Registry Question
jjeanhilton
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Hi all,
Looking for some opinions here 
My FI and I are currently living in SC and our wedding is going to be next Sept. in the Boston area. We've recently moved from up North and that's where all our family and friends are. I have asked that we not have a shower for various reasons. One, it's difficult for me to get time off from work and expensive to fly up, and I want to reserve the limited vacation time I have for the honeymoon. However, various family members have asked that I at least do a registry as they wish to purchase gifts instead of gifting money, because they feel that it is more personable. I do agree with them, but my concern is getting a lot of gifts at the wedding itself and having to ship them all to my home and the cost that is incurred. (It would be more efficient to purchase those gifts with wedding money..)
As a compromise I was thinking of creating a small registry and putting a link to it on our wedding website, and writing a small caption that states that the registry is avilable for those who wish to purchase gifts, though ask that the purchase be made online and shipped to the couples home in lieu of bringing them to the wedding. Though this seems a bit tacky to me. This might appease the few family members that wish to purchase, while not obligating anyone or giving us any added costs. Thoughts?
Re: Registry Question
The vast majority of people have the common sense to ship the gift, but there always will be some who bring a wrapped present to the reception.
Planning Bio! Updated 05.02.12
[QUOTE]I was in the same boat, lived in one state, had the wedding in another. My wedding registry consultant at Bed Bath and Beyond recommended that I just <strong>return any larger items that I couldn't transport, and then re-purchase at a store near my home</strong>. We didn't have that many people bring actual gifts, but the ones that did, it was really helpful to return and repurchase. And since it was recommended by one of the employees, I didn't feel bad doing it.
Posted by Cackle6[/QUOTE]
this. Just as long as the registry has your shipping address, there isn't much more you can do.
I went to a baby shower recently and tried to have the crib mattress shipped from the Toys R' Us store in Nashua, NH (they don't know what they're doing- the associate kept calling the closing mgr and he refused to come to the front of the store and told her to do it on her own even though she didn't know how- we went to a Babies R' Us) to one in FL- they were going to charge an extra $30 to ship a $50 mattress.... total BS. We bought it and wrapped it and told her to just have her parents return it and use the GC to buy it in FL.
[QUOTE]Trust people to have common sense, they will know it would be difficult for you to juggle those gifts home, and the considerate ones will have it shipped to the house without you having to ask. Stores ask you to provide a shipping address when you register, guests are (mostly) smart enough to figure it out. Anything brought to the wedding can be shipped back, or returned and repurchased at home (just be sure to repurchase the same thing).
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]
great idea! It's not something I would do for a whole list, but for the few things that make it the wedding and shipping isn't feasible for, I like!
I plan to keep it small, and where most of those who are requesting we have one are close family I don't mind speaking with them about the logistics.
Thanks everyone :)