I'd be judged because...

Lenore2010 · September 2010

1.My wild past and kinky present.

2.Being too fat.

3.Driving an old car.

4.My house.

jennylove810 · September 2010

1.) I LOVEEE beauty pageants
2.) My favorite vacation spot is Disney World
3.) I still have my baby blanket.. I don't sleep with it but it's still in my closet

jennylove810 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I feel like I'm judged because I'm not "technically" using my college degree. I hate when people ask what I do because I don't feel like my job is respected.
Posted by COkristi[/QUOTE]

Oh, this absolutely for me as well.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

the fact that we rent and don't plan on buying for awhile

not wanting kids

my tattoos

how little money I make, and along with this, how little we spent on our wedding

my lack of empathy for most people

I don't party and have no desire to converse with drunk people at said parties.

Honestly, most stuff. I'm kind of a bitch and people tend to judge all aspects of that.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

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[QUOTE]3.) I still have my baby blanket.. I don't sleep with it but it's still in my closet
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]

I still have my Bear Bear stuffed animal from my first Christmas. He sits on my headboard. And I still sleep with Brother Bear, his brother I got for my second Christmas. I totally do not judge you for your blanket.

number55 · September 2010

I feel like I could be judged for

- how much money the wedding is costing (especially by FIs family)

- being Christian (by my family and some of my friends)

- not wanting to be a 'party girl'...I am very low key, rather stay at home then go out and get wasted. Sometimes I think some people (like my MOH/best friend, or FIs friends) think that I am a loser/old lady.

- not being sure if we want kids. It's like we have to have it all figured out already.

- how we spend our money.

- doing donations instead of a favour (so much so that I am second guessing myself).

- that I spent too little on my dress.

- that I don't wear any makeup in general, or do my hair unless there is an 'event' worth doing it for.

I think that is enough.

NatesGirl16 · September 2010

Probably a lot:

1. How much the wedding is costing. We're not spending a lot for what things cost here at all, but it would probably blow some people's minds that what we're spending for "ond day."

2. The fact that I'm willing to write papers for my friends, despite being a teacher. I guess I've been in school (myself) for long enough to be really jaded about whether my profs really read anything (I have a handful of specific incidents where I could prove they didn't even read the paper, but I did well so it didn't matter) before grading it. I feel guilty because I am a teacher and believe in academic integrity, but if a friend needs help, I see it as a necessary evil.

3. My weight. I'm 5'3" and a size 12 (I know this came up the other day, too, but it's a IRL concern also) and I definitiely feel judged if I eat less than healthy food around people.

JennaV26 · September 2010

- I overdress for everything
- How much I go out each weekend
- How much our wedding cost
- I talk to my dog
- I dance in my car.. big time
- I go out with my hair wet to run errands because it's naturally straight so I like to avoid drying it whenever possible

rhodesign · September 2010

The kids thing is definitely damned if you do/damned if you don't.
That said, I'd get judged for:

--wanting only one kid (about 85% sure)
--being married to a white guy (I get the side-eye from black guys a lot)
--how clean (or rather not so clean) my house is currently
--that I want to lose weight yet plan on having a burger and beer for dinner. (hell yeah I am!)
--that I'd rather not work my current job and instead would spend my time doing freelance projects and running my side-business, volunteering and raising a kid

number55 · September 2010

oh, one to add...

people often comment that FI 'got off easy' because he didn't have to buy me an e-ring and that bugs me. Someone actually once commented that he should have to buy me something else because he didn't have to buy me a ring. #1 the ring was my mom's and she was my best friend and I am honoured to wear it. #2 it makes me feel like I have to be given something expensive to show how much he loves me.

NatesGirl16 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]- I overdress for everything - How much I go out each weekend - How much our wedding cost - I talk to my dog - I dance in my car.. big time - <strong>I go out with my hair wet to run errands because it's naturally straight so I like to avoid drying it whenever possible</strong>
Posted by JennaV26[/QUOTE]

Ditto, except I have naturally curly hair and avoid straightening it on crappy weather days (like today), which means I run around with wet hair a lot.

JennaV26 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'd be judged because... : Ditto, except I have naturally curly hair and avoid straightening it on crappy weather days (like today), which means I run around with wet hair a lot.
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]

I do all the time in the summer. I do get somewhat self-conscious when it reaches that almost-dry stage where it just looks like I haven't washed it in days instead of it looking wet but I can't help it! We're saving our hair some mega damage!

number55 · September 2010

oh...

I feel judged at the gym sometimes because I am a 'bigger' girl (I am also a size 12) and yet I lift weights. I am by far the biggest girl in the weightlifting area and sometimes I feel like guys (and all the tiny girls) are looking at me and laughing because I do all the same stuff as them but I still have plenty of meat on me...and by meat I mean fat.

jamiefour · September 2010

I also forgot that FI is 5 and a half years younger then me. I know people judge me for this but I don't even think about it.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

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[QUOTE]oh... I feel judged at the gym sometimes because I am a 'bigger' girl (I am also a size 12) and yet I lift weights. I am by far the biggest girl in the weightlifting area and sometimes I feel like guys (and all the tiny girls) are looking at me and laughing because I do all the same stuff as them but I still have plenty of meat on me...and by meat I mean fat.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Weight is another one of those lose-lose things, like kids. I'm about 105, and am constantly judged because people always think I have an eating disorder. Especially since I love junk food. It's hard to be happy with the way you look when people judge you no matter your weight.

NatesGirl16 · September 2010

Sesh--so right. This happens to one of my friends all the time and it's equally frustrating. If she eats a cheeseburger, people are all "Oh, good, you need to gain weight!" And I feel like I'm getting the side eye. Both suck.

Jaime--It's a good thing you aren't bothered by it! My friend was in a long term relationship with someone who was 6 years younger than her and sepnt a least most of the time they were together freaking out about the age difference. It caused a lot of their problems.

cupcakesfrosting · September 2010

1) I'm the biggest person in my family. My family constantly judges me, and my "friends" tell me I don't need that second helping of dinner.. Well, I'm still hungry, deal with it. No I'm not 100% proud / comfortable with my body, but I'm not uncomfortable enough to starve myself.

2) FI's and my age difference

3) The fact that FI and I are broke. I mean broke broke. I ripped my work pants, and can't afford to buy another pair, so I have to Macgyver it for the time being. I also have holes in my work shoes, and can't afford another pair.

number55 · September 2010

Jaime...same problem with us...I am 32, FI turns 26 tomorrow...lots of judgement around that.

Another one: FI and I met, started dating, starting living together and got engaged very quickly...and he ended an 8 year relationship with his ex in doing so...

cupcakesfrosting · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Jaime...same problem with us...I am 32, FI turns 26 tomorrow...lots of judgement around that. <strong>Another one: FI and I met, started dating, starting living together and got engaged very quickly...and he ended an 8 year relationship with his ex in doing so...</strong>
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Almost EXACTLY this for me too..

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Number--do you mean people judge you for your FI being younger (in that, they think the guy should be older in a relationship) or for the age difference in general? My H is 7 years older than me and as far as I know, no one cares.

leia1979 · September 2010

1. I don't want kids. Man, people look at me like I'm either a delusional teenager (I'm 30) or an alien if I say that. Let's just say I don't bring it up unless it's a direct question. And I don't think I'm going to change my mind, thankyouverymuch.

2. I don't particularly like children, stupid people, or drunk people.

3. I don't like alcohol.

4. I'm a pescatarian (I eat fish but no land animals).

jamiefour · September 2010

I think it is more of a double standard. If FI was 5 and a half years older no one would bat an eye, but because I am older people think it is weird. He was 20 when we met and I was 25.

K Byte · September 2010

I get judged a lot (by women especially) for being a gamer. There's a lot of eyerolling and omg you must have no life comments.

I don't really have any career goals and I think I would kind of love being a part-time stay at home wife/mom and work only part time, 25 hours a week or so. I hate that my job now is 8-5 even though we get an hour lunch and 2 shorter breaks. I feel like it takes up my whole day. I've never been very career oriented really.

K Byte · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I think it is more of a double standard. If FI was 5 and a half years older no one would bat an eye, but because I am older people think it is weird. He was 20 when we met and I was 25.
Posted by jamiefour[/QUOTE]

My mom is 6 years older than my dad and some people think that's weird but it worked out well for them, they've been married 27 years :D

number55 · September 2010

yes, it is because he is younger than me.

My dad was 12 years older than my mom and he is 20 years older than his new wife. Nobody really thinks that is weird. But I am sure I will always get the side eye for being older than FI.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

My dad was a good 13 years older than his third wife. He was definitely judged for that, considering she was 8 when I was born. But she was also a raging bitch, so there's that.

katiewhompus · September 2010

Scott is 10 years older than me, but surprisingly I haven't seen a lot of judgement. I think just because he looks younger and I look older, so most people assume we're both just in our late 20's. We did get a major side eye when we first applied for a home loan though and put in 1973 and 1984 as our birthdays. The lender was like "Um, just to double check, that's 73 and 84 correct?"

I never ever dry my hair. I actually don't even own a hair dryer. It's really long and thick and would take forever, and just frizzes.

cupcakesfrosting · September 2010

Katie, I JUST bought my first hair dryer about a month ago.. Haha.. I got bangs, and without a dryer, they stick straight out, and they dry all funny.. I hate it. The bangs are the only thing I dry though..

katiewhompus · September 2010

I also have a degree I haven't used with the exception of a 3 month paid internship just after graduation college. I was talking to dad about it the other day and he goes "Well, were you happy getting the degree?"
And you know what, maybe I will never ever use my archaeology degree ever again, but damnit I had fun. How many people in this world can say they worked as a professional archaeologist on two Presidential homes, numerous prehistoric VA sites and over 5 Civil War sites, and have the opportunity to publish a site report on a very important Civil War site? Not too many.

ricksang · September 2010

My past job.
Some of my political views.
My vanity

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