Unpopular Wedding Opinions

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

I loved the way my bms looked in their matching dresses. I think they all look hot and while matching may not be the way to go for every one, I am glad they picked it.

I don't mind when a couple registers for ridiculous registry items (meaning high priced). If you don't want to spend that, then don't. I would prefer people to register for outrageous pillows they will actual use in their married home together than a facial on their honeymoon. In fact, I think it is more ridiculous when people register for things like paper towels than when they register for a high end vacuum.

Now you go...

MarriedInAFever · July 2010

If a couple has a cash bar at their reception, I'm not completely appalled.

Night_Sprite · July 2010

We had a cash bar to respect my father's wishes. In the midwest especially, this is not a big deal.

I also think it's ridiculous when wedding planning is SO HARD. No. It's not. Get organized. Assert yourself with vendors. I think brides who have a SO HARD planning process are disorganized and pushovers.

jasmineh7777 · July 2010

I don't see the point of getting married in a church if neither people are religious.

tonyscutieest09 · July 2010

I don't think cash bars are a bad thing, I have personally never seen a open bar in my area. A lot of people will have a free beer on tap and then liqour is cash and IMO it's completely kosher.

I like the idea of tradtional head table, i.e. just the bridal party.

I also like matching bridesmaid dresses.

pirategal03 · July 2010

I hate tuxes.

sarahmk5 · July 2010

Every wedding I've been to has had a gap. I never knew there was anything wrong with them until TK, and I still don't think they're that bad. In our very Catholic families, it's just what has to be done to have the church wedding and a nice, dinner reception.

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

I don't think it is an unpopular opinion to say you would not be appalled by a cash bar... as far as I can tell most people on here would never hate a bride and groom for it.

That being said, I would be judgy about it and I think that is unpopular.

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

I actually don't see anything wrong with a honeymoon registry, especially if the couple is established and really has no need to register for "traditional" items.

I don't like sweetheart tables.

ETA: I also love line dances.

K Byte · July 2010

I would rather a couple have a cash bar than no bar at all. If budget is that much of a concern that you can't host ANYTHING, I'd like to at least have the option to buy a drink or two.

I like matching bridesmaids dresses too. I've only been to one wedding where they didn't have matching dresses, the girls were just told wear a dress in a shade of dark purple, and I thought the whole look was sort of sloppy. I also think the girls should wear matching shoes if their dresses aren't long enough to mostly cover the shoes.

I don't regret spending (somewhat) big bucks on a designer wedding gown. I tried on a variety of dresses from a little under $1000 to over $3000 and I could completely tell the difference between the less expensive gowns and the more expensive ones, and so could my mom who was shopping with me. I don't consider it a waste of money at all to buy a more expensive gown, as long as you aren't sacrificing your guests' comfort by blowing your budget on attire.

We had all the line dances at our wedding (except the Macarena, hate it!) and they were by far the songs that got people on the dance floor the most.

MarriedInAFever · July 2010

NS, I think you're right about the midwest thing. In fact, the last wedding we went to with an open bar, my FI actually commented, "Oh wow. Beer and wine is included." Cash bars are more the norm about here.

megk8oz · July 2010

I don't get the "wedding planning is so hard" thing. At all.

I planned my wedding in 5 months, with only DH and my mom's help. And my mom really was only there for the dress stuff that I didn't want DH involved in. But my BMs barely knew I was planning a wedding, lol.

It was a nice wedding and everything came out great. Even on such a limited amount of time, I never found myself all overwhelmed and stressed out thinking I didn't have enough time. Even in that 5 months, I had several weeks where the only wedding-related thing I did was play on the Knot.

Needless to say, when a girl comes on here with 1-2 years (Sometimes longer) to plan the whole thing and she's flipping out about not having time and needing support from people, I roll my eyes. You do have time, you don't need your hand held, you're just being a drama queen and an AW.

AdeleDazeem · July 2010

I hate when people say they are having a private wedding and a larger reception and everyone is all "why don't you invite everyone to both????" Shut up, please. If they are only having immediate family (< 20 people) at the ceremony and then a larger reception, that is is their choice. Some people don't want their vows to be part of a circus.

Now... if the ceremony is having 40 people and the reception 200, then that is bad and they need to know.

Knittibell · July 2010

I'm not appalled by a cash bar, but I like to know in advance there will be one, since I usually don't bring money to a wedding.

I really hate silk flowers. I just hate them. I've offered to show a couple of local girls how to make bouquets. Hell, I'd even spend the $15 on a bouquet of supermarket roses for them, just so they had real flowers! I just hate silk flowers. Ugh.

COkristi · July 2010

Gaps don't bother me either, a lot of my friends are Catholic and that's how they have to schedule it if they want an evening reception. I think they're fully aware that we go to a bar in between though, and will likely show up buzzed to the reception if it's a large gap.

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_unpopular-wedding-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:2b3e3c99-be76-4033-81e4-1203415e6535Post:3ebe908d-8ee4-4f11-be3e-b94933e73569">Re: Unpopular Wedding Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't regret spending (somewhat) big bucks on a designer wedding gown. I tried on a variety of dresses from a little under $1000 to over $3000 and I could completely tell the difference between the less expensive gowns and the more expensive ones, and so could my mom who was shopping with me. I don't consider it a waste of money at all to buy a more expensive gown, as long as you aren't sacrificing your guests' comfort by blowing your budget on attire. Posted by K Byte[/QUOTE]

This. A lot. I hate scratchy silk, overprocessed fabric, dull glass beading and frayed lace. The thought of it gives me the shivers.
Although, I may have just shopped at the wrong stores because I have seen plenty of dresses on here for under 1k that look gorgeous.

prideeinpynk · July 2010

I hate roses. I think they look stuffy and overdone. Especially red ones.

I'm also ok with dollar dances, as long as it's a tradition in your family. I like being able to make the couple a little happier by throwing an extra fiver towards them. It's not a big deal, IMHO.

K Byte · July 2010

Gaps don't bother me either. Most of my friends/family are Catholic so it's kind of the norm.

I also agree with jasmine that I don't see the point in a church wedding if you/your FI aren't particularly religious. JMO but I don't think a church should just be a pretty backdrop for your vows.

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

Confession: Gaps bother me less because the whole, "guests are giving up their whole day!11! that is rude!" thing but more because, in my circle, it means people will show up to the wedding already shitfaced from spending the afternoon in a bar. It is what it is, but I don't think any bride wants that.

laurenclaire1386 · July 2010

I also hate tuxes. And sit down dinners. I like to party at weddings, and buffets and passed apps are much more conducive (to me, anyway) to getting the proper amount of champagne in my system.

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

Side bar - is the TOM PETTY in your sig LC? You know, right about Tay?

pirategal03 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_unpopular-wedding-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2b3e3c99-be76-4033-81e4-1203415e6535Post:dda5ca7d-ffe2-421e-bfa0-f39123bda74c">Re: Unpopular Wedding Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Wedding Opinions : This. A lot. I hate scratchy silk, overprocessed fabric, dull glass beading and frayed lace. The thought of it gives me the shivers. Although, I may have just shopped at the wrong stores because I have seen plenty of dresses on here for under 1k that look gorgeous.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

You're not the only one. I almost refused to try some dresses on just based solely on the fabric they were made from. It may have looked nice in photos, but I couldn't stand feeling the fabric.

andyandhillary · July 2010

I don't mind honeymoon registries.

95% of the time I prefer matching BMs as long as they are comfortable with that choice. My BMs didn't like the first one I picked out and that's ok. They chose a different one and it looked amazing on all of them.
**Note** I hate it when people say "They are grown women, they can dress themselves." False. There are a ton of people who look like crap on a day to day basis and are even worse when it comes to special occaisions. Not everyone knows how to dress for their body type, especially. Now, I'm not saying you should force people to wear something and tell them they can't dress themselves but the truth remains, shows like "what not to wear" exist for a reason.

K Byte · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_unpopular-wedding-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2b3e3c99-be76-4033-81e4-1203415e6535Post:05cd80c6-06cd-42d1-a312-e27a01d67f11">Re: Unpopular Wedding Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Wedding Opinions : You're not the only one. I almost refused to try some dresses on just based solely on the fabric they were made from. It may have looked nice in photos, but I couldn't stand feeling the fabric.
Posted by pirategal03[/QUOTE]
Yeah I feel itchy just thinking about it hahaha.

Night_Sprite · July 2010

If you get married in the summer, make your guests comfortable. No one likes sweating in dress clothes. Yuck.

megk8oz · July 2010

For the most part, I kind of hate when couples write their own vows.

If they keep them simple, then I think it's very sweet and a nice personal touch.

But usually it turns into each of them giving a 10 minute speech that's sickeningly gushy and chock full of their own inside jokes (That even their BFFs don't really get). And that makes me want to vomit.

laurenclaire1386 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_unpopular-wedding-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2b3e3c99-be76-4033-81e4-1203415e6535Post:e03f1edc-7f62-4821-a97e-99129f424335">Re: Unpopular Wedding Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]Side bar - is the TOM PETTY in your sig LC? You know, right about Tay?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
Yes ma'am it is. It's a link to my never updated and boring blog. I <3 TP like whoa.

jasmineh7777 · July 2010

Flowers were the thing I cared the absolute least about. Of all the things to spend money on, flowers seem (imo) the most frivolous.

maratea · July 2010

I really like watching the bouquet toss (and participating when I was single).

I think cash bars are fine, and I'd rather pay for a drink I really want than be stuck with beer or wine I don't like.

I think seating charts are somewhat useless and kind of a waste (except maybe for seated dinners). Everyone gets up and moves around anyway.

npasquale16 · July 2010

I do hate a cash bar, but like a lot of peopl are saying, that's more of a regional thing.

I hate that there's a gap between ceremony and reception for my wedding (prob about an 1-1.5), but I'm Catholic, so what can we do? We're hoping everyone will head back to the hotel to grab the shuttle to the reception.

That being said, FI's fam is from Indiana. Now, I'm not saying anything bad about the great people of IN, because they truly are the sweetest people. However, we went to a wedding out there in June and people brought their own beer to drink on the way to the church, on the way back from the church, and on the way to the reception. I did judge that and I'm cringing at the thought of drunkies during my vows. Keep the drinking to the party, please.

luckyme502 · July 2010

I don't mind cash bars. I think dollar dances are fine. I don't care what you register for. I think I planned my wedding in about a week. It wasn't hard at all. If you don't like the ring FI gave you, you should tell him and get a new one. I hate memorials at weddings.

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