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MMRoberts11
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QOTD 4/30
What in your opinion is worse... having expectations that are too high, or having no expectations at all?
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[QUOTE]I would rather be surprised than disappointed. So, I think having to high of expectations is worse for me.
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]
Me too!
[QUOTE]Definitely no expectations at all. What's there to dream and work for if you can't expect anything from a situation, people, or yourself?
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]
EXACTLY!
[QUOTE]I would rather be surprised than disappointed. So, I think having to high of expectations is worse for me.
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]
<div>I agree. As for people, I'd rather have no expectations, see what they can do, and then hold them to it than just set them too high.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 4/30 : I agree. As for people, I'd rather have no expectations, see what they can do, and then hold them to it than just set them too high.
Posted by MMRoberts11[/QUOTE]
Yes. With people exactly.
But, I think with some things I set my expectations high, but I have learned to not expect much out of anyone. I am rarely surprised by anyone anymore.
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I hope that everyone saying they prefer to be surprised by people will/have put high expectations on their children. They need that or they'll just try to coast through life, unless they're naturally motivated people.
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[QUOTE]Definitely no expectations at all. What's there to dream and work for if you can't expect anything from a situation, people, or yourself?
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]
This exactly!
[QUOTE]I would rather be surprised than disappointed. So, I think having to high of expectations is worse for me.
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]
This completely. I have strong believer that people and situations can always surprise you.
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*Though because I set high one's for myself I'm let down more when I expect the same from others. It seems that those with no excpectations are probably let down less. But there's no way I could lower my expectations for myself..others yes because I can't control what they do, but I couldn't live that way personally.
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I much prefer to be surprised in a good way than to be let down all the time.
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[QUOTE]I tihink it depends on what the expectations are for if someone says they have no expectations of my character that is like saying to me that you think I have no character which is offensive. However, going to a movie or going to hang out with my friends I don't have huge expectations for what we are doing because what I want to do may not be what the crowd wants to do.
Posted by goodine11[/QUOTE]
<div>That's a very good way of putting it! I guess I have high expectations of some things.....I am just selective in where I choose to have them!</div>
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[QUOTE]Definitely no expectations at all. What's there to dream and work for if you can't expect anything from a situation, people, or yourself?
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]
<div>Took the words right out of my mouth! </div>
I think sometimes people can have too high of expectations for their children and expect them to do things that they're just not capable of doing or refuse to get them help due to their own pride. There are both positive and negative aspects of having too high or too low of expectations. I don't think there is any real black or white answer here.
[QUOTE]<strong>I think sometimes people can have too high of expectations for their children and expect them to do things that they're just not capable of doing</strong> or refuse to get them help due to their own pride. There are both positive and negative aspects of having too high or too low of expectations. I don't think there is any real black or white answer here.
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]
I'm afraid to have children for this reason. I know my expectations will be insane and I'm terrified that my children will feel like they have one of those moms that never approves. Everyone tells me it will be different when its your kids vs your expectations for your friends but I really don't think it will. Lots of people feel like that about their parents and I don't want that to be my kids!
[QUOTE]I tihink it depends on what the expectations are for if someone says they have no expectations of my character that is like saying to me that you think I have no character <strong>which is offensive. </strong>However, going to a movie or going to hang out with my friends I don't have huge expectations for what we are doing because what I want to do may not be what the crowd wants to do.
Posted by goodine11[/QUOTE]
<div>Eye roll.</div><div>
</div><div>This word should be flagged so it can't be posted on our board anymore my GOD. </div>
[QUOTE]The thing with high expectations for kids is that you put the expectations out there and <strong>push them to do their best. THEN you accept their best.</strong> You don't give them no expectations because then they have nothing to work towards. Kids generally want to appease their parents and teachers and will work very hard to do so. The problems arise when the parents/teachers never acknowledge the accomplishments and effort of the kids.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]
Agreed. </p>
<p>The original question is too broad and there really is no right or wrong answer.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 4/30 : Agreed. The original question is too broad and there really is no right or wrong answer.
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]
It's the QOTD. Its not black and white because its supposed to be fun and people are supposed to answer differently... thats what makes it fun. Is any question actually EVER black and white?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 4/30 : The original question is too broad and there really is no right or wrong answer.
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]
<div>That's the point of QOTDs. It's not to show who knows the correct answer or not but rather to have us learn more about each other and read different perspectives on various things.</div>