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paintgirl
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Keep Engagement Secret - For Awhile?
Since some of the girls here had to play 20 questions repeatedly with friends and family after getting engaged, I'm wondering: Did anyone / will anyone keep their engagement to themselves for a few days or for a week or so? Just to enjoy the peace and quiet for awhile?
I know that might be impossible for people who live near their families.
I know that might be impossible for people who live near their families.
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Re: Keep Engagement Secret - For Awhile?
That being said, I didn't really mind the thousands of questions. I basically laughed at anyone who stupidly asked what we had planned less that 24 hours after he proposed!
Everyone knew that it was coming besides me and they also knew when it was going to happen. We did not call anyone right away. We called people about an hour or so later.
Both my family and his family would have been very upset if we kept something like that from them for a day let alone a week.
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Edit: because we were on vacation, we still got our glowy time to just enjoy it. Even if we weren't, I don't think I could've waited very long to tell people though. I was excited
[QUOTE]If the only reason you want to keep it a secret is to avoid some questions I think it is silly. They are just questions. Be an adult and deal with it. I don't think "OMG WHEN IS THE WEDDING???" Is enough of a reason to hide something like this from friends or family.
Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]
I think it is more delaying telling everyone for a bit. Like quiet time to bask in the joy and glow before being bombarded by well wishers and the questions that follow.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Keep Engagement Secret - For Awhile? : I think it is more delaying telling everyone for a bit. Like quiet time to bask in the joy and glow before being bombarded by well wishers and the questions that follow.
Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]
Agreed, Lyn!
My answer is that I'd like some basky, glowy time, but that's all I know. I think it'll depend how I feel in the moment. I can't see waiting more than a day or two, though. I'll be so excited. :)
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[QUOTE]My engagement was never a secret. FI can't keep his mouth shut for the life of him, so about a dozen people already knew prior to him even popping the question.
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]
Ditto, everyone knew before I did.
But then I called my mommy and he called his parents. From there it was texts to the girls and then we ran away to go swimming. You should have seen the messages on my phone when I got back..HOLY.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Keep Engagement Secret - For Awhile? : Ditto, everyone knew before I did.
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]
Good thing we said yes, huh?
I got to enjoy it for a couple of hours and then made calls to the immediate family, texts to others and then a posting on FB later on at night.
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However, if I am anywhere near a computer (or my phone) soon after it happens, you girls will know instantly.
[QUOTE]I kept it secret for a full 20 minutes, then we told our families. haha
Posted by bourgehm[/QUOTE]
This sounds like me. I didn't tell anyone for about 20 minutes then I just had to. But I did wait until the next morning to tell my parents.
[QUOTE]If the only reason you want to keep it a secret is to avoid some questions I think it is silly. They are just questions. Be an adult and deal with it. I don't think "OMG WHEN IS THE WEDDING???" Is enough of a reason to hide something like this from friends or family.
Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]
Yeah not really my point. I was actually thinking "Why the F do people feel the need to call mommy and put a banner up on Facebook the SECOND they get engaged, then get upset because someone asks them about the wedding? Why not enjoy a day or two with their new FI before renting the sky writer?"
That's kind of what I was thinking.
He also took my mom and cousin with him ring shopping!
Whether it'll really work out or not who knows. I just really, really hate phones.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Keep Engagement Secret - For Awhile? : Yeah not really my point. I was actually thinking "Why the F do people feel the need to call mommy and put a banner up on Facebook the SECOND they get engaged, then get upset because someone asks them about the wedding? <strong>Why not enjoy a day or two with their new FI before renting the sky writer?</strong>" That's kind of what I was thinking.
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]
So does this mean that I should return mine? Damn, I was having so much fun with it already.
We loved having our own little secret, and it provided many laughs. It did allow us to just enjoy being engaged. The only person who was pissed was my MOH. I was very involved in her proposal and she thought that she would be involved in mine but our DH's are exceedingly different.
FI waited to tell his parents until after we told mine, because we didn't trust his mom not to announce it all over Facebook.
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That being said, we were too excited and called people that night.
However, I was really glad we at least took the afternoon and evening to enjoy it together. A lot of people I know started called people and Facebooked it immediately.