Hi ladies,
I am planning on having a decent sized wedding (around 100 people). I am a very laid back person and am not into the whole bridesmaid thing but I do want a small wedding party. I am a lot closer to my two best friends than my cousins (who have been more like sisters to me my whole life). But I feel like they would get offended if I made my friends the MOHs instead of my two cousins. I also want to have my fiancee's sister to be in the wedding in some way.
So, I was wonderign if it was OK to just have 'bridal attendants' or a bridal party but not give anyone official titles like MOH or bridesmaid. Does that seem fair?
I would not make them get matching dresses but I would just ask them all to wear a black dress or something like that.
Re: Can I only have bridal attendants without giving anyone titles
It's fine not to designate a MOH.
I personally don't see a difference between calling them Bridesmaids vs. Attendants or Bridal Party, but whatever floats your boat. The only time you really even need to address them as anything is if you have a program, and/or if you're referring to them in conversation ("My bridesmaids are wearing black dresses, Aunt Mabel"), so titles aren't a huge deal.
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And all in black dresses will look great.
I'm one of 4 sisters and when sis #2 got married this past October, she couldn't pick one of us to be MOH over the others so we were all just bridesmaids. We all had the same dress and we all took roles in the ceremony (one held her flowers, one did a reading, etc) and it worked out fine.
Don't feel pressured to do anything just because someone thinks you "should". Good luck!
Do whatever you want!!!