I confess that I made a microwave meal for lunch, but forgot a fork, so I'm now eating noodles, shrimp and veggies with my fingers because I'm too lazy to get back up and get one.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:b2279349-88ca-4669-ad60-b43fcaf496b4">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I confess that I feel like this sometimes too. There are lot of people that seem to have become good friends fast and it's hard for me to do that. Even IRL.<strong> Most of my very best friends I've had since I was in H.S (over 11 years ago). My very best friend I've known since 6th grade. I like everyone here but I feel like it's me that I haven't become BFF's with anyone here. I wish I were the type of person that made close friends super fast.</strong> Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
I could've written the exact same thing (except that high school was only 4 years ago for me). It takes me a long time to make friends. I also assume that people don't want to be my friend which is part of the problem.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:48e2c662-6568-4729-accf-3353c04a2d0d">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I could've written the exact same thing (except that high school was only 4 years ago for me). It takes me a long time to make friends. <strong>I also assume that people don't want to be my friend which is part of the problem.</strong> Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]
<div>I am also like this. It's really hard for me to hang on to friendships because of this mentality. I feel like if I am the one making plans or effort, it's because the other person doesn't care. So I stop trying as hard. I only have one good girl friend (from HS), and I never see her because she went to college on the other side of the state and stayed there.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:58e1e459-bc45-436c-ac8e-e73e22eeaac1">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I am also like this. It's really hard for me to hang on to friendships because of this mentality. <strong>I feel like if I am the one making plans or effort, it's because the other person doesn't care. So I stop trying as hard.</strong> I only have one good girl friend (from HS), and I never see her because she went to college on the other side of the state and stayed there. Posted by swhite2012[/QUOTE]
I do the same thing. I put a lot of effort into my friendships. I really am the type of person who will drop whatever I'm doing to be there for a friend but I've found a lot of people aren't that way so it makes me feel like my friendships are a one-way street when I want them to be a two-way street.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:69868c8b-a1f0-41bb-80da-7bf14107cb13">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]Danie - I confess that I like you a lot, and I sometimes read your blog to get to know you better. Also, FI and I talk about moving to Atlanta a lot because I want to work for the CDC. Can we be IRL friends if we really do move there? Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
<div>YES TO EVERYTHING! This made my day. I Like you too! Aw, I feel like a nerd. I have no connections at the CDC, but I hear it's a great place to work! I hope you do decide to migrate here!</div><div> </div><div>Beth, I also really like you:) We seem very similar. </div>
Danie and Swhite: I think you guys are both awesome! I know what you mean though. I get a little insecure sometimes and wonder if people like me or are just being nice. But I'm working on it, lol.
-I am super insecure. I am sure it comes off at different times and other times I hide it really well. I do a lot of damaging things because of this. I am starting to slip back into my old habits of self destruction. I feel fat all the time, I don't feel like I do anything right, I don't think I am good enough, and I am afraid of being a bad wife. -I fear that confessing said above will get me flamed and I wish I had confidence to think that I wouldn't or that it wouldn't affect me. -I also confess that I am careful to always post stuff that won't get me flamed. I know I am way to fragile to handle it so I try really hard to say stuff that won't piss people off. -I confess that I am mad at my ex-best friend for not letting me back in choir. And I am way more upset about it then I thought I would be -I confess that I really dislike FFF. I know it has been said but I know that I am personally unable to deal well with flames. This most likely comes from over thinking and my own insecurities as stated above. -I confess that I feel like very few people like me on the board and I often feel like it is because of my age. -I confess that I don't post wedding stuff because I don't think people really care and some people don't approve that I am getting married.
-I confess I am kind of depressed today so this is a lot more negative then it was meant to be.
"Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:6d538baf-292f-4fd5-9d3b-8d86966532d6">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : YES TO EVERYTHING! This made my day. I Like you too! Aw, I feel like a nerd. I have no connections at the CDC, but I hear it's a great place to work! I hope you do decide to migrate here! <strong>Beth, I also really like you:) We seem very similar. </strong> Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
Quoting is being wonky on my phone so I'll just reply to tiger and liv without quotes!
Tiger: we've definitely gotten into a routine since moving in together and we know how to do our own things in the house, but I asked if that had something to do with it and he wouldn't respond. I think it's partially due to our sleep schedules. I work full-time and he's in school. So I'm in bed and exhausted by midnight and he's wide awake until 4am.
Liv: we do stuff like that too, but he made it sound really negative when he said it so I don't think that's it. Plus we stayed in and watched tv or hung out like old farts before moving in and he didn't mind it then. I definitely need to talk about it with him but I worry he will continue to say nothing since he wouldn't talk last night after he said it. =\
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:27a2a41d-be97-4f6b-a280-65df7ebe9745">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I confess: -I am super insecure. I am sure it comes off at different times and other times I hide it really well. I do a lot of damaging things because of this. I am starting to slip back into my old habits of self destruction. I feel fat all the time, I don't feel like I do anything right, I don't think I am good enough, and I am afraid of being a bad wife. -I fear that confessing said above will get me flamed and I wish I had confidence to think that I wouldn't or that it wouldn't affect me. -I also confess that I am careful to always post stuff that won't get me flamed. I know I am way to fragile to handle it so I try really hard to say stuff that won't piss people off. -I confess that I am mad at my ex-best friend for not letting me back in choir. And I am way more upset about it then I thought I would be -I confess that I really dislike FFF. I know it has been said but I know that I am personally unable to deal well with flames. This most likely comes from over thinking and my own insecurities as stated above. -I confess that I feel like very few people like me on the board and I often feel like it is because of my age. -I confess that I don't post wedding stuff because I don't think people really care and some people don't approve that I am getting married. -I confess I am kind of depressed today so this is a lot more negative then it was meant to be. Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]
*HUGS* I wish you would share more wedding things! I forget...how old are you? I thought we were the same age? Yes? Maybe? No?
It makes me sad that you feel like you aren't good enough and I would hope no one would flame you for that! No one should feel that way. I love reading all your posts I don't think you come across as immature or too young to get married and you fit in really well with everyone here.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:51fcccaf-060d-4342-8196-6616e001751e">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]1. I confess that I'm sad that I'm not on the board nearly as much as I used to be. We have new goals and expectations at work that keep me pretty focused all day. So of course- I don't feel as close to the board, which makes me sad. I also feel as if some people's opionins of me has changed...I don't know why I feel this way- I really don't have a good reason. 2. I hardly ever have sexytime- and I'm usually pretty okay with it. I have like zero sex drive. I'm looking into this... <strong>3. I confess that tdwpg1984- I think it's sad that you think you have the best boyfriend in the whole world....but you don't think that gorgeous sapphire set that he bought you for Christmas was good enough. Do you think you are the best girlfriend in the world? </strong>4. I want to love myself more. I want to accept myself. I want to believe I'm beautiful. 5. I think there is a possibility that FFF changed the board dyanmic. ::shrugs:: I think I probably stopped posting quite a bit after I posted a few WR things...I felt ashamed that we kept changing our plans. And then I got to the point where I didn't feel like anyone really cared about the WR stuff...so I just stopped posting about it. Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>I do love the sapphire set my BF gave me. I wear the earrings, necklace or both at least once a week. I think they're beautiful. I've seen the exact same set in real diamonds and sapphires. And flame me if you want, but the real ones are nicer. Do I expect my bf to buy them for me? No, even though he can afford them. I actually wish he had spent less money on me at Christmas. If someone came up to me and said "You can have the real diamond and sapphire ones or the swarovski ones for the same price" or whatever I'd take the real ones. But something like that would never happen and the swarovski ones are just fine.</div><div> </div><div>And actually I think I'm probably one the worst girlfriend in the world. And that bothers me because my bf is so wonderful. And every day it tears me up inside and think that I should probably leave my bf so he can find someone who actually deserves him. He knows that's how I feel but loves me anyways, which makes me feel worse.</div><div> </div><div>As for going to Sephora, I had a gift card that my mom gave me for christmas. I wanted 1/2 day to a whole day off between now and my midterm next week to study, so I'd figure I'd take today off, go to Sephora, use my gift card then come home and study. Which I did for about an hour when I woke up this morning, then studied for another hour after I came home from Sephora. The only thing I bought at the mall that wasn't purchased with a gift card was a v-day present for my BF and a couple used books at the charity book sale at the mall.
Okay, I'm really late to this party, but I have to add a few things.
1. I confess that while I said I was going to go into the office later after waking up with a migraine, I'm fully planning on sitting on the couch in front of the fireplace, with my snuggly kitty all day. I will do some work though, I swear.
2. I confess that I am the first to admit that I can be overly sensitive. With that being said, I think people need to put on their big girl panties and buck up about FFF and getting called out on things. We are not all puppies & rainbows. If that's what you're looking for, then you might want to go somewhere else. We all do flammable things sometimes. I don't get nervous going into a FFF thread to see if someone has something to say about me. I would accept the criticism and move on. I hate that not everyone can do that.
3. I confess that despite the majority of opinions against me getting bangs, I am going to cut them anyway. I confess that the reason I am getting them is because Liv, Sousa and Shoes said I should, and they have all met me IRL, so I feel like they have a better idea.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:3f3df7f0-e537-49a9-bb0a-684a45419e9b">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]Ely: Sometimes I get really worried that you think I don't like you because I never go into the work out threads. I don't go in them because I'm a lazy excuse for a human being and don't work out. But I feel like I miss out on your posts because I think that's primarily where you spend your knotting time. So come out and play more and be my friend, thanks. <strong>Also - I'm glad you came back Beth. :)</strong> Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Yay! Confession: When you first started posting I wasn't sure if I liked you but now I really like you so I feel bad for being unsure at first. And ditto everything else in this post.
I also confess that I wish I had a wedding date to put in the sticky thread. I'm getting really impatient.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:d8f48c2a-30f8-4881-87ce-cf97a80704e6">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : *HUGS* I wish you would share more wedding things! I forget...how old are you? I thought we were the same age? Yes? Maybe? No? It makes me sad that you feel like you aren't good enough and I would hope no one would flame you for that! No one should feel that way. I love reading all your posts I don't think you come across as immature or too young to get married and you fit in really well with everyone here. Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE] Aw thanks Beth. You are so sweet <3 No I think I am a year or two younger then you. Well thanks for saying that. I guess I am just feeling down today. You really are awesome. <3
"Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis
Raven: I feel for you! I have issues with insecurity sometimes too, worry that I'll be a bad wife (shoot even a bad girlfriend) and I do self destructive things when I'm down (like skipping meals when I'm upset).
Part of the reason I dislike FFF is because I don't think I'd be able to handle flames thrown my way. I'd rather hear flames when they are current rather than a few days later too. And I can't just skip that post because its like a car wreck, I can't help but want to look even though my gut says "Don't!"
I like you and your posts and who cares about your age? I think you fit in with everyone else, I've never once thought "she must be younger."
*hugs*
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:3f3df7f0-e537-49a9-bb0a-684a45419e9b">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]Ely: Sometimes I get really worried that you think I don't like you because I never go into the work out threads. I don't go in them because I'm a lazy excuse for a human being and don't work out. But I feel like I miss out on your posts because I think that's primarily where you spend your knotting time. So come out and play more and be my friend, thanks. Also - I'm glad you came back Beth. :) Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Lol, I don't think badly of anyone for not coming into the workout threads. I enjoy them and sharing with others there, but that doesn't mean I don't like the people who don't contribute to them. I will work on coming out more. I do confess that it's largely due to the FFF thread. I can't help it. I'm a sensitve soul, lol.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:47191fbc-ac9e-470b-8bfd-5afe32b030e7">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I know. It doesn't bother me at all. I think we just have the complete opposite opinions about some things, but we can still be friends and not talk about them, KWIM? Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:fadd676a-a360-46e4-9647-6e9981fe1ca0">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]Raven: I feel for you! I have issues with insecurity sometimes too, worry that I'll be a bad wife (shoot even a bad girlfriend) and I do self destructive things when I'm down (like skipping meals when I'm upset). Part of the reason I dislike FFF is because I don't think I'd be able to handle flames thrown my way. I'd rather hear flames when they are current rather than a few days later too. And I can't just skip that post because its like a car wreck, I can't help but want to look even though my gut says "Don't!" I like you and your posts and who cares about your age? I think you fit in with everyone else, I've never once thought "she must be younger." *hugs* Posted by wink0erin[/QUOTE] We should be friends! I feel this way all the time! <3 PM me your name if you want to and lets be FB friends! :) Thanks for thinkings I fit in. I always feel like I am on the outside, even in real life. It is really difficult for me and I am never sure why I feel that way.
"Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:27a2a41d-be97-4f6b-a280-65df7ebe9745">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I confess: -I am super insecure. I am sure it comes off at different times and other times I hide it really well. I do a lot of damaging things because of this. I am starting to slip back into my old habits of self destruction. I feel fat all the time, I don't feel like I do anything right, I don't think I am good enough, and I am afraid of being a bad wife. -I fear that confessing said above will get me flamed and I wish I had confidence to think that I wouldn't or that it wouldn't affect me. -I also confess that I am careful to always post stuff that won't get me flamed. I know I am way to fragile to handle it so I try really hard to say stuff that won't piss people off. -I confess that I am mad at my ex-best friend for not letting me back in choir. And I am way more upset about it then I thought I would be -I confess that I really dislike FFF. I know it has been said but I know that I am personally unable to deal well with flames. This most likely comes from over thinking and my own insecurities as stated above. <strong>-I confess that I feel like very few people like me on the board and I often feel like it is because of my age. </strong> -I confess that I don't post wedding stuff because I don't think people really care and some people don't approve that I am getting married. -I confess I am kind of depressed today so this is a lot more negative then it was meant to be. Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>I feel this way sometimes too Raven. I like you being around because it's nice to have someone else a little younger posting. Although no one says anything about it, I feel that some people probably are judging about the age thing.
The board is going to change & evolve just like it has in the past. There are people here that are fine with FFF & there are people here that aren't. Obviously it's not that hated because the 2 times we've done it there was shitton of posts on the thread.
I'm sorry that some people feel like you can't post things anymore because you're just so terrified about getting flamed but really, not everyone is always going to freakin agree with everything you say or do and sometimes in life people are going to call you out about it. This is the internet. It's a message board. Nobody has been disrespectful. They're saying how they feel about something just like everyone else. You just happen to dislike what they're saying or how they're saying it.
Wink- I had a whole post to you but TK ated it! I am sorry. I said we should be FB friends! And i think you are good GF Polo- Thanks dear. I'll try, I also don't want to bombard you all with boring posts! swhite- Glad you know how I feel. We youngens got to stick together
"Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:d605e5e9-bad8-4075-b301-e1b922f715d5">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]The board is going to change & evolve just like it has in the past. There are people here that are fine with FFF & there are people here that aren't. Obviously it's not that hated because the 2 times we've done it there was shitton of posts on the thread. I'm sorry that some people feel like you can't post things anymore because you're just so terrified about getting flamed but really, not everyone is always going to freakin agree with everything you say or do and sometimes in life people are going to call you out about it. This is the internet. It's a message board. Nobody has been disrespectful. They're saying how they feel about something just like everyone else. You just happen to dislike what they're saying or how they're saying it. This topic is really getting old. Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]
I feel really bad that everyone got so upset over FFF.
Raven, I like you and I don't judge you based on your age.
I confess that I'm kind of MEH with FI right now. He's been in a pissy mood the last two days because of his job. He's come home both days and has just been grumpy and in a shitty mood...he has barely even cuddled me.
I further confess that the sexytime I had this morning was with my BOB (battery operated boyfriend) because I was so upset that FI didn't have sex with me last night because of aforementioned pissyness.
I confess that I don't post WR stuff because I'm a bad bride and I don't get as "in to" wedding things as I should. I think the long engagement has kind of taken away some of the ZOMGI'MGETTINGMARRIEDZOMGPLANPLANPLAN.
I confess that I have barely done a thing at work today.
I confess that the deep seeded reason I flamed Ely's workout threads was because I'm jealous of her motivation and success at keeping weight off. And I'm sorry.
I confess that I feel like a lot of girls on the board don't like me either. And most days I don't blame them.
Bahhhh...this is sort of a depressing post, isn't it?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:f5619eac-536d-4bbb-9072-2cfb3dcb0f56">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I'm going back to FFF, even though I said I'd drop it. I apologize for that. I've been posting here since June or July, and I was never worried about getting flamed. Taking some constructive criticism? Sure. Now some people on the board want to do FFF, and obviously, they 100% can do that and no one can stop them.<strong> But don't act like this is something the board has always done, and now some people who can't take the heat are whining.</strong> It's a new trend, we've spoken up about. People are also commenting that the board is slower, and that is probably related to FFF. Still doesn't mean people are going to stop doing it. That's okay too. Raven - I'm so sorry you're feeling all of those negative thoughts. Please don't. Share your WR, anything you want here! Posted by polo1425[/QUOTE]
Who is acting like it's something that's always been done?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:31222c61-7222-495b-8486-c4a911488e10">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Huh. Well here's the thing about your two other posts in this thread - you just said "I'm flat broke and have a lot of debt, I took the day off of work to go shopping, and my BF is the best because he enables my poor spending habits." Not that you have to justify any of what you did for me. I personally DGAF, but your whole attitude about your BF being the "best BF in the world" totally rubbed me the wrong way based on the information you provided. Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE] I have a thing where I don't always get the full story out or feel like I came across the wrong way, then I have to defend myself. It's a problem, and I'm working on it. <div> </div><div>There's other reasons my BF is so awesome. Like a million. The biggest one is he makes me want to be a better person and does things to help me be better, not because he wants me to be better but because he wants me to be happy, and if being a better person will make me happy he'll support me.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:484d485e-2935-41fe-9de1-dd67a8403a78">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]Shoes, want to wallow in our yucky moods and drink? Posted by laurenb09[/QUOTE]
Yes. But I can't drink until after work. 5pm can't come fast enough!
Re: Confessions
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I confess that I feel like this sometimes too. There are lot of people that seem to have become good friends fast and it's hard for me to do that. Even IRL.<strong> Most of my very best friends I've had since I was in H.S (over 11 years ago). My very best friend I've known since 6th grade. I like everyone here but I feel like it's me that I haven't become BFF's with anyone here. I wish I were the type of person that made close friends super fast.</strong>
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
I could've written the exact same thing (except that high school was only 4 years ago for me). It takes me a long time to make friends. I also assume that people don't want to be my friend which is part of the problem.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I could've written the exact same thing (except that high school was only 4 years ago for me). It takes me a long time to make friends. <strong>I also assume that people don't want to be my friend which is part of the problem.</strong>
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]
<div>I am also like this. It's really hard for me to hang on to friendships because of this mentality. I feel like if I am the one making plans or effort, it's because the other person doesn't care. So I stop trying as hard. I only have one good girl friend (from HS), and I never see her because she went to college on the other side of the state and stayed there.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I am also like this. It's really hard for me to hang on to friendships because of this mentality. <strong>I feel like if I am the one making plans or effort, it's because the other person doesn't care. So I stop trying as hard.</strong> I only have one good girl friend (from HS), and I never see her because she went to college on the other side of the state and stayed there.
Posted by swhite2012[/QUOTE]
I do the same thing. I put a lot of effort into my friendships. I really am the type of person who will drop whatever I'm doing to be there for a friend but I've found a lot of people aren't that way so it makes me feel like my friendships are a one-way street when I want them to be a two-way street.
[QUOTE]Danie - I confess that I like you a lot, and I sometimes read your blog to get to know you better. Also, FI and I talk about moving to Atlanta a lot because I want to work for the CDC. Can we be IRL friends if we really do move there?
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
<div>YES TO EVERYTHING! This made my day. I Like you too! Aw, I feel like a nerd. I have no connections at the CDC, but I hear it's a great place to work! I hope you do decide to migrate here!</div><div>
</div><div>Beth, I also really like you:) We seem very similar. </div>
I confess:
-I am super insecure. I am sure it comes off at different times and other times I hide it really well. I do a lot of damaging things because of this. I am starting to slip back into my old habits of self destruction. I feel fat all the time, I don't feel like I do anything right, I don't think I am good enough, and I am afraid of being a bad wife.
-I fear that confessing said above will get me flamed and I wish I had confidence to think that I wouldn't or that it wouldn't affect me.
-I also confess that I am careful to always post stuff that won't get me flamed. I know I am way to fragile to handle it so I try really hard to say stuff that won't piss people off.
-I confess that I am mad at my ex-best friend for not letting me back in choir. And I am way more upset about it then I thought I would be
-I confess that I really dislike FFF. I know it has been said but I know that I am personally unable to deal well with flames. This most likely comes from over thinking and my own insecurities as stated above.
-I confess that I feel like very few people like me on the board and I often feel like it is because of my age.
-I confess that I don't post wedding stuff because I don't think people really care and some people don't approve that I am getting married.
-I confess I am kind of depressed today so this is a lot more negative then it was meant to be.
Married! May 27th, 2012
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : YES TO EVERYTHING! This made my day. I Like you too! Aw, I feel like a nerd. I have no connections at the CDC, but I hear it's a great place to work! I hope you do decide to migrate here! <strong>Beth, I also really like you:) We seem very similar. </strong>
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
Yay! I really like you too :)
Liv & Audgie - I am still in my Pjs too!
[QUOTE]I confess: -I am super insecure. I am sure it comes off at different times and other times I hide it really well. I do a lot of damaging things because of this. I am starting to slip back into my old habits of self destruction. I feel fat all the time, I don't feel like I do anything right, I don't think I am good enough, and I am afraid of being a bad wife. -I fear that confessing said above will get me flamed and I wish I had confidence to think that I wouldn't or that it wouldn't affect me. -I also confess that I am careful to always post stuff that won't get me flamed. I know I am way to fragile to handle it so I try really hard to say stuff that won't piss people off. -I confess that I am mad at my ex-best friend for not letting me back in choir. And I am way more upset about it then I thought I would be -I confess that I really dislike FFF. I know it has been said but I know that I am personally unable to deal well with flames. This most likely comes from over thinking and my own insecurities as stated above. -I confess that I feel like very few people like me on the board and I often feel like it is because of my age. -I confess that I don't post wedding stuff because I don't think people really care and some people don't approve that I am getting married. -I confess I am kind of depressed today so this is a lot more negative then it was meant to be.
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]
*HUGS* I wish you would share more wedding things! I forget...how old are you? I thought we were the same age? Yes? Maybe? No?
It makes me sad that you feel like you aren't good enough and I would hope no one would flame you for that! No one should feel that way. I love reading all your posts I don't think you come across as immature or too young to get married and you fit in really well with everyone here.
[QUOTE]1. I confess that I'm sad that I'm not on the board nearly as much as I used to be. We have new goals and expectations at work that keep me pretty focused all day. So of course- I don't feel as close to the board, which makes me sad. I also feel as if some people's opionins of me has changed...I don't know why I feel this way- I really don't have a good reason. 2. I hardly ever have sexytime- and I'm usually pretty okay with it. I have like zero sex drive. I'm looking into this... <strong>3. I confess that tdwpg1984- I think it's sad that you think you have the best boyfriend in the whole world....but you don't think that gorgeous sapphire set that he bought you for Christmas was good enough. Do you think you are the best girlfriend in the world? </strong>4. I want to love myself more. I want to accept myself. I want to believe I'm beautiful. 5. I think there is a possibility that FFF changed the board dyanmic. ::shrugs:: I think I probably stopped posting quite a bit after I posted a few WR things...I felt ashamed that we kept changing our plans. And then I got to the point where I didn't feel like anyone really cared about the WR stuff...so I just stopped posting about it.
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I do love the sapphire set my BF gave me. I wear the earrings, necklace or both at least once a week. I think they're beautiful. I've seen the exact same set in real diamonds and sapphires. And flame me if you want, but the real ones are nicer. Do I expect my bf to buy them for me? No, even though he can afford them. I actually wish he had spent less money on me at Christmas. If someone came up to me and said "You can have the real diamond and sapphire ones or the swarovski ones for the same price" or whatever I'd take the real ones. But something like that would never happen and the swarovski ones are just fine.</div><div>
</div><div>And actually I think I'm probably one the worst girlfriend in the world. And that bothers me because my bf is so wonderful. And every day it tears me up inside and think that I should probably leave my bf so he can find someone who actually deserves him. He knows that's how I feel but loves me anyways, which makes me feel worse.</div><div>
</div><div>As for going to Sephora, I had a gift card that my mom gave me for christmas. I wanted 1/2 day to a whole day off between now and my midterm next week to study, so I'd figure I'd take today off, go to Sephora, use my gift card then come home and study. Which I did for about an hour when I woke up this morning, then studied for another hour after I came home from Sephora. The only thing I bought at the mall that wasn't purchased with a gift card was a v-day present for my BF and a couple used books at the charity book sale at the mall.
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1. I confess that while I said I was going to go into the office later after waking up with a migraine, I'm fully planning on sitting on the couch in front of the fireplace, with my snuggly kitty all day. I will do some work though, I swear.
2. I confess that I am the first to admit that I can be overly sensitive. With that being said, I think people need to put on their big girl panties and buck up about FFF and getting called out on things. We are not all puppies & rainbows. If that's what you're looking for, then you might want to go somewhere else. We all do flammable things sometimes. I don't get nervous going into a FFF thread to see if someone has something to say about me. I would accept the criticism and move on. I hate that not everyone can do that.
3. I confess that despite the majority of opinions against me getting bangs, I am going to cut them anyway. I confess that the reason I am getting them is because Liv, Sousa and Shoes said I should, and they have all met me IRL, so I feel like they have a better idea.
[QUOTE]Ely: Sometimes I get really worried that you think I don't like you because I never go into the work out threads. I don't go in them because I'm a lazy excuse for a human being and don't work out. But I feel like I miss out on your posts because I think that's primarily where you spend your knotting time. So come out and play more and be my friend, thanks. <strong>Also - I'm glad you came back Beth. :)</strong>
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Yay! Confession: When you first started posting I wasn't sure if I liked you but now I really like you so I feel bad for being unsure at first. And ditto everything else in this post.
I also confess that I wish I had a wedding date to put in the sticky thread. I'm getting really impatient.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : *HUGS* I wish you would share more wedding things! I forget...how old are you? I thought we were the same age? Yes? Maybe? No? It makes me sad that you feel like you aren't good enough and I would hope no one would flame you for that! No one should feel that way. I love reading all your posts I don't think you come across as immature or too young to get married and you fit in really well with everyone here.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]
Aw thanks Beth. You are so sweet <3 No I think I am a year or two younger then you.
Well thanks for saying that. I guess I am just feeling down today. You really are awesome. <3
Married! May 27th, 2012
[QUOTE]Ely: Sometimes I get really worried that you think I don't like you because I never go into the work out threads. I don't go in them because I'm a lazy excuse for a human being and don't work out. But I feel like I miss out on your posts because I think that's primarily where you spend your knotting time. So come out and play more and be my friend, thanks. Also - I'm glad you came back Beth. :)
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Lol, I don't think badly of anyone for not coming into the workout threads. I enjoy them and sharing with others there, but that doesn't mean I don't like the people who don't contribute to them. I will work on coming out more. I do confess that it's largely due to the FFF thread. I can't help it. I'm a sensitve soul, lol.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I know. It doesn't bother me at all. I think we just have the complete opposite opinions about some things, but we can still be friends and not talk about them, KWIM?
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Yup :)
[QUOTE]Raven: I feel for you! I have issues with insecurity sometimes too, worry that I'll be a bad wife (shoot even a bad girlfriend) and I do self destructive things when I'm down (like skipping meals when I'm upset). Part of the reason I dislike FFF is because I don't think I'd be able to handle flames thrown my way. I'd rather hear flames when they are current rather than a few days later too. And I can't just skip that post because its like a car wreck, I can't help but want to look even though my gut says "Don't!" I like you and your posts and who cares about your age? I think you fit in with everyone else, I've never once thought "she must be younger." *hugs*
Posted by wink0erin[/QUOTE]
We should be friends! I feel this way all the time! <3 PM me your name if you want to and lets be FB friends! :) Thanks for thinkings I fit in. I always feel like I am on the outside, even in real life. It is really difficult for me and I am never sure why I feel that way.
Married! May 27th, 2012
[QUOTE]I confess: -I am super insecure. I am sure it comes off at different times and other times I hide it really well. I do a lot of damaging things because of this. I am starting to slip back into my old habits of self destruction. I feel fat all the time, I don't feel like I do anything right, I don't think I am good enough, and I am afraid of being a bad wife. -I fear that confessing said above will get me flamed and I wish I had confidence to think that I wouldn't or that it wouldn't affect me. -I also confess that I am careful to always post stuff that won't get me flamed. I know I am way to fragile to handle it so I try really hard to say stuff that won't piss people off. -I confess that I am mad at my ex-best friend for not letting me back in choir. And I am way more upset about it then I thought I would be -I confess that I really dislike FFF. I know it has been said but I know that I am personally unable to deal well with flames. This most likely comes from over thinking and my own insecurities as stated above. <strong>-I confess that I feel like very few people like me on the board and I often feel like it is because of my age. </strong> -I confess that I don't post wedding stuff because I don't think people really care and some people don't approve that I am getting married. -I confess I am kind of depressed today so this is a lot more negative then it was meant to be.
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I feel this way sometimes too Raven. I like you being around because it's nice to have someone else a little younger posting. Although no one says anything about it, I feel that some people probably are judging about the age thing.
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Polo- Thanks dear. I'll try, I also don't want to bombard you all with boring posts!
swhite- Glad you know how I feel. We youngens got to stick together
Married! May 27th, 2012
[QUOTE]The board is going to change & evolve just like it has in the past. There are people here that are fine with FFF & there are people here that aren't. Obviously it's not that hated because the 2 times we've done it there was shitton of posts on the thread. I'm sorry that some people feel like you can't post things anymore because you're just so terrified about getting flamed but really, not everyone is always going to freakin agree with everything you say or do and sometimes in life people are going to call you out about it. This is the internet. It's a message board. Nobody has been disrespectful. They're saying how they feel about something just like everyone else. You just happen to dislike what they're saying or how they're saying it. This topic is really getting old.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]
This.
Raven, I like you and I don't judge you based on your age.
I confess that I'm kind of MEH with FI right now. He's been in a pissy mood the last two days because of his job. He's come home both days and has just been grumpy and in a shitty mood...he has barely even cuddled me.
I further confess that the sexytime I had this morning was with my BOB (battery operated boyfriend) because I was so upset that FI didn't have sex with me last night because of aforementioned pissyness.
I confess that I don't post WR stuff because I'm a bad bride and I don't get as "in to" wedding things as I should. I think the long engagement has kind of taken away some of the ZOMGI'MGETTINGMARRIEDZOMGPLANPLANPLAN.
I confess that I have barely done a thing at work today.
I confess that the deep seeded reason I flamed Ely's workout threads was because I'm jealous of her motivation and success at keeping weight off. And I'm sorry.
I confess that I feel like a lot of girls on the board don't like me either. And most days I don't blame them.
Bahhhh...this is sort of a depressing post, isn't it?
[QUOTE]I'm going back to FFF, even though I said I'd drop it. I apologize for that. I've been posting here since June or July, and I was never worried about getting flamed. Taking some constructive criticism? Sure. Now some people on the board want to do FFF, and obviously, they 100% can do that and no one can stop them.<strong> But don't act like this is something the board has always done, and now some people who can't take the heat are whining.</strong> It's a new trend, we've spoken up about. People are also commenting that the board is slower, and that is probably related to FFF. Still doesn't mean people are going to stop doing it. That's okay too. Raven - I'm so sorry you're feeling all of those negative thoughts. Please don't. Share your WR, anything you want here!
Posted by polo1425[/QUOTE]
Who is acting like it's something that's always been done?
what's going on with your FI's job?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Huh. Well here's the thing about your two other posts in this thread - you just said "I'm flat broke and have a lot of debt, I took the day off of work to go shopping, and my BF is the best because he enables my poor spending habits." Not that you have to justify any of what you did for me. I personally DGAF, but your whole attitude about your BF being the "best BF in the world" totally rubbed me the wrong way based on the information you provided.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
I have a thing where I don't always get the full story out or feel like I came across the wrong way, then I have to defend myself. It's a problem, and I'm working on it. <div>
</div><div>There's other reasons my BF is so awesome. Like a million. The biggest one is he makes me want to be a better person and does things to help me be better, not because he wants me to be better but because he wants me to be happy, and if being a better person will make me happy he'll support me.</div>
[QUOTE]Shoes, want to wallow in our yucky moods and drink?
Posted by laurenb09[/QUOTE]
Yes. But I can't drink until after work. 5pm can't come fast enough!