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sand252 · March 2010

I just saw wedding in New York Magazine's current issue where they had a dressed up event / bbq! It is truly whatever you want. And if it's good food, everyone will be happy. It sounds amazing!

cutesd81 · March 2010

When my cousin got married, she had a pseudo-western theme. The groom and all the groomsmen wore cowboy boots and hats, and they had BBQ and square dancing. She wore her wedding dress and did just fine. I didn't find it tacky at all, and the square dancing turned out to be really fun!

deedeedoo · March 2010

it's YOUR wedding! you should get whatever you and your husband-to-be want! you shouldn't worry about what other people think. i wouldn't. if your guests really know you, then they would know you guys love bbq and there shouldnt be a problem at all...

tamaradgranata · March 2010

i think having bbq is perfectly fine. thats what you two grew up eating and love, there is nothing wrong with that. i am having spaghetti because i am italian, all my family says is "thats why they made bibs".
you should have something there that you both enjoy, dont spend tons of money on something you wont reallly want to eat.

shareka1216 · March 2010

I don't think your choice in entrees will make your reception tacky. If you decorate the reception site well and use nice place settings it will "dress" it up a bit and take away some of the picnic feeling. I say go for it but be careful about how it is presented. If people can serve cheese and crackers as hors doeurves then why can't you have bbq as an entree??

shannonjobe · March 2010

We attended an outdoor wedding last year - nice wedding, not super casual, where they had BBQ and a smoker even. It was a very nice wedding and the food was delicious (better than most weddings I've been to). I've decided that if it's your wedding and it's something you and your future husband are happy with, GO FOR IT!!!!

SaraLM · March 2010

I think it is a great idea. Your wedding should be a reflection of you and your relationship. If you both love BBQ incorporate it into your theme. Just stay away from hotdogs & hamburgers

ladyvixen_27 · March 2010

I think it's a great idea, we are actually doing a pig roast at ours. We have planned it out that so we can do all the formal intros, dancing and cake cutting before we eat. After that we will be changing into summer clothes and partying the rest of the night. I love BBQ but didn't want to ruin my dress, so we compromised and this has worked out amazingly for us and our guest. Go with what you want it's your day!!

Klegg07 · March 2010

Go for it!!!!! Its your day

jersey7301 · March 2010

If you both love BBQ I think it is completely appropriate. Remember, as you said, it is all about the two of you. Do what YOU want. Just an additional thought to go along with the BBQ, have you ever had grilled fruit? If not, try grilling fresh pineapple sometime. Yum! Regardless of what you choose make sure it is something the two of you want, not trying to anticipate pleasing your guests. No matter how hard you try you will never please them all.

wildcass · March 2010

I totally agree you should go with it why is it suitable for a picnic wedding but not suitable for a night wedding, most bbqs i attend are at night so i think its very fitting, and lets face it if people dont really like it they just wont come...

adnoyd · March 2010

Not at all....who doesn't love BBQ...Have you thought about changing into a reception outfit for the occassional spill ?

JessieFire16 · March 2010

I say go for it. I think a wedding should be a reflection on you and your fiance. Your tastes and personalities should be represented in your wedding. If you guys love BBQ you should totally eat it. Its your day and you guys should make yourselves happy. You cant please everyone and if someone doesnt like it they can go home. My fiance loves chicken wings so were having them at our reception and were having a formal wedding. Hope you go with what you guys like.

pootobe · March 2010

awww, BBQ sounds like it is going to be alot of fun. I envy you for having the guts to do what you want. My parents are way to tradituonal.

kids1010 · March 2010

I say go for it. Much better than the half cold chicken breasts and cold green beans that you have at every wedding. You could even have "Bibs" with your names on them at each place setting to protect everyone's clothes. Sounds like a fun night to me!

laurab0613 · March 2010

I'm getting married in April and we are having a local restaurant cater BBQ as well. Our wedding tastes sound about the same. I have a nice dress, but everything is going to be fairly laid back and casual after the ceremony. I say do what you want. I finally said, "What the hell, people won't care about what they are eating just as long as the food tastes great!" Plus, who doesn't love BBQ (besides vegetarians)? Remember, you are spending the money and essentially this is one big party for you guys so I say go for it!

midnightocean · March 2010

There's nothing tacky about BBQ - it's a great idea! Of course, we're planning to have BBQ at my wedding too, so that's an easy one.

If anyone is tacky enough to mention it at the wedding, I guess they can not eat it. Your wedding should be about sharing what you both enjoy without worrying about anyone getting offended. I guess there's always someone trying to say what "should" be done, but it's your day!

dunbell413 · March 2010

Sooooo, do you like BBQ--YES
Does he like BBQ--Yes
Are you marrying him--YES

Make yourselves happy.

LyndsEC1985 · March 2010

I am getting married in October of next year and like you, I am having the ceremony and reception at essentially the same place. I also don't want it to be super formal but not too casual. And I think it is COMPLETELY fine to have barbecue at the reception. We are planning on having pulled pork at ours and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I wouldn't think you would want to have barbecue ribs that you have to eat with your hands, but anything else would be just fine!!!

hgibbs77 · March 2010

it's not tacy at all, besides it's your wedding, you're paying for it. if i listened to what everyone said i "should" do for our wedding, i wouldn't be happy and it would be BORING lol, just be yourself and do what you want, and above all have fun! who cares if you get it on your dress, you only wear it once anyways lol OR wear a bib and make a joke out of it. my wedding is semi formal, but that doesn't mean you can't have fun and eat what you want, right? talk with your fiancee and decide together on what you want. and that's it! leave everyone else out of it! have fun and congrats!!!

valerielovesgeorge · March 2010

i'm having BBQ at my wedding too. BBQ is not tacky its good. my family, hates the classic flavorless chicken or steak. so go for it. im sure your guest will enjoy it.

kristy.dexter · March 2010

you should SO have bbq! ive been to a few weddings lately that were even later in the evening and they had bbq! that is what my fi and i have been planning on doing, also! it isnt tacky...just have nicer plates/utensils/napkins and not just paper/plastic and it will look fantastic!

in-the-white · March 2010

dont care what people think . its your day, however, if you had the reception in the tented part, people may have a different opinion.

alannasmith · March 2010

First of all, your wedding should be your style. If you want BBQ, then you should have BBQ! I am from Texas myself, and my fiance and I would have chosen BBQ for our wedding had we not chosen a Mexican food restaurant.

Secondly, perception is all in the presentation! If you want BBQ, but your concerned that it's not "fancy" enough for a semiformal dinner, just dress it up with nice plates and flatware and stemware and tons of candles. Believe me, as long as the food on their pretty plates tastes delicious, and the atmosphere in which they eat it is comfortable and fun, they won't care if its BBQ or lobster.

Good luck!
Alanna

harrisonla07 · March 2010

I think it sounds brilliant! It's your day and if you love BBQ then do it!

And as for the white dress, wear a cute apron over the top of it while you eat! I went to a wedding last Friday, and they opted for the chocolate fountain over a cake. Obviously, feeding each other chocolate dipped strawberries posed some dress-threatening issues, so the groom made a really big show of whipping out a hot pink apron (wedding color theme!) and putting it on the bride before hand. It was super cute and made the whole room erupt with laughter.

And here's something I have learned - quit telling people what you're planning! I've discovered the hard way when you share your plans with people, they inevitably take it as an invitation to give their two cents' worth. So keep mum about any plans that you don't want your friends to spoil for you (because even as awesome as your friends are, it WILL happen!), and then just let them be surprised. Most likely, your reception will be so fun and coordinated that your guests will see what you've done differently, and they'll love it!

Have fun!

dmensah2009 · March 2010

BBQ is awesome! That is what we are having, but BBQ can be chic...steaks and chicken breast, vegetable kabobs, baby roasted potatoes instead of a baked potato, spring salad, mixed greens, seasoned rice, and corn (kernels-not on the cob) I love corn! Our reception is at a golf course with a chef that gets great reviews, I'm not worried at all. I would much rather eat BBQ than the typical roast beef/chicken. Served on beautiful dinnerware, plus we love BBQ we grill all year round. Why wouldn't you serve something you love?

petersenweeks · March 2010

NOT tacky! Something that says something about the two of you. And, I was at a wedding 3 years ago where BBQ chicken was served. It was GREAT!!! Have wet naps ready & enjoy!

jlrowell · March 2010

I think as long as you care about it and put in the effort to make it really special and your own, then it should be great! Do you watch that florist on TLC? His dad wanted sunflowers for his birthday party, and the florist wasn't sure bc sunflowers are the cheapest flower, I guess, but he put a lot of thought into it and it looked really nice! I think if you put that effort into it your wedding will be really beautiful!

ash_estes · March 2010

Go for it!!! I am doing a 50s rockabilly theme reception and I am serving burgers, fries, and root beer floats! In all honesty, your guests will probably appreciate eating BBQ. It's something other than the normal chicken and pasta that is served at a lot of weddings.

krcardin · March 2010

Maybe you could try and find something similar in flavor to barbeque--like a smoked meat--but without the drippy barbeque sauce. Or, even if you do barbeque, keep it to chicken breast, or something that can be eaten with a fork and knife.

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