Sex Poll

Elle1036 · November 2010

Something BF said the other day sparked my curiosity. This is, for the most part, totally random and pointless.

Elle1036 · November 2010

Something BF said the other day sparked my curiosity. This is, for the most part, totally random and pointless.

motoLyn · November 2010

To be the fly on your wall when this conversation came up. Its like a powder keg if not handled right. Hahaha.... Voted.

Elle1036 · November 2010

Haha Lyn. Yeah, it was interesting...

GreenPepperBurger · November 2010

SEX.

Yes, I'm 12.

AudgiePodge · November 2010

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[QUOTE]SEX. Yes, I'm 12.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

I am joining in.

WEINER

Elle1036 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : I am joining in. WEINER
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

teeheehee

peeeeenis.

heyimbren · November 2010

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[QUOTE]SEX. Yes, I'm 12.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

12 year old on a wedding website haha! Talk about a BB ;) (just kidding GPB, I don't actually think you're a BB at all.)

These poll responses are making me really curious.

GreenPepperBurger · November 2010

I had to teach BF how to kiss, but that's it. He's skilled in all of the other areas

coastiegrl25 · November 2010

BF had a bad experience before with kissing...he said a girl shoved her tongue down his throat and he swore to never do the same. Soo, we had to work on the kissing but that's it.

Elle1036 · November 2010

I'm actually kinda the opposite. BF is a great kisser, but some of the other stuff... well... It's in progress.

coastiegrl25 · November 2010

See, I believe the kissing is very very important. It can get u in a mood just as quick as it can make you lose interest...

tafft1 · November 2010

Though i didn't have to teach my husband a damn thing - he actually taught me some things , lol - but several past ex's it was definitely interesting. The best..or worst ? was a guy i dated for 5 years and he was a complete virgin when we met..it was awkward at first but we made it work , lol.

calindi · November 2010

There's something to be said for having an extensive sexual history before you start dating... and yet we both are the best the other has ever had. It's amazing! Even two years later, we still have moments where I go, "Wow, I think that might have been the best time ever." And then two weeks later, I have the same thought. He set the bar very high from the beginning, and continues to raise it.

Before BF, I tended to date scrawny intellectuals (my brother then instituted the rule that I couldn't date someone who I could beat in an arm wrestling contest... sadly, most of my ex's wouldn't qualify). Never realized the benefits of being with someone who is INCREDIBLY physically fit. Stamina, rhythm, strength, oh man!

That said, there's obviously moments where it's somewhat routine or just "okay", especially when we're pressed for time during the week. But I'm firmly of the belief that sex is like pizza - when it's good, it's awesome. And when it's bad, it's still pretty good.

Elle1036 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>There's something to be said for having an extensive sexual history before you start dating... </strong>and yet we both are the best the other has ever had. It's amazing! Even two years later, we still have moments where I go, "Wow, I think that might have been the best time ever." And then two weeks later, I have the same thought. He set the bar very high from the beginning, and continues to raise it. Before BF, I tended to date scrawny intellectuals (my brother then instituted the rule that I couldn't date someone who I could beat in an arm wrestling contest... sadly, most of my ex's wouldn't qualify). Never realized the benefits of being with someone who is INCREDIBLY physically fit. Stamina, rhythm, strength, oh man! That said, there's obviously moments where it's somewhat routine or just "okay", especially when we're pressed for time during the week. But I'm firmly of the belief that sex is like pizza - when it's good, it's awesome. And when it's bad, it's still pretty good.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Hmmm... maybe that's our problem? BF and I have each had one other partner.

Honestly, this poll is kinda bumming me out. I expected there to be more couples who had to work on it a little at first...

GreenPepperBurger · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : Hmmm... maybe that's our problem? BF and I have each had one other partner. Honestly, this poll is kinda bumming me out. I expected there to be more couples who had to work on it a little at first...
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Hence why I started the open relationships thread.

motoLyn · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : Hmmm... maybe that's our problem? BF and I have each had one other partner. Honestly, this poll is kinda bumming me out. I expected there to be more couples who had to work on it a little at first...
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Don't be bummed, there are couples out there. I was one of them, then I met Fi who like Cate had mentioned is a man with an extensive experience. At first it intimidated me, but then hey it works to my benefit. Whoo hoo! But even if a guy can has experience or dating history, it comes down to what you like and dislike. A guy might have a natural talent for things. There are times when I tell FI about something I like or dislike, and he wants to hear it. Cause in the end your SO wants to make you feel good. Open communication is key.

Elle1036 · November 2010

GPB - Yeah, I've actually considered that before, but I'm reasonably sure that I'm not emotionally capable of being in that kind of relationship.

Lyn - Thanks! I've already gotten a lot more personal than I wanted to do in this, but oh well... I think part of our problem is me, not him, because I have trouble communicating the way you mentioned.

Anyway, I would love more specific advice on this from anyone, but I'm getting a little uncomfortable... lol my dad could be reading this.

PM me if you want more info.

desertsun · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : Hence why I started the open relationships thread.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

Forgive me for being slow on the uptake, but I don't really see the connection?

GreenPepperBurger · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : Forgive me for being slow on the uptake, but I don't really see the connection?
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

I'm saying that couples that got together young with little or no sexual experience prior to the relationship may think about open relationship more than other couples.

tiffk10 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : Hmmm... maybe that's our problem? BF and I have each had one other partner. Honestly, this poll is kinda bumming me out. I expected there to be more couples who had to work on it a little at first...
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

<div>Don't be bummed. None of the answers completely fit what actually happened with me and the BF. Since we have both only had sex with each other there was a definite learning process on both sides. I prefer that it worked out that way rather than one of us being better than the other due to previous experience. </div>

hetshup · November 2010

I had to teach H everything he knows. This is why being a slutmuffin is good sometimes.

In other news, people knock so loudly here, it kinda freaks me out.

calindi · November 2010

Hey, while experience is one way to have good sex, learning together is not to be underestimated. My first love (and first for everything) was lousy sex at first because we were both newbies, but eventually it became very good.

Communication comes first - that's what experience has taught me. Don't be afraid to tell him what you want, but at the same time don't be afraid to just enjoy it and not micro-manage - there's a happy medium for sure. Sex isn't meant to be perfect - fun, messy, crazy, loud, awkward, and hilarious - yes! Also, don't be afraid to try new things and positions. Trust me, there's no such thing as an unflattering position if you're confident and having fun.

Encourage him when he's doing something good, and don't be shy about reminding him about how good it felt later on ("Oh baby, I'm still thinking about how you... this morning!"). Men respond well to positive reinforcement usually, so he's more likely to repeat activites that got him praise. And during a session, it's okay to say, "Oh, that feels good, but can you go back to doing that thing you were doing just a few seconds ago? That felt soooo good."

Seriously, just laugh a lot during sex. And make noise - I find my pleasure goes up the more noise I make because I stop focusing on reality and just enjoy the sensations, and there are few men who don't get turned on by a woman's moans and screams.

PaigeMcC · November 2010

...sex....teeheehee.

desertsun · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : I'm saying that couples that got together young with little or no sexual experience prior to the relationship may think about open relationship more than other couples.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

I gotcha now. I think that's a valid point, and one I (obviously) hadn't really thought about before. You meet someone young and love them and think you may want to spend your lives together, but maybe think that it would be good to have some other experiences first. Or maybe you met young and got married and want to stay married but want the freedom to have new and different partners. Hmm. Very interesting. I would love to know if this works for people or not. I don't think it would for me personally, but I can see how it might for others.

desertsun · November 2010

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[QUOTE] But I'm firmly of the belief that sex is like pizza - when it's good, it's awesome. And when it's bad, it's still pretty good.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Agreed!

loves2shop4shoes · November 2010

I agree with Cate...it's certainly helpful to have a really extensive sexual past. When FI and I got together, he was a virgin, but had done everything else. Surprisingly, he had serious beginner's luck and the only things he had to "learn" were my particular preferences. I, on the other hand, had several partners prior to FI. I learned a lot about what I like, what I don't like, and how things can vary from man to man.

PandaBurr · November 2010

FI is awesome, but he doesn't have an extensive history. In fact, before he met me, he had a dry spell of like 4 years. I think he's just so eager to make me happy, that he focuses more on me than himself, but he gets off on me getting off (TMI, sorry haha), so it works out perfectly for us.

LizzyTish88 · November 2010

BF kinda sucked at first, He had only had one "partner"/"experience" before me. We have learned to talk and communicate more and it has gotten much better. We're kind of weird though, we don't have sex much. Like maybe once or twice a month. I would like to have it more but I am fine with what we have. I just always feel so weird when everyone around me in a relationship is like "yeah we do it once or twice a day." We just never did it much, and still really don't.

MLekathLEEN · November 2010

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[QUOTE]...sex....teeheehee.
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

...boobies... tehe.

FI and I were each others firsts we don't really have anyone else to compare each other to. I'm not complaining and neither is he.

PaigeMcC · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sex Poll : ...boobies... tehe.
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]

<div>peniiiiis!</div><div>
</div><div>FBD only had one other...or maybe two...partners. I was a slight bit more at 5. It's all about enjoying what you do. And I enjoy what I do. *wink wink*</div><div>
</div><div>PS:I must be about 10 because this thread makes me giggle hysterically.</div>

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