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What TWO do!?!?
My fiance and I are in a long distance relationship (I'm in NY and he is in AZ), as hard as that is, on top of it he is in the Navy... We plan on getting married in January, and then having a formal ceremony after his next tour. SO, how can I satisfy both sides of friends and family?
I was thinking when we get married in AZ to have a semi - formal gathering, and then a formal wedding in NY. Chris, my fiance, thinks this may be awkward. I didn't think so given the situation?
Am I just blind to the awkwardness, so I can plan for two affairs?? lol
I need help!!
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Re: What TWO do!?!?
Just in case this is not an AE....SouthernBender, why do you feel you need/deserve two "weddings"?? Just have one wedding. Any more than that is a Vow Renewal, not a second wedding.
[QUOTE]My fiance and I are in a long distance relationship (I'm in NY and he is in AZ), as hard as that is, on top of it he is in the Navy... We plan on getting married in January, and then having a formal ceremony after his next tour. SO, how can I satisfy both sides of friends and family? I was thinking when we get married in AZ to have a semi - formal gathering, and then a formal wedding in NY. Chris, my fiance, thinks this may be awkward. I didn't think so given the situation? <strong>Am I just blind to the awkwardness, so I can plan for two affairs??</strong> lol I need help!!
Posted by SouthernBenderAffair[/QUOTE]
<div>Uhm, a part of me thinks so. Okay, I might sound a little bitchy but I'm a bit buzzed from dinner still. </div><div>
</div><div>Look OP, you are not some special snowflake because your FI is in the Navy. Many of us have been there or are that situation right now. My H was staioned in Japan at the time we were planning, but he is originally from WA and has majority of his family there and in OR. I was living in Vegas at the time but had family scattered throughout California and other states. We realized we obviously cannot please all sides and did what was best for us. We chose to have the wedding because that's where I was and it made the planning easier on me. We invited everyone to it and we knew that although not all our families could come, they wished us well. </div><div>
</div><div>Also, you can't be married and have another wedding again. Not legally possible but you could get married and throw a party after that as a celebration. No gifts or other wedding events needed. IMO, you should just have the wedding in NY and that's it or somewhere that's DW. </div>
Yes, I think it would be awkward to have two weddings. If you think your friends and family in NY won't be willing to make the trip to AZ for your wedding, I think it would be fine for you to have some type of informal get together in NY to spend time with your fam and friends there as the new Mr. and Mrs., but it would not be a whole other wedding since you'd already be married. Or you could have a vow renewal, but I feel like that might be awkward too if you haven't even been married that long.
Edit: OP, while I don't agree with having two weddings, I admire your play on words for the subject of your post.
YUP.
But your FI is right. Just saying'.
[QUOTE]In Response to What TWO do!?!? : Uhm, a part of me thinks so. Okay, I might sound a little bitchy but I'm a bit buzzed from dinner still. Look OP, <strong>you are not some special snowflake because your FI is in the Navy.</strong> Many of us have been there or are that situation right now. My H was staioned in Japan at the time we were planning, but he is originally from WA and has majority of his family there and in OR. I was living in Vegas at the time but had family scattered throughout California and other states. We realized we obviously cannot please all sides and did what was best for us. We chose to have the wedding because that's where I was and it made the planning easier on me. We invited everyone to it and we knew that although not all our families could come, they wished us well. Also, you can't be married and have another wedding again. Not legally possible but you could get married and throw a party after that as a celebration. No gifts or other wedding events needed. IMO, you should just have the wedding in NY and that's it or somewhere that's DW.
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]
Whatever Kara!! We're all special snowflakes because we're military SOs!!! We all deserve as many weddings as we want!!
Good one.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What TWO do!?!? : Whatever Kara!! We're all special snowflakes because we're military SOs!!! We all deserve as many weddings as we want!!
Posted by BinxRose[/QUOTE]
AND THE MILITARY IS GOING TO PAY FOR AS MANY WEDDINGS AS I WANT! IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!!!!! ;)
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I really have no idea why you would find me to be a "lurker". Appreciate it.
I signed up in hopes of getting some friendly insight on the situation, because I know other people have gone through it and I have not. Do my queries really warrant comments implying that I am "special" or harsh criticism?
Some of you posters out there, need to realize that just because you've had SOME experiences that varies from others, does not imply that they are lurkers, or are searching for gratification or even looking to be praised by strangers. Maybe you should be pleaseant and offer your experiences to others... ( just a thought)
Oh and also I did offer my experience. Did you read anything else I wrote?
When Ggirl was talking to lurkers, she was talking to anyone else who may be reading this thread, who may not necessarily actually participate in posting on the board.
In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking other users into a desired emotional response.
Your post sounded very troll-esque.
A few things, I believe you've just proved my point with your responses.
Your attempted jabs at my reading comprehension as well as me being a troll, are uncalled for and unappreciated.
Not everything is about you, yes, I did make a reference to you "lurkers" comment but, it was made in haste, and certainly not intentionally geared towards you as a negative remark.
The entire post really was driven towards the one who refferred to me as a "snowflake", it didnt sit well with me.
On the other hand, I did appreciate that you shared your experience, so thank you for that.