something to piss them off, they end up in a typed argument which ends when Trigger says "Go fuuck your hat," and leaves group.
  
  I laughed.  HARD.  When other guildies come online he tells them the story and they go about debating what that even means.
  
  I laughed more.
  
  I think I've told this story before.

  
  "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb

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• laladypoet member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:e959ffba-27f4-4c6f-849a-0f06c878ec9f">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]One time, I accidentally parked in the "Mother's with Children"  (or something like that) parking spot at Wegman's and it was my first time at that store EVER so I had no idea those parking spaces existed.  Also to my defense the sign was bent in half and next to the shopping carts so I thought it was a shopping cart sign.  I was pulling out and some man knocked on my window and I rolled it down and he YELLED at me!!! I still can't get over it. 
  Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]
  yeah. that's ridic. I don't even see the need for those spaces.

  
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• crfische member

  

  September 2010

  OH man, I've never been more freakin' happy than I was when our city went smoke free.
  
  
  

  
  Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
  
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• laladypoet member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:32332ea9-4677-42ad-8fd5-ba3cb693b54f">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]Im a smoker.  I want to be able to smoke where I eat and enjoy entertainment.  Right now, I can in my city. But I want non-smokers to have their rights to a non-smoky area. Really, just give me a bar every once in awhile.  And when you can't do that, give me an exit only smokers use, a worn out park bench and a concrete ash tray.  I don't want to hear people fuss, I don't want to blow smoke in asthmatic people's faces.  I just want to smoke in peace.
  Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]
  I agree, about all them things. non-smokers can be such pvssies. I didn't smoke till I was 20, and I never acted like that.

  
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• louisvillebride21

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:8b66d573-22d9-4e33-aefd-cc33176084d2">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]I think Olive Garden sucks.  I side eye people who consider it "a nice restaurant."  No, it's not.  Its an overglorified chain with bland low quality food and mediocre wine.  Expand your food horizons, ffs.
  Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]
  
  Well, that's really awesome for people who CAN'T afford places like Mortons. There are lots of people that it's the 'nicest' they can afford. Guess poor people shouldn't be allowed out of McDonalds.

  "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs

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• alixzafiris member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:d6d12390-cb5a-4a99-85e3-0f77af1c46e3">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : Have I told you about the guy in my WoW guild?  We were in a dungeon run with random people we'd never met before and would never see again.  Trigger  (his toon name) does something to piss them off, they end up in a typed argument which ends when Trigger says "Go fuuck your hat," and leaves group. I laughed.  HARD.  When other guildies come online he tells them the story and they go about debating what that even means. I laughed more. I think I've told this story before.
  Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
  
  That's amazing. I love when people say that now. I always picture them saying it like Mandy does.

  
  

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• pinkpinot member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:69da4503-9ffe-4ac2-8876-00eee6c32299">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : Hmmm, what are you claiming on your W2?  Maybe you are claiming not enough deductions or something?  Did some of it go into a 401k?  The highest tax bracket pays about 39% in taxes right now...if the tax cuts expire that jumps to over 60%....which I don't think is really fair, either.
  Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
  
  They taxed it as if it were a regular paycheck, so my medical & all that jazz was taken out.  All of my paychecks are more than 39% taxed, what the hell. 

  
  

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• laladypoet member

  

  September 2010

  pink pinot, for you:
  http://stfuparents.tumblr.com/post/551689938/do-you-know-what-i-hate-when-people-act-like
  

  
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• laladypoet member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:e0d0e368-74b0-4e03-ae6e-418beb2e5366">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : Well, that's really awesome for people who CAN'T afford places like Mortons. There are lots of people that it's the 'nicest' they can afford. Guess poor people shouldn't be allowed out of McDonalds.
  Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]
  I think East was saying if you want good italian food, go elsewhere. there's plenty of mom and pop italian restaurants that aren't expensive that are vastly better than olive garden.
  although I can see how you'd take it that way.

  
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• wadingmoose member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:5123dc20-e3c6-40d3-bec1-dadfa7e96965">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]pink pinot, for you: <a href="http://stfuparents.tumblr.com/post/551689938/do-you-know-what-i-hate-when-people-act-like" rel="nofollow">http://stfuparents.tumblr.com/post/551689938/do-you-know-what-i-hate-when-people-act-like</a>
  Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
  
  That's awesome.

  
  "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb

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• pinkpinot member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:5123dc20-e3c6-40d3-bec1-dadfa7e96965">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]pink pinot, for you: <a href="http://stfuparents.tumblr.com/post/551689938/do-you-know-what-i-hate-when-people-act-like" rel="nofollow">http://stfuparents.tumblr.com/post/551689938/do-you-know-what-i-hate-when-people-act-like</a>
  Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
  
  I want to punch that person in the face. 

  
  

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• mkrupar member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:e0d0e368-74b0-4e03-ae6e-418beb2e5366">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : Well, that's really awesome for people who CAN'T afford places like Mortons. There are lots of people that it's the 'nicest' they can afford. Guess poor people shouldn't be allowed out of McDonalds.
  Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]
  
  Thanks LVB, that's what I was thinking. I also know my grandparents loved it, and step GMA goes there because they're on a fized income and it fits into their budgets. It's not that they necessarily don't want to go somewhere nicer, if it's all they can afford then that's where they eat.

  
  

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• JessAndTrav member

  

  September 2010

  I love not having smoking at the restaurants in my city, but I do think that bars that ban smoking are being a little silly.
  
  Seriously? Alcohol and cigarettes just kind of "go" together.
  

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• NuggetBrain member

  

  September 2010

  Another one - having been on all sorts of diets and changing my eating habits and running and ellipticalling and whatnot, I'm starting to think I'd rather be fat and happy than thin and miserable. 

  

  If I wanted to hear the pitter-patter of little feet, I'd put shoes on the cat.

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• mandysmear member

  

  September 2010

  We go to Olive Garden twice a year or so.  H likes the neverending pasta bowl event.  We enjoy it.  It's not the best italian by any means, but it's good you get a lot of bang for your buck.  I always leave with enough left overs for 2 or 3 meals afterwards.
  
  We made a promise to never be food snobs and too good for places like applebees, OG, Denny's etc.  I know too many people like that and I wonder what they would do on a roadtrip through some one horse town.
  

  
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• laladypoet member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:f7352caf-6625-4c61-968a-605a3b767588">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : I absolutely agree with you on this one.... ...and this is going to show my age BUT, I can even remember when you could smoke at work...like at your desk or in your cubicle or whatever....now that is GROSS!!  I'm not saying people shouldn't have right to smoke...but I do think I should have the right to NOT have to inhale someone else's smoke...
  Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
  I agree with that. 100%.
  however, if someone is outside in a smoking area, non-smokers don't have a right to biitch.

  
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• JessAndTrav member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:f7352caf-6625-4c61-968a-605a3b767588">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : I absolutely agree with you on this one.... ...and this is going to show my age BUT, I can even remember when you could smoke at work...like at your desk or in your cubicle or whatever....now that is GROSS!!  I'm not saying people shouldn't have right to smoke...but I do think I should have the right to NOT have to inhale someone else's smoke...
  Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
  
  Haha, I was watching Mr. Mom last night, and the scene when Teri Garr is in the meeting on the first day of her job, ALL of the smoke in the room---was unbelievable to me.
  
  But I'm sure that's actually exactly what it was like in meeting rooms in 1983.

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• crfische member

  

  September 2010

  I love that bars are smoke free. LOVE. IT. I don't have to leave my coat in the car, I don't have to wake up smelling like smoke, or shower before bed...
  
  It's a wonderful thing.
  

  
  Vacation with Alix, Andy, Mandy, and FLORENCE. AND HER MACHINE.
  
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• louisvillebride21

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:145473a6-7405-4e40-bef4-e9bbd141d85e">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular opinions : I think East was saying if you want good italian food, go elsewhere. there's plenty of mom and pop italian restaurants that aren't expensive that are vastly better than olive garden. although I can see how you'd take it that way.
  Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
  
  It was probably me just taking it that way. We had to tighten up our budget since I'm about to be out of a job, so it is the 'nicest' we can afford right now. When we can afford to go out that is.

  "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs

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• laladypoet member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:252f47a7-1f66-403f-9beb-40543376749e">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]I love not having smoking at the restaurants in my city, but I do think that bars that ban smoking are being a little silly. Seriously? Alcohol and cigarettes just kind of "go" together.
  Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
  I think it should be up to the owner of the bar, personally. here, the city makes all the decisions. a few really nice cigar bars went out of business because of it.

  
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• waltzingmatilda13 member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:252f47a7-1f66-403f-9beb-40543376749e">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]I love not having smoking at the restaurants in my city, but I do think that bars that ban smoking are being a little silly. Seriously? Alcohol and cigarettes just kind of "go" together.
  Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
  
  There's a bar here where I live that had a great solution to this problem when we went smoke free. The owner dubbed the bar the separate smoking area and non-smokers could stay outside, in the "smoke free" area. I'm not sure how long it worked, but I thought it was hilarious. And I'm a non-smoker.

  
  

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• alixzafiris member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:252f47a7-1f66-403f-9beb-40543376749e">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]I love not having smoking at the restaurants in my city, but I do think that bars that ban smoking are being a little silly. Seriously? Alcohol and cigarettes just kind of "go" together.
  Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
  
  I don't agree at all. I love bars and beer and going out for booze, wings and a game on a big screen. I don't love secondhand smoke and there are lots of others like me. If you want to smoke, go outside. I shouldn't be subjected to something that could potentially<em> kill me </em>just becuase you don't want to go stand in the snow and cold and keep it away from everyone else who objects to cancer and other smoking related illnesses.
  
  I have no problem with people who do smoke; I don't agree with it but it's their choice. However, it's not like taking children to a restaurant and having them annoy other patrons, it's dangerous and deadly and people have every right to not want to be subjected to it in public spaces.
  
  <em>*those are figurative "you's"</em>

  
  

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• JessAndTrav member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_unpopular-opinions-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2e3ad6c9-8951-45f0-984d-3c693c3e7637Post:6f8f21eb-12b5-4ffc-b5dd-523f9edd4027">Re: Unpopular opinions</a>:
  [QUOTE]I love that bars are smoke free. LOVE. IT. I don't have to leave my coat in the car, I don't have to wake up smelling like smoke, or shower before bed... It's a wonderful thing.
  Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
  
  I agree, and I (as a non-smoker) appreciate a smoke-free bar, but I don't expect a smoke-free bar. Does that make sense?
  
  If I'm going out to the bar, I just expect that I'll need to come home and shower afterward.

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