Things your BF/FBD/FI/DH does that drives you nuts?

hetshup · May 2010

FI is home right now, I haven't seen him in a month, but we've never lived together so it's an adjustment to say the least. Some things that he does that drive me crazy (b\c I feel like an ungreatful hoar if I tell him)

1) He uses a new towel everytime he showers. This isn't really a problem, but he won't get a new towel. So he showers, throws the wet towel in the tub, then when he showers again, uses my towel, throws IT in the tub. And when I go to shower? No dry towels.

2) He critiques my dishwashing. But the good news is he will normally do them b\c he doesn't like how I do them.

3) He dislikes my roommate's messiness. Well I don't like it either, but I'm not her mom, leave me alone!

What about you?

paintgirl · May 2010

Omg. I love you for starting this one.
1. He leaves mail on the counter for months. Declares it to be trash, then leaves it there. I'm talking junk mail. Kitchen counter. Months. (This is a symptom of a bigger problem - he comments frequently about this closet or that room being a cluttered mess, but it's his stuff! Go through it, take stuff to Goodwill or trash, and move along!)
2. He won't pick out paint colors so I could paint a few rooms while he is gone. He "remembered" as we walked out the door to drop him off at the airport yesterday. Sure. Riiiiiiight...

That's really about it. The mail thing drives me INSANE.

PaigeMcC · May 2010

FI leaves his dirty clothes in a pile next to his side of the bed. It piles up for a few days until I either A) trip over it and complain to him

guilt him into putting in the basket or C) pick it up myself. Normally I would just grab it and throw it in the basket BUT he's started pushing it under the bed now so I don't even see it til it's HUGE! Oh my...

He doesn't change the toilet paper. He just leaves the empty roll.

But on the bright side he always takes the dogs out...even in the rain! That way I don't have to get wet or cold. hehe:)

notquiteblushing · May 2010

Instead of using the recycling bin under the sink he stacks recycling next to the garbage can. It grosses me out. Why can't he just use the bin? He also recycles everything! Which I guess is good for the environment and what have you....but then take it out!

It's also very hard to just chill out on the weekends when he is doing something because he makes me feel lazy. And vice versa. I guess it's hard to have much separate time when your place is small.

catemeg · May 2010

He wears socks until they have huge holes in them, and brown rather than white, and feel like sandpaper. And he'll wear them to bed!!! Gross!

He will never buy new clothing for himself. EVER! And he used to be 50 pounds heavier than he is now. And then he bulked up in muscle because he joined the Marines. So half of his clothes (his suits, mostly) hang off of him and the rest are too tight (his t-shirts)! And all of his t-shirts have some sort of Marine Corps motto on them.

Oh, and he really never takes off those socks - he'll slip his feet, socks and all, into flip flops to go someplace! UGH!

ekathleen684 · May 2010

My biggest peeve at the moment is that when he's home, he sleeps about 70% of the time he's here. I feel bad for being mad because when he's OOT, he's working 15 hours a day with no days off.

When he's really tired he will talk/have conversations with you in his sleep. Yesterday when he "wasn't asleep" (aka-asleep and snoring) he told me "I like to sleep during the day and wake up and it's dark out..That's my motto." Followed with the usually loud "HA HA". I need to write the stuff he says down, it's too funny.

PaigeMcC · May 2010

AH! FI does the holey socks thing! Not to that extent but he wears holey socks!

I've almost broken him of the habit tho. Whenever I see a hole in his sock and grab it and pull....once it's big I go "OH no! Guess you'll have to find a different pair" I know it seems mean BUT he's a professional and he has 30 billion pairs of socks (I just bought him 20 last week) there is NO excuse!

Ana_2985 · May 2010

FI does the towel thing too and it drives me crazy. So I started hiding my towel because I thought it would encourage him to keep track of his. Nope. Now, when he gets in the shower he realizes that the towels do not magically appear on their own for his convenience. So he has to call me from wherever I am in the house to get him a new one. Which he will leave on the closet floor in ball.

Other than that, he's very easy to live with.

paintgirl · May 2010

Pssssst ... Paige said FI!!! Whoo hooo!

aperitisa · May 2010

When it is his turn to scoop the kitty litter he does it, but then doesn't sweep up around the litter box. So the next day when its my turn its extra dirty. I have mentioned it several times and he is finally realizing how much it annoys me. Gah!

ekathleen684 · May 2010

At this very moment- there are 4 towels on his bathroom floor.

Paige- Thats not mean, it's funny.

**Thing I love about BF: We had the pup at his house this weekend and while he was getting up for work at 2:30am, Binx woke up and wanted to go outside. Without missing a beat and me saying a word, BF took him out of his cage and took him outside.

catemeg · May 2010

Ugh, if only the ripping thing worked! I have a rule that if I can fit my hand through the hole, it has to get thrown out. Really, he STILL argues with me! And when he can't find socks, he accuses me of throwing them all out. They might have just disintegrated, to be honest!

zaneopal · May 2010

Confession: I do the sock thing.

As for BF...I think the fact that often times he'd prefer to just whine about stuff that needs to be done as opposed to just going and doing it is my BIGGEST pet peeve. He had a paper due the day he got back from spring break, that he knew about for a month. He complained about it right up until the night before it was due, and ended up turning it in late.

He also tells me what to eat or not to eat. And not in a "well this is better for you" way. In a "that food makes me feel sick so you shouldn't eat it either" way. I'm sorry, I like spicy food. I won't make you eat it, but I'm not giving up my Indian/Thai/super hot Mexican food for you.

I love the man, but he makes me crazy with stuff like this.

PaigeMcC · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_things-bffbdfidh-drives-nuts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a9b70626-77ab-417e-8822-1e5ddc1a5aaaPost:6bf55383-5bdb-4c7b-8d48-b5bad975125c">Re: Things your BF/FBD/FI/DH does that drives you nuts?</a>:
[QUOTE]Ugh, if only the ripping thing worked! I have a rule that if I can fit my hand through the hole, it has to get thrown out. Really, he STILL argues with me! And when he can't find socks, he accuses me of throwing them all out. They might have just disintegrated, to be honest!
Posted by catemeg[/QUOTE]

lol Oh hunny! I feel your pain!

jeanacorina · May 2010

I managed to break him of the leaving-the-toilet-seat-up habit. That was annoying.

Let's see....

1) If I ask him a question that he knows I won't like the answer to, he just won't answer at all. Seriously. Not a peep. He pretends he didn't hear me.

For instance, "Honey, do you want pizza for dinner?" "Yeah, that sounds great!" "OK, will you please deflate the air mattress in the guest room?" *crickets chirp*

"Honey?" "Yeah?" "Will you deflate the mattress?" *nothing*

"Josh?" "Uh-huh?" "Are you going to let the air out or do I need to do it?" *not a peep*

"JOSH!!!" "What?!" "If you tell me you are not going to do it, I'll do it myself! I just need to know!" "Oh. I might do it."

*headdesk*

2) He has the same eyeglasses from high school or something. They're horribly out of style, broken (yes, BROKEN), and not even the right prescription anymore. He even HAS the new prescription. He'd just rather spend his money on FUN stuff than something he needs. Like... new glasses.

3) When our friends (mutual friends) invite us to meet them for dinner, Josh's first question is "Where are they eating?" He never considers how long it's been since we've seen them, or the fact that he never invites THEM to do anything. He's a total hermit. I could understand if he asked "What time?"

My friend even noticed that he asks where every time. She thinks it's funny because it IS rude. Her husband is kinda... you know.... rude, too (he's my former boss). But she said she feels like if she doesn't answer with a place Josh likes, he'll say he doesn't want to go see them. I feel that way, too! How rude!

Oh, well. He is the way he is. He DOES do dishes and laundry on a regular basis. And he cooks. He's not terribly messy or anything. And he cuddles and kisses all the time. And he's incredible with our cats. Overall, his quirks are just quirks. I can live with them.

hetshup · May 2010

Oh and he dislikes that I don't trim my nails weekly or something. The man hates nails, it's not like I have talons or anything.

And I don't understand boys, how do their socks get so rough? I have socks, they never get diamond hard nubbies.

katanne9 · May 2010

He leaves his dishes everywhere. When I ask him to take care of them he dutifully carries them over and leaves them next to the sink. !?!? I have to stand there are watch him with eagle eyes to make sure he gets them into the dishwasher.

He insists on checking the tire pressure RIGHT before we leave on a trip. Why he didn't think of it 30 minutes earlier is beyond me.

He takes soooo long to get ready in the morning.

He is a Chatty Cathy and it takes FOREVER to leave a room because he could have a conversation with a wall.

zaneopal · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_things-bffbdfidh-drives-nuts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a9b70626-77ab-417e-8822-1e5ddc1a5aaaPost:0e76596e-ca2f-4125-a0a9-4d1e2dab9864">Re: Things your BF/FBD/FI/DH does that drives you nuts?</a>:
[QUOTE]He takes soooo long to get ready in the morning.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

This!! BF takes three times as long as I do to get ready in the morning.

ekathleen684 · May 2010

We just went to get BF new socks yesterday because the majority of his socks have holes in the back where his shoe rubs. Thankfully, he doesn't mind new socks.

BF has the memory of a goldfish (or some other animal with bad memory) when it comes to anything school related. He'll ask me about 4 times a week what homework he has to do and 90% of the time he forgets. When I remind him on the day it's due he is usually working so either I have to do it or it doesn't get done.

Ana_2985 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_things-bffbdfidh-drives-nuts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a9b70626-77ab-417e-8822-1e5ddc1a5aaaPost:0e76596e-ca2f-4125-a0a9-4d1e2dab9864">Re: Things your BF/FBD/FI/DH does that drives you nuts?</a>:
[QUOTE] He is a Chatty Cathy and it takes FOREVER to leave a room because he could have a conversation with a wall.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

This is my FI as well. He'll do it with just me too. Relax, I'm coming with you. You can walk and talk at the same time. Can't you?

I have a sock problem. I always go to sleep with socks on, but I take them off when I'm sleeping. Then we'll find piles of socks in the blankets, under the bed, in the sofa cushions, everywhere.

katanne9 · May 2010

Hah! Ana I do the same thing! When I change my sheets several pairs of socks fall out.

jeanacorina · May 2010

Your chatty BFs/FIs are hilarious to me. Mine wouldn't speak to save his own life. He takes FOREVER to warm up to people, and even if he likes someone, he'd just rather not talk. I don't know if he thinks people are naturally psychic or what.

hetshup · May 2010

Whoa Kat! Look at your ticker!

katanne9 · May 2010

BAAAH I KNOW!!!!!!!!!!

but look at Jeana's! Holy moly!

ekathleen684 · May 2010

BF would rather not talk to anyone either. He never invites people to do anything. I was talking to a friend (more Kyle's than mine) last night and he was saying how he wanted to hang out. I told him to call Kyle if he wanted to hang out, otherwise he won't do anything and will go to bed before 8pm.

zaneopal · May 2010

I'm amazed BF even managed to get with me. He regularly says that he hates people he doesn't know.

When I try to point out that at one point, he didn't know me, he brushes me off. Logic fail?

Narwhal · May 2010

BF never does anything on time, but he complains about it. For example, we bought bikes a few months ago. He decides he's too big for his and wants a new one. So he's going to return it because he hasn't ridden it at all. I've been telling him to take it back for weeks now, and he still hasn't done it. Then he's going to be upset because they probably won't even take it.

He also only wears tshirts and cargo shorts. He got some extra money in his paycheck the other day and said that he was going to buy new clothes. I asked him what he was getting and he was like "I'll just order some more tshirts online." I then asked him if he's considered some big boy clothes. He got mad.

I love him though. He's cute.

jeanacorina · May 2010

LOL @ big boy clothes.

FI has only ever worn free video game shirts we got from working at GameStop, or shirts with comic book characters on them, and ratty old CARPENTER JEANS.

Seriously, he dresses like he's 12.

I finally took him to Old Navy before our engagement pictures and got him two plain t-shirts in bright colors (1 blue, 1 orange) and a pair of nice jeans that look really good on him. We tried like 3 different styles of jeans to find the best ones.

He was really, surprisingly receptive to the process. He admitted that he probably needed to "grow up" his wardrobe a little. I mean, I'm all for dressing young. Heck, right now I am wearing a bright green loose-fitting tank top with crochet accents with a hot pink cardigan and gray boot-cut khakis (gray khakis exist, right?).

I never match and I always wear bright, bold colors. I don't dress like a 26-year-old who works at a law firm.

However, I only wear my freebie video game t-shirts and baggy 1990s-inspired pants is when I am cleaning house or if I just rolled out of bed and need to be at class in 45 minutes. I don't make a habit of wearing my Star Wars: The Force Unleashed shirt in public.

Narwhal · May 2010

Haha I dress like a 5 year old sometimes too. I never match my clothes. My favorite outfit consists of red shorts, a yellow sweater, and a royal blue shirt. And rainboots.

The problem I have with his clothes is that he does have nice clothes, and he looks great in them. But he always says they don't fit him right and just defaults to the tshirts. He wore his blue Florida Gator tshirt under a white dress shirt to a play that we had to dress up for. Silly boy.

paintgirl · May 2010

Love the Chatty Cathys. Bf will stop in the aisle while we're buying dish soap or something and tell me a story. I am an amazing multi-tasker. I can walk AND listen at the same time. However, I have learned to slow down, be amused, and not worry about it.

He also takes forever to get ready in the morning. What do they do in there??? I don't get it.

ekathleen684 · May 2010

BF has two outfits. For about a month straight I saw him in nothing but his work uniform. Other than that his usual outfit is a pair of Levi's he took from his friend and a Nike sweatshirt in either royal blue, maroon, or green. With summer coming I'm sure he will retire the sweatshirts and wear cargo khakis and one of his many cut off shirts that expose his nipples. This is his favorite one, no one knows where it came from but whoever had it before him graciously cut the sleeves off already for perfect nipple exposure.

Don't get me wrong, he has very nice clothes, but he says he looks weird in them.

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