I confess that I just seriously judged a girl I graduated with. She and her husband got married right after graduation (okay, over the summer), and they're due in August. While I don't judge them on how quickly they got pregnant, I judge them on how quickly after graduation it happened. My judgement is irrational.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:3020b0eb-f792-4bf4-8772-c5f5a7d50192">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I confess that I ate mac and cheese for breakfast. Posted by hellotarra[/QUOTE]
I confess that I can't even remember the last time I had mac and cheese so I am super jealous!
Also, the whining about FFF is getting old. If you don't like it don't participate.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:51fcccaf-060d-4342-8196-6616e001751e">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]1. I confess that I'm sad that I'm not on the board nearly as much as I used to be. We have new goals and expectations at work that keep me pretty focused all day. So of course- I don't feel as close to the board, which makes me sad. I also feel as if some people's opionins of me has changed...I don't know why I feel this way- I really don't have a good reason. 2. I hardly ever have sexytime- and I'm usually pretty okay with it. I have like zero sex drive. I'm looking into this... 3. I confess that tdwpg1984- I think it's sad that you think you have the best boyfriend in the whole world....but you don't think that gorgeous sapphire set that he bought you for Christmas was good enough. Do you think you are the best girlfriend in the world? 4. I want to love myself more. I want to accept myself. I want to believe I'm beautiful. 5. I think there is a possibility that FFF changed the board dyanmic. ::shrugs:: I think I probably stopped posting quite a bit after I posted a few WR things...I felt ashamed that we kept changing our plans. And then I got to the point where <strong>I didn't feel like anyone really cared about the WR stuff</strong>...so I just stopped posting about it. Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
I loved reading about your ideas for the wedding... possible train ride, wine cork STDs, gorgeous colors and flowers... I thought you quit posting about it because you got busy... but if you have any updates, please share!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:ae355487-412b-47d9-85f7-381bcc9d4caf">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]You're right Elle, the point has beeen made by a few of us and I don't think we're going to change any minds. It was just brought up again today because people are noticing that the board has been quieter, and people felt comfortable confessing that they had reconsidered posting some things because of FFF. I'm okay to stop talking about it. I confess that I'm really, really hunry and I want to eat unhealthy things for lunch (shocking). <strong>I confess that I wonder if being a mod will change Liv's posting style. Really a curiousity, more than anything else, because I think you bring so much to the board, Liv. I confess that I've done NOTHING productive at work today.</strong> Posted by polo1425[/QUOTE]
<div>I don't think so. I think what makes Liv a great person to mod is that she's always so level headed with her advice, criticism, and critique. Even if she disagrees with you she'll say it respectfully. I think she'll be great b/c she's good at letting people "fight it out" but I think she'll be fair when/if things get out of hand. I think she'll stick up for a reg, ALWAYS, but she'll also stick up for a newb if someone goes over the line. I hate to quote this particular (non) news source, but Liv is the epitome of "Fair and Balanced" </div><div> </div><div>Haha, That made me laugh, but it's true. </div>
Words can hurt. It's important to keep that in mind, and be a person who treats others with respect and compassion.
Always agreeing with people b/c you don't want to hurt them is not the same thing as being compassionate or even being kind.
Truth hurts sometimes.
It's important to have people who will speak truth to you, b/c it helps you be a better, stronger person.
It's also important to know yourself and have confidence in yourself.
There's a fine balance between being strong in yourself and being humble enough to listen to others and learn from them. I think that balance is called wisdom. And sometimes maturity.
There's also a difference between trying to be constructive in what you say to others, and tearing others down for some other reason.
We don't all have to be BFFs here. And if you can't be yourself on the internet, you might think about what that says about you.
It's a natural human impulse to want to be liked, but it's meaningless to be liked for something or someone other than who you really are.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:b549aa84-c829-49ae-94e2-0a2080192ca6">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I confess that I'm getting a little tired of reading this. It's not you, Jem. It's just that this point has been made multiple times over the past several weeks, and not just in FFF threads. Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
I agree, and I'm probably one of the people who has brought it up a few times (I'm forgetful of what I've posted already, or if I just thought about posting it). But I guess I just mentioned it again because the conversation had gone that way. I'll try to remember next time that I've already spoke my peace on the issue, lol.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:64fe283e-c40e-4266-aeae-1d372f1fd3dc">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]On a more calm and rational note - Ely and Tiger, your flames were not justified, and people came to your defense. So I wouldn't put too much stock into one person saying "Oh god you're soooo annoying" when no one else agrees. I confess I'm still at home and taking my sweet time to go to work today. I confess I don't want to go out at all this weekend so I can do homework, and so I can save all my fun WW points for brunch on Sunday with Rdr and some special guests. I confess that I'm okay with FI going to some island for his friend's bachelor party because I think it means he won't have cell phone service, so I don't have to deal with his drunken antics while he's there. :) Also if he goes, <strong>then I'm totally coming to AZ for the G2G</strong>. Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:187e110f-3112-4bc8-abec-94af12fdde96">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]RDR - I've decided I'm going home. Not immediately. BF is flying down tonight, and I have my interviews on the 27th. But if they place me immediately, I'm going home like, as soon as I fly back. I can't be here anymore. Mom thinks it's because of BF. While he does play a role, he doesn't decide for me, and I'm just not comfortable here. I haven't been since I got here. It took me three days to figure out that I don't want to do this for the rest of my life. I don't need to waste the rest of my money torturing myself. And I'm tired of being dependent on my parents. I'm 22. It's time for me to grow up and get a job and support myself. I know that a lot of people on this board put a lot of emphasis on living alone. <strong> I cannot do it. I turn into a hermit crab, my eating habits go to shiit, and I end up hating the world. </strong> I confess that I'm afraid to tell BF that the reason I'm so paranoid about money when I come home is because I want to know that I can hold myself afloat. I confess that I know how worried he is, and while I understand how worried he is, I don't care. I confess that I love that he wants me to only work one job so that we can spend evenings and weekends together, but it irritates me that he doesn't seem to understand why I feel the need to constantly work. I confess that I don't talk about my issues because I feel like I'd seriously be flamed by everyone on this board right now. I confess that all I want to do right now is cry again. Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]
I had a really hard time learning to be on my own, too.
I lived apart from my parents from the time I was 18 on. I was at home for 2 summers, and had roommates a couple times. It took me until I was 24-25 to be good at being on my own.
Sometimes you can't figure it out within a couple weeks or a couple months. It can take years.
But knowing that that is something you can do will give you a strength that very little else can.
I confess that I worry about you, Peek. I think you give a good impression of someone with a lot of self-confidence, but I don't know how much of it is genuine. It concerns me that you went from one serious relationship into another that has quickly become rather serious.
If you want to be a grown up, then I think finding a job, supporting yourself, and living alone for at least a year, even if you continue to date your BF, would be really good for you. Do things by yourself. Have nights in your place without your BF.
My H and I dated each other for a year before moving in together, and that time of dating but not living together was a really interesting time of learning ourselves and each other, and I look back now and realize just how valuable it was for each of us to live independently and have our own space while we were working on building our relationship with each other.
The extra expense of each having your own place is completely worth it.
That said, this is as always JMO. I fully support your right to make your own decisions, and I wish you nothing but the best. <3
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:51fcccaf-060d-4342-8196-6616e001751e">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]1. I confess that I'm sad that I'm not on the board nearly as much as I used to be. We have new goals and expectations at work that keep me pretty focused all day. So of course- I don't feel as close to the board, which makes me sad. <strong>I also feel as if some people's opionins of me has changed..</strong>.I don't know why I feel this way- I really don't have a good reason. 2. I hardly ever have sexytime- and I'm usually pretty okay with it. I have like zero sex drive. I'm looking into this... 3. I confess that tdwpg1984- I think it's sad that you think you have the best boyfriend in the whole world....but you don't think that gorgeous sapphire set that he bought you for Christmas was good enough. Do you think you are the best girlfriend in the world? 4. <strong>I want to love myself more</strong>. I want to accept myself. I want to believe I'm beautiful. 5. I think there is a possibility that FFF changed the board dyanmic. ::shrugs:: I think I probably stopped posting quite a bit after I posted a few WR things...I felt ashamed that we kept changing our plans. And then I got to the point where<strong> I didn't feel like anyone really cared about the WR stuff...</strong>so I just stopped posting about it. Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
<div>1. Mine hasn't. I miss you, though. </div><div> </div><div>2. I hope you find a way to do this. You're worth it!</div><div> </div><div>3. I care, and I'm guessing there are others that do, too... so definitely share when you feel like it!</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:6d153ba0-757c-475c-8cf2-d70aaf5c8a37">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Do this. Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:688801cf-70ff-443b-820b-0f30c90618d1">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I had a really hard time learning to be on my own, too. I lived apart from my parents from the time I was 18 on. I was at home for 2 summers, and had roommates a couple times. It took me until I was 24-25 to be good at being on my own. Sometimes you can't figure it out within a couple weeks or a couple months. It can take years. But knowing that that is something you can do will give you a strength that very little else can. I confess that I worry about you, Peek. I think you give a good impression of someone with a lot of self-confidence, but I don't know how much of it is genuine. It concerns me that you went from one serious relationship into another that has quickly become rather serious. If you want to be a grown up, then I think finding a job, supporting yourself, and living alone for at least a year, even if you continue to date your BF, would be really good for you. Do things by yourself. Have nights in your place without your BF. My H and I dated each other for a year before moving in together, and that time of dating but not living together was a really interesting time of learning ourselves and each other, and I look back now and realize just how valuable it was for each of us to live independently and have our own space while we were working on building our relationship with each other. The extra expense of each having your own place is completely worth it. That said, this is as always JMO. I fully support your right to make your own decisions, and I wish you nothing but the best. <3 Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]
I confess that I'm disappointed that working out lately has actually caused me to gain weight. I know that I'm probably gaining muscle, which is a good thing, and that I don't actually have a lot of actual weight to lose, but I just think the whole concept of weight loss = progress has been so engrained in us that I can't help but be a little sad to see my weight going higher, even though I know deep down that I'm getting healthier and hopefully toning up, which is exactly what I want in the long run.
I confess that I was really proud of myself yesterday for opting for water and a gronala bar that I already had at the office instead of going to Starbucks to get a fatty coffee and danish. But then not so glad that not only did I bake mac n cheese for dinner, but I put bacon in it (but it was soooo good).
I confess that I'm really excited to meet everyone that's coming to the G2G in May (thanks desert!). I've said before, but I'm really bad at forming one-on-one friendships online without being able to put a name to a face first, so it'll be nice to get to know more people on here. Plus, it'll be fun.
I just want to add FTR that it makes me sad that people stopped posting WR stuffs.
I'm not always in the mood to read WR threads, mostly b/c I prefer when people ask for opinions instead of saying, "Look at my venue!" It's more fun for me to feel like I'm part of the decision-making process.
BUT I do also sometimes really enjoy WR threads.
Post what you want, girls. Stop worrying so much about what other people think. Be yourselves, talk about the stuff that's important to you. And that goes for me, too -- I said something yesterday about not wanting to go overboard with baby and pregnancy posts b/c I didn't think the board would be too into it. But dammit, if I want to talk about being pregnant or about my baby, I'm going to DO IT! Haters be damned.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:1a0e1a62-ca1b-46f6-8554-14deab3338cb">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I just want to add FTR that it makes me sad that people stopped posting WR stuffs. I'm not always in the mood to read WR threads, mostly b/c I prefer when people ask for opinions instead of saying, "Look at my venue!" It's more fun for me to feel like I'm part of the decision-making process. BUT I do also sometimes really enjoy WR threads. Post what you want, girls. Stop worrying so much about what other people think. Be yourselves, talk about the stuff that's important to you. And that goes for me, too -- <strong>I said something yesterday about not wanting to go overboard with baby and pregnancy posts b/c I didn't think the board would be too into it. But dammit, if I want to talk about being pregnant or about my baby, I'm going to DO IT! Haters be damned. :)</strong> Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]
FTR I would love more baby posts from you! I agree with everything else in this post too.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:1a0e1a62-ca1b-46f6-8554-14deab3338cb">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I just want to add FTR that it makes me sad that people stopped posting WR stuffs. I'm not always in the mood to read WR threads, mostly b/c I prefer when people ask for opinions instead of saying, "Look at my venue!" It's more fun for me to feel like I'm part of the decision-making process. BUT I do also sometimes really enjoy WR threads. Post what you want, girls. Stop worrying so much about what other people think. Be yourselves, talk about the stuff that's important to you. And that goes for me, too -- I said something yesterday about not wanting to go overboard with baby and pregnancy posts b/c I didn't think the board would be too into it. But dammit, if I want to talk about being pregnant or about my baby, I'm going to DO IT! Haters be damned. :) Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]
I'm never going to stop posting WR stuff. And if I get flamed for it, I'll probably just step up the posting a little more. Bwahahaha.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:0b558a69-2391-45e5-8183-f3dba85356cd">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I'm never going to stop posting WR stuff. And if I get flamed for it, I'll probably just step up the posting a little more. Bwahahaha. Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
<div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">LOL... don't make me post pictures of my half-finished brooch bouquet.</div></div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:a9a46881-7f85-4a04-afd7-f9468a641727">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : LOL... don't make me post pictures of my half-finished brooch bouquet. Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:c1089d1d-b57a-4253-a998-ea10815fcc94">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : As always, I just want to say that I want to be Desert when I grow up. Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
I confess that I woke up about an hour ago after only about 2.5 hours of sleep, and couldn't fall back asleep. I'm pretty sure this is because I'm like a kid on Christmas morning about my weekend away with my girlfriends. I recognize this is a little ridiculous, and I will definitely be regretting it (and be forced to compensate with ridiculously overpriced redbull vodkas) 12 hours from now.
I read through the thread, and I'm just going to go ahead and agree with everything Desert said, because she said it all do much better than I could have.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:52d38d6c-cc72-4970-b247-47293a7407fc">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I don't love WR threads, but I have enough common sense to just not read them if I'm not in the mood. Same with any other thread or poster I'm not into. It's really not that difficult. However, I think my annoyance hit an all time high when (Tiger, PLEASE don't take this personally, I have a feeling this is something you'll be able to laugh about, but I apologize if you are hurt by this) Tiger made a whole thread about possibly changing the color of her bridesmaids dresses from one blue to another and it was like the.biggest.deal.ever. I was like, is this what it's like to plan a wedding? You go crazy over things that really truly don't matter in the grand scheme of things? I will say that these posts annoy me less on this board when we all know the ins and outs of each others wedding plans. It annoys me sooo much more in my month board and the chit chat board where people are asking legitimate strangers about their color schemes. Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
<div>I am not offended at all. I actually laughed out loud because in the moment, it did feel like a BFD... In the grand scheme of life, is it? Nope. But when you're bored at work 90% of the time, and you're planning a wedding, these are the decisions that consume you (i.e. ME).</div><div> </div><div><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:82d56ba0-9f77-4c53-94b2-e07016860b67">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : When I grow up I wanna be famous... Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]
I wanna be a star, I wanna be in movies. When I grow up, I wanna see the world, drive nice cars, I wanna have boobies.<div> </div><div>No really, I do.</div>
I confess that when I'm in a bad mood I don't eat. I'm in a bit of a blah mood right now so I'm getting an extra mug of coffee and skipping lunch food.
I confess that I'm in a blah mood because bf said something that really hurt me last night and didn't offer any explanation. He said "I feel like we are an old married couple." I asked if he thought I was boring and he said no, wouldnt say anything else, and got out of bed a half hour later. I was up all night upset about it.
I confess I'm probably more upset because that phrase (old married couple) was the straw that broke the camels back with my last relationship. I don't even know what it means since no one has ever explained it to me and I'm sure it has different meanings for different people. But since I've heard it twice I assume it has to do with my personality and I have no idea how to fix it.
I confess that I worry about my chosen career. Accounting doesn't interest me much and I pretty much gave up on getting my CPA after failing the first test by one point.
I confess that I have nothing left to do at work today other than file papers and my back is killing me from slouching over papers all morning!!
I confess I'm a negative nancy today, sorry!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:a0201d06-d878-438a-b805-9c74417abede">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I love hearing about people's wedding stuff, even the little stuff. It's fun to watch people plan their weddings :) <strong>ETA: I confess that I feel like because I haven't met anyone from the board IRL I'm not as much a part of the board as everyone else. Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE] </strong> <div>I confess that I feel like this sometimes too. There are lot of people that seem to have become good friends fast and it's hard for me to do that. Even IRL. Most of my very best friends I've had since I was in H.S (over 11 years ago). My very best friend I've known since 6th grade. I like everyone here but I feel like it's me that I haven't become BFF's with anyone here. I wish I were the type of person that made close friends super fast.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessions-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6acfa516-5e77-4fe4-a1fa-3558fa2d1ec9Post:889339ab-dd7f-4416-ad86-52a1739869e9">Re: Confessions</a>: [QUOTE]I confess that when I'm in a bad mood I don't eat. I'm in a bit of a blah mood right now so I'm getting an extra mug of coffee and skipping lunch food. I confess that I'm in a blah mood because bf said something that really hurt me last night and didn't offer any explanation. He said "<strong>I feel like we are an old married couple.</strong>" I asked if he thought I was boring and he said no, wouldnt say anything else, and got out of bed a half hour later. I was up all night upset about it. I confess I'm probably more upset because that phrase (old married couple) was the straw that broke the camels back with my last relationship. I don't even know what it means since no one has ever explained it to me and I'm sure it has different meanings for different people. But since I've heard it twice I assume it has to do with my personality and I have no idea how to fix it. I confess that I worry about my chosen career. Accounting doesn't interest me much and I pretty much gave up on getting my CPA after failing the first test by one point. I confess that I have nothing left to do at work today other than file papers and my back is killing me from slouching over papers all morning!! I confess I'm a negative nancy today, sorry! Posted by wink0erin[/QUOTE]
<div>While I'm not sure how he meant it, that phrase can mean a LOT of things. It can mean you've gotten into a routine, that you can finish each other's sentences, that you know what the other person's reaction to something is going to be, or that you've withstood the test of time and trials.</div><div> </div><div>Don't get down, but do communicate with him about it... he should be able to explain what he meant by that.</div>
Re: Confessions
[QUOTE]I confess that I ate mac and cheese for breakfast.
Posted by hellotarra[/QUOTE]
I confess that I can't even remember the last time I had mac and cheese so I am super jealous!
Also, the whining about FFF is getting old. If you don't like it don't participate.
[QUOTE]1. I confess that I'm sad that I'm not on the board nearly as much as I used to be. We have new goals and expectations at work that keep me pretty focused all day. So of course- I don't feel as close to the board, which makes me sad. I also feel as if some people's opionins of me has changed...I don't know why I feel this way- I really don't have a good reason. 2. I hardly ever have sexytime- and I'm usually pretty okay with it. I have like zero sex drive. I'm looking into this... 3. I confess that tdwpg1984- I think it's sad that you think you have the best boyfriend in the whole world....but you don't think that gorgeous sapphire set that he bought you for Christmas was good enough. Do you think you are the best girlfriend in the world? 4. I want to love myself more. I want to accept myself. I want to believe I'm beautiful. 5. I think there is a possibility that FFF changed the board dyanmic. ::shrugs:: I think I probably stopped posting quite a bit after I posted a few WR things...I felt ashamed that we kept changing our plans. And then I got to the point where <strong>I didn't feel like anyone really cared about the WR stuff</strong>...so I just stopped posting about it.
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
I loved reading about your ideas for the wedding... possible train ride, wine cork STDs, gorgeous colors and flowers... I thought you quit posting about it because you got busy... but if you have any updates, please share!
[QUOTE]You're right Elle, the point has beeen made by a few of us and I don't think we're going to change any minds. It was just brought up again today because people are noticing that the board has been quieter, and people felt comfortable confessing that they had reconsidered posting some things because of FFF. I'm okay to stop talking about it. I confess that I'm really, really hunry and I want to eat unhealthy things for lunch (shocking). <strong>I confess that I wonder if being a mod will change Liv's posting style. Really a curiousity, more than anything else, because I think you bring so much to the board, Liv. I confess that I've done NOTHING productive at work today.</strong>
Posted by polo1425[/QUOTE]
<div>I don't think so. I think what makes Liv a great person to mod is that she's always so level headed with her advice, criticism, and critique. Even if she disagrees with you she'll say it respectfully. I think she'll be great b/c she's good at letting people "fight it out" but I think she'll be fair when/if things get out of hand. I think she'll stick up for a reg, ALWAYS, but she'll also stick up for a newb if someone goes over the line. I hate to quote this particular (non) news source, but Liv is the epitome of "Fair and Balanced" </div><div>
</div><div>Haha, That made me laugh, but it's true. </div>
Here's my 2 cents --
Words can hurt. It's important to keep that in mind, and be a person who treats others with respect and compassion.
Always agreeing with people b/c you don't want to hurt them is not the same thing as being compassionate or even being kind.
Truth hurts sometimes.
It's important to have people who will speak truth to you, b/c it helps you be a better, stronger person.
It's also important to know yourself and have confidence in yourself.
There's a fine balance between being strong in yourself and being humble enough to listen to others and learn from them. I think that balance is called wisdom. And sometimes maturity.
There's also a difference between trying to be constructive in what you say to others, and tearing others down for some other reason.
We don't all have to be BFFs here. And if you can't be yourself on the internet, you might think about what that says about you.
It's a natural human impulse to want to be liked, but it's meaningless to be liked for something or someone other than who you really are.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I confess that I'm getting a little tired of reading this. It's not you, Jem. It's just that this point has been made multiple times over the past several weeks, and not just in FFF threads.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
I agree, and I'm probably one of the people who has brought it up a few times (I'm forgetful of what I've posted already, or if I just thought about posting it). But I guess I just mentioned it again because the conversation had gone that way. I'll try to remember next time that I've already spoke my peace on the issue, lol.
[QUOTE]On a more calm and rational note - Ely and Tiger, your flames were not justified, and people came to your defense. So I wouldn't put too much stock into one person saying "Oh god you're soooo annoying" when no one else agrees. I confess I'm still at home and taking my sweet time to go to work today. I confess I don't want to go out at all this weekend so I can do homework, and so I can save all my fun WW points for brunch on Sunday with Rdr and some special guests. I confess that I'm okay with FI going to some island for his friend's bachelor party because I think it means he won't have cell phone service, so I don't have to deal with his drunken antics while he's there. :) Also if he goes, <strong>then I'm totally coming to AZ for the G2G</strong>.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
<div>Do this.</div>
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I confess that I'm sort of glad FI is going to be out of town all weekend for drill. I feel like I need some me-time.
[QUOTE]RDR - I've decided I'm going home. Not immediately. BF is flying down tonight, and I have my interviews on the 27th. But if they place me immediately, I'm going home like, as soon as I fly back. I can't be here anymore. Mom thinks it's because of BF. While he does play a role, he doesn't decide for me, and I'm just not comfortable here. I haven't been since I got here. It took me three days to figure out that I don't want to do this for the rest of my life. I don't need to waste the rest of my money torturing myself. And I'm tired of being dependent on my parents. I'm 22. It's time for me to grow up and get a job and support myself. I know that a lot of people on this board put a lot of emphasis on living alone. <strong> I cannot do it. I turn into a hermit crab, my eating habits go to shiit, and I end up hating the world. </strong> I confess that I'm afraid to tell BF that the reason I'm so paranoid about money when I come home is because I want to know that I can hold myself afloat. I confess that I know how worried he is, and while I understand how worried he is, I don't care. I confess that I love that he wants me to only work one job so that we can spend evenings and weekends together, but it irritates me that he doesn't seem to understand why I feel the need to constantly work. I confess that I don't talk about my issues because I feel like I'd seriously be flamed by everyone on this board right now. I confess that all I want to do right now is cry again.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]
I had a really hard time learning to be on my own, too.
I lived apart from my parents from the time I was 18 on. I was at home for 2 summers, and had roommates a couple times. It took me until I was 24-25 to be good at being on my own.
Sometimes you can't figure it out within a couple weeks or a couple months. It can take years.
But knowing that that is something you can do will give you a strength that very little else can.
I confess that I worry about you, Peek. I think you give a good impression of someone with a lot of self-confidence, but I don't know how much of it is genuine. It concerns me that you went from one serious relationship into another that has quickly become rather serious.
If you want to be a grown up, then I think finding a job, supporting yourself, and living alone for at least a year, even if you continue to date your BF, would be really good for you. Do things by yourself. Have nights in your place without your BF.
My H and I dated each other for a year before moving in together, and that time of dating but not living together was a really interesting time of learning ourselves and each other, and I look back now and realize just how valuable it was for each of us to live independently and have our own space while we were working on building our relationship with each other.
The extra expense of each having your own place is completely worth it.
That said, this is as always JMO. I fully support your right to make your own decisions, and I wish you nothing but the best. <3
[QUOTE]1. I confess that I'm sad that I'm not on the board nearly as much as I used to be. We have new goals and expectations at work that keep me pretty focused all day. So of course- I don't feel as close to the board, which makes me sad. <strong>I also feel as if some people's opionins of me has changed..</strong>.I don't know why I feel this way- I really don't have a good reason. 2. I hardly ever have sexytime- and I'm usually pretty okay with it. I have like zero sex drive. I'm looking into this... 3. I confess that tdwpg1984- I think it's sad that you think you have the best boyfriend in the whole world....but you don't think that gorgeous sapphire set that he bought you for Christmas was good enough. Do you think you are the best girlfriend in the world? 4. <strong>I want to love myself more</strong>. I want to accept myself. I want to believe I'm beautiful. 5. I think there is a possibility that FFF changed the board dyanmic. ::shrugs:: I think I probably stopped posting quite a bit after I posted a few WR things...I felt ashamed that we kept changing our plans. And then I got to the point where<strong> I didn't feel like anyone really cared about the WR stuff...</strong>so I just stopped posting about it.
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
<div>1. Mine hasn't. I miss you, though. </div><div>
</div><div>2. I hope you find a way to do this. You're worth it!</div><div>
</div><div>3. I care, and I'm guessing there are others that do, too... so definitely share when you feel like it!</div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Do this.
Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]
DO IT. FOR SERIOUS. YOU KNOW YOU WANT TO.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I had a really hard time learning to be on my own, too. I lived apart from my parents from the time I was 18 on. I was at home for 2 summers, and had roommates a couple times. It took me until I was 24-25 to be good at being on my own. Sometimes you can't figure it out within a couple weeks or a couple months. It can take years. But knowing that that is something you can do will give you a strength that very little else can. I confess that I worry about you, Peek. I think you give a good impression of someone with a lot of self-confidence, but I don't know how much of it is genuine. It concerns me that you went from one serious relationship into another that has quickly become rather serious. If you want to be a grown up, then I think finding a job, supporting yourself, and living alone for at least a year, even if you continue to date your BF, would be really good for you. Do things by yourself. Have nights in your place without your BF. My H and I dated each other for a year before moving in together, and that time of dating but not living together was a really interesting time of learning ourselves and each other, and I look back now and realize just how valuable it was for each of us to live independently and have our own space while we were working on building our relationship with each other. The extra expense of each having your own place is completely worth it. That said, this is as always JMO. I fully support your right to make your own decisions, and I wish you nothing but the best. <3
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]
I think this is really wise and loving advice.
I confess that I was really proud of myself yesterday for opting for water and a gronala bar that I already had at the office instead of going to Starbucks to get a fatty coffee and danish. But then not so glad that not only did I bake mac n cheese for dinner, but I put bacon in it (but it was soooo good).
I confess that I'm really excited to meet everyone that's coming to the G2G in May (thanks desert!). I've said before, but I'm really bad at forming one-on-one friendships online without being able to put a name to a face first, so it'll be nice to get to know more people on here. Plus, it'll be fun.
ETA: I confess that I feel like because I haven't met anyone from the board IRL I'm not as much a part of the board as everyone else.
I'm not always in the mood to read WR threads, mostly b/c I prefer when people ask for opinions instead of saying, "Look at my venue!" It's more fun for me to feel like I'm part of the decision-making process.
BUT I do also sometimes really enjoy WR threads.
Post what you want, girls. Stop worrying so much about what other people think. Be yourselves, talk about the stuff that's important to you. And that goes for me, too -- I said something yesterday about not wanting to go overboard with baby and pregnancy posts b/c I didn't think the board would be too into it. But dammit, if I want to talk about being pregnant or about my baby, I'm going to DO IT! Haters be damned.
[QUOTE]I just want to add FTR that it makes me sad that people stopped posting WR stuffs. I'm not always in the mood to read WR threads, mostly b/c I prefer when people ask for opinions instead of saying, "Look at my venue!" It's more fun for me to feel like I'm part of the decision-making process. BUT I do also sometimes really enjoy WR threads. Post what you want, girls. Stop worrying so much about what other people think. Be yourselves, talk about the stuff that's important to you. And that goes for me, too -- <strong>I said something yesterday about not wanting to go overboard with baby and pregnancy posts b/c I didn't think the board would be too into it. But dammit, if I want to talk about being pregnant or about my baby, I'm going to DO IT! Haters be damned. :)</strong>
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]
FTR I would love more baby posts from you! I agree with everything else in this post too.
[QUOTE]I just want to add FTR that it makes me sad that people stopped posting WR stuffs. I'm not always in the mood to read WR threads, mostly b/c I prefer when people ask for opinions instead of saying, "Look at my venue!" It's more fun for me to feel like I'm part of the decision-making process. BUT I do also sometimes really enjoy WR threads. Post what you want, girls. Stop worrying so much about what other people think. Be yourselves, talk about the stuff that's important to you. And that goes for me, too -- I said something yesterday about not wanting to go overboard with baby and pregnancy posts b/c I didn't think the board would be too into it. But dammit, if I want to talk about being pregnant or about my baby, I'm going to DO IT! Haters be damned. :)
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]
I'm never going to stop posting WR stuff. And if I get flamed for it, I'll probably just step up the posting a little more. Bwahahaha.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I'm never going to stop posting WR stuff. And if I get flamed for it, I'll probably just step up the posting a little more. Bwahahaha.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
<div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">LOL... don't make me post pictures of my half-finished brooch bouquet.</div></div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : LOL... don't make me post pictures of my half-finished brooch bouquet.
Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]
DO IT. Now. Here.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : As always, I just want to say that I want to be Desert when I grow up.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
When I grow up I wanna be famous...
[QUOTE]I don't love WR threads, but I have enough common sense to just not read them if I'm not in the mood. Same with any other thread or poster I'm not into. It's really not that difficult. However, I think my annoyance hit an all time high when (Tiger, PLEASE don't take this personally, I have a feeling this is something you'll be able to laugh about, but I apologize if you are hurt by this) Tiger made a whole thread about possibly changing the color of her bridesmaids dresses from one blue to another and it was like the.biggest.deal.ever. I was like, is this what it's like to plan a wedding? You go crazy over things that really truly don't matter in the grand scheme of things? I will say that these posts annoy me less on this board when we all know the ins and outs of each others wedding plans. It annoys me sooo much more in my month board and the chit chat board where people are asking legitimate strangers about their color schemes.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
<div>I am not offended at all. I actually laughed out loud because in the moment, it did feel like a BFD... In the grand scheme of life, is it? Nope. But when you're bored at work 90% of the time, and you're planning a wedding, these are the decisions that consume you (i.e. ME).</div><div>
</div><div><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : When I grow up I wanna be famous...
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]
I wanna be a star, I wanna be in movies. When I grow up, I wanna see the world, drive nice cars, I wanna have boobies.<div>
</div><div>No really, I do.</div>
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[QUOTE]I love hearing about people's wedding stuff, even the little stuff. It's fun to watch people plan their weddings :) <strong>ETA: I confess that I feel like because I haven't met anyone from the board IRL I'm not as much a part of the board as everyone else.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]
</strong>
<div>I confess that I feel like this sometimes too. There are lot of people that seem to have become good friends fast and it's hard for me to do that. Even IRL. Most of my very best friends I've had since I was in H.S (over 11 years ago). My very best friend I've known since 6th grade. I like everyone here but I feel like it's me that I haven't become BFF's with anyone here. I wish I were the type of person that made close friends super fast.</div>
[QUOTE]I confess that when I'm in a bad mood I don't eat. I'm in a bit of a blah mood right now so I'm getting an extra mug of coffee and skipping lunch food. I confess that I'm in a blah mood because bf said something that really hurt me last night and didn't offer any explanation. He said "<strong>I feel like we are an old married couple.</strong>" I asked if he thought I was boring and he said no, wouldnt say anything else, and got out of bed a half hour later. I was up all night upset about it. I confess I'm probably more upset because that phrase (old married couple) was the straw that broke the camels back with my last relationship. I don't even know what it means since no one has ever explained it to me and I'm sure it has different meanings for different people. But since I've heard it twice I assume it has to do with my personality and I have no idea how to fix it. I confess that I worry about my chosen career. Accounting doesn't interest me much and I pretty much gave up on getting my CPA after failing the first test by one point. I confess that I have nothing left to do at work today other than file papers and my back is killing me from slouching over papers all morning!! I confess I'm a negative nancy today, sorry!
Posted by wink0erin[/QUOTE]
<div>While I'm not sure how he meant it, that phrase can mean a LOT of things. It can mean you've gotten into a routine, that you can finish each other's sentences, that you know what the other person's reaction to something is going to be, or that you've withstood the test of time and trials.</div><div>
</div><div>Don't get down, but do communicate with him about it... he should be able to explain what he meant by that.</div>
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