Fiance delaying in setting a date, arrg

knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208 · May 2011

Hi ladies - so I got engaged April 9 after being with my fiance for over 5 years (he is a slow mover) and now that we're engaged he keeps pushing me off if I try and talk about setting a date. I keep getting a "give us time to ejoy the proposal" but it's now been almost 2 months and I want to get married within a year. Any tips on how to convince him without attacking him?

redheadfsu · May 2011

Just sit down and ask him when his timeline for getting married is. You two need to communicate. You don't have to set a date this second, but ask him what season/ year is he thinking.

Talk big picture type of stuff. Does he see it as a long engagement or short? Is he thinking four years? or four months? a small backyard wedding or formal church? Is the budget part of the delay? How much time do you need to save? Etc.

breaness · May 2011

He asked you to marry him, so he wants to marry you. If he didn't, he wouldn't have asked. Let him know that you want to get married within a year and why and listen to his reasoning if he disagrees. Being newly engaged is a fun time and wedding planning can be very stressful, so he does have a bit of a point with the 'relax and enjoy it' mentality.

I agree with the other ladies, it's time to start making decisions as a couple rather than being stubborn... so you may both need to compromise a bit. You may need to wait a little longer, and he may just need to suck it up and set a date.

Best of luck!

knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208 · May 2011

Thanks ladies. I'm going to sit down and discuss with him.

Fiance delaying in setting a date, arrg

Re: Fiance delaying in setting a date, arrg

Choose Another Board

Search Boards